Terminal Disease and Fighting Hard question

Getting treatment even when it’s painful or difficult. Continuing to try new approaches rather than accepting that you’ll die and there’s nothing that can change.

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, "They fought hard." How do you fight a disease hard? Is it prayer? Having a positive attitude? What indicates someone 'fought hard' against a disease?

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Living life fully, not backing out, taking your treatments, doing what you need to do.

I'm in that group. Undetermined amount of time.

Obviously never seen anyone go through chemo.

Takes some courage to keep doing that even though what it does to you.

I’ll take this one. From personal experience, my lady fought hard, meaning when she received her stage 4 diagnosis she went ahead with every treatment that “might” possibly help. We have kids so she felt the need to “fight” even though it was a losing battle. In hindsight I wish we could’ve approached it differently so that she was here longer but she was determined if there was a chance that she could do something she would try.

Turns out the chemo and immuno therapy was incapable of winning the battle. It’s a battle I’m thankful she fought on behalf of our kids. Sucks when it doesn’t work out though.

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I've never quite understood how this works. And seriously, I'm not trying to be a smart arse here. I genuinely would like to know.

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“Fighting hard” against an illness is more about keeping your spirit alive and not giving up. there is a lot to be said about having the sheer will to live when your body has physically started to give up. You can’t punch a disease but you can certainly not roll over and take it.

I deal with people at the end of life a decent amount. One of the most sad things I frequently see is an otherwise very healthy person losing a spouse of many years only to rapidly deteriorate in health the year after their loss and pass away.

Many times this happens with almost seemingly no biological or health reason. The only thing I’ve been able to equate it to is that they just lose their will to live after their person passes. It’s intangible and I have no way to explain it other than it 100% happens and I see it all the time.

So, as it relates to your question, I see it on the other side too. Take two people who were the same age diagnosed with the exact same terminal condition. There are some that have lost that willpower and just submit to the end and last a couple months even with the treatments. Then there are others that push themselves and make it a year with those same treatments.

I think this is what people are talking about when they say ‘fight.’ There is an intangible mental willpower to live that some people lose in situations of terminal illness for a variety of reasons be it loneliness, loss, or fear. I doubt there’s some study I could pull up to prove this other than I have just witnessed people in the same situation have dramatically different results. The only thing I can attribute it to is that some people just lose that ‘fight’ for some reason or another.

I'm not dying from my stroke even though at times I wish I had. Lying in that hospital bed and in rehab I was telling myself and everyone that would listen I was gonna make the quickest most remarkable recovery in the history of strokes

and then I got out of rehab and couldn't find therapy to save my life and that may be literal and I got depressed so insanely depressed. And I still had to get up every day and do what I could in a lot of days that was nothing more than wiping my own arse and fixing my own dinner but I did that and then with time I got a little better and could do a little more finally in January I was able to start therapy and make real progress .
But if I were to be honest I don't do it out of hope a lot of my fight if you wanna call it that is just out of anger I just refuse to lose I'm not enjoying my life these days I still feel depressed with where I am compared to where I want to be and especially compared to where I was
but the stroke isn't going to win


I imagine a lot of people facing death experience something similar. those that just keep trying even if you know you aren't going to win.
that's their attitude they know the end is gonna come they're not unrealistic they're not crazy but they just have something in them.
stubbornness, anger maybe irrational hope or delusion

for me,the stroke hasn't even been the real challenge,its finding therapy in the pandemic crazed world. All I want is to get better and its not happening cause of all the rues
so you get mad and fight. I guess other experience the same

hell what do I know I have brain damage

Just not laying over and dying.

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You hear a lot after someone dies of an illness they say, "They fought hard." How do you fight a disease hard? Is it prayer? Having a positive attitude? What indicates someone 'fought hard' against a disease?

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When my Mom received her terminal cancer diagnosis she went ahead and with treatment (chemo and later radiation for METs on her brain) in order to try to squeeze as much as she could out of the time she had left.

It was literally a fight for her to live every day that she did when she was in the throws of her disease. She could have very easily given up.

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