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re: The One Thing Missing from Most Relationships (Both Men & Women)
Posted on 2/1/25 at 6:28 pm to Porter Osborne Jr
Posted on 2/1/25 at 6:28 pm to Porter Osborne Jr
58 years old together 25 years.
I have learned to stop trying to control everything and to lead with the heart. Your wife has shite she is feeling and it probably doesn’t make sense to you. Stop trying to convince her. It won’t work and all you are doing is fighting her.
she will respond to empathy even if you don’t understand
I have learned to stop trying to control everything and to lead with the heart. Your wife has shite she is feeling and it probably doesn’t make sense to you. Stop trying to convince her. It won’t work and all you are doing is fighting her.
she will respond to empathy even if you don’t understand
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Posted on 2/1/25 at 6:42 pm to Hussss
Compromise. Goes along with communication. People struggle understanding that marriage is now two equal parts. Each has to be willing to give and take accordingly.
Posted on 2/1/25 at 6:45 pm to Hussss
The OP in weekly therapy
Posted on 2/1/25 at 6:48 pm to Hussss
I tried to understand a strange dick pounding and impregnating little angel. Was I wrong to divorce this innocent child of God???
Posted on 2/1/25 at 7:35 pm to Hussss
quote:Or maybe they just get tired of putting up with each others shite.
Most relationships end from not only lack of communication but from lack of understanding one another.
Posted on 2/1/25 at 7:57 pm to Hussss
That’s because when men show vulnerability, women get the “ick” and dip.
Posted on 2/1/25 at 8:54 pm to Porter Osborne Jr
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I don’t want to seem weak in front of her.
This may be tate manosphere stuff, not sure. Maybe be true for some woman.
It’s probably a balance that is best. woman don’t want some stoic robot, but also not a self deprecating, directionless disappointment.
I’ve always said that vulnerability is the key to all relationships. I know a guy so charismatic, but lacks this one quality and comes off as sleazy, manipulative, untrustworthy, like a used car salesman.
Posted on 2/1/25 at 9:15 pm to Lsupimp
Nobody loves me but my mother,
And she could be jivin, too
BB King
And she could be jivin, too
BB King
Posted on 2/1/25 at 11:31 pm to TT9
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Communication is the key, lose that and ballgame ends quickly.
My wife communicates non stop 24/7. It’s just rarely anything I give a shite about.
Posted on 2/1/25 at 11:46 pm to try me punk
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The mistake is marriage.
People treat each other with more respect when the other person can easily walk.
The disrespect usually starts after marriage, when you know the other person is somewhat trapped.
As someone in a year+ long r healthy relationship, this terrifies me. We plan to move in together soon so that should be helpful to settle my nerves.
Posted on 2/1/25 at 11:49 pm to JackieSonnier
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I’m just not in the mood to have that butthole and tuna cat licked all the time
He must not not be doing it right....
Posted on 2/2/25 at 12:34 am to supadave3
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As someone in a year+ long r healthy relationship, this terrifies me. We plan to move in together soon so that should be helpful to settle my nerves.
You can never truly know someone until you live with them.
Being around someone too often decreases desire (especially in a woman’s eyes).
Back to the original point in making the thread is that I truly think vulnerability has disappeared from most relationships because being connected spiritually has disappeared.
The social media platforms and dating apps have killed spirituality.
I do have another theory on what has also killed spirituality but it is another topic for a later date.
Posted on 2/2/25 at 12:44 am to Hussss
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Most relationships end from not only lack of communication but from lack of understanding one another.
25 years in, here... I think the key is wading through. Everything was so important all the time, earlier on. Nearly divorced 7yrs in... Life, shared experience, time and faith have us where we are now. Vulnerability? Nah... Strength. Strength is far more important to me than vulnerability, or maybe I mean to say strength in the face of vulnerability? I don't need my spouse deep in their feels- not in day to day life.
Posted on 2/2/25 at 12:51 am to Hussss
Vulnerability....Ok, I can go there. Married for over 30 years. I agree with you that it was very difficult for me to let my wife know about my deepest and darkest stuff. Why? I'm not really sure but it helped us because she went there with her equally dark things as well. As a result we figured out something that we both share as a result of that honesty. And I can say that our marriage is stronger as a result.
Posted on 2/2/25 at 8:20 am to Hussss
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Most relationships end from not only lack of communication but from lack of understanding one another.
And competition. Unhealthy competition can make couples vulnerable. It can become unhealthy friction.
Always use lube when there’s potential social friction.
Posted on 2/2/25 at 8:30 am to Willie Stroker
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competition
Ex wife to a “T”
Full of nothing but jealousy and envy after the honeymoon phase
Posted on 2/2/25 at 8:30 am to Porter Osborne Jr
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I know plenty of guys who have let themselves be vulnerable only to have it thrown back in their face later
That's a sure sign of that woman not being the right one. You can't demand trust while proving to be untrustworthy (and that goes both ways).
Posted on 2/2/25 at 8:35 am to Bard
Yep
Ex wife had trust issues and I told her those issues are due to her not trusting herself
Tried telling her numerous times “be the change you want to see.”
When you change the way you see people, those people change.
Of course it fell on deaf ears.
We all create our own reality with our mindset.
She thought our relationship “crumbled” but I had to remind her that the only thing that “crumbled” was her mindset.
Ex wife had trust issues and I told her those issues are due to her not trusting herself
Tried telling her numerous times “be the change you want to see.”
When you change the way you see people, those people change.
Of course it fell on deaf ears.
We all create our own reality with our mindset.
She thought our relationship “crumbled” but I had to remind her that the only thing that “crumbled” was her mindset.
Posted on 2/2/25 at 8:38 am to Hussss
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Vulnerability
The whole fortress of solitude thing gets old. Sometimes you got to put yourself out there, and see what happens.
Posted on 2/2/25 at 8:41 am to Porter Osborne Jr
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I think many men might feel they have never been truly understood by a woman
It’s tough to be vulnerable. I don’t think my wife would care but I don’t want to seem weak in front of her. I know plenty of guys who have let themselves be vulnerable only to have it thrown back in their face later
It's the only way a relationship will thrive. Intimacy can't happen unless we reveal more about ourselves.
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