re: Teenager Dilemma

Yeah, I would have to same talk my dad had with me.

14yrs old is a little too young.

Simple solution to your dilemma.

Get him a hooker to come to your house.

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This morning about 12:30 am I heard the door open and close so I called him and asked what was going on, he said "I'm going riding with a friend" then stated some girls name

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Cmon baw what the hell is this.

No 14 year old should have this much power

When I stayed out late (not all night) pop's had me up at 6am. He always handed me a rake, shovel, or paint brush.

I must have painted our fence 20 times and I will not pick up a rake ever again.

It means coddling your kids or overreacting and punishing them to harshly never backfires.

No 14, 15, 16 or 17 year old should "tell" any adult he/she is going out at midnight, and no teenager should stay out all night unless they are paying their own damn bills. PERIOD. Your good kid can get in a shite load of trouble very fast with this type independence. He is too young to be this much in control of his whereabouts. You might have a good kid right now, but good luck controlling him in a couple years if he sees he is in control of your household. My 2 are very good kids who got great scholarships, and neither of them would have EVER have told me.. They would have asked at midnight and been told to go to bed... Except for prom. They have enough time to do this fun, and freedom stuff in college.

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I have a 14 year old son and he’s still lights out at 9pm on school nights and 10pm on non school nights.

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That's a little odd to me. I have no idea when my 15 yr old goes to bed. She's a freshman in high school. If she stays up too late she won't do it again tomorrow.

Fourteen is a little young to be staying out all night unless he's camping out with some buddies in someone's parents yard. That's what we used to do before we were old enough to drive. During summers, we "camped out" in someone's back yard a lot from 10-14 years old. One of the times we did it at my house, my dad caught us smoking cigarettes. I heard his bedroom window open, and he yelled, "Boy you better put out that cigarette, or I'll come out there and make your butt smoke."

We always rode our bikes everywhere, including over to camp out. Some parents didn't watch us like a hawk until bedtime. Every time we camped out at one of their houses, we'd ride our bikes all over town in the middle of the night. The city police office was on the courthouse square. One of the dare type things we did was ride past it after midnight.

You could get your driver's license at 15 back then, so the camping out ended once we got our licenses and bought cars.

Sometimes I think it may be better for a kid 16 and older to mess up a little so they don't do it as soon as they get away from your supervision. Some kids that are watched like hawks thru high school go crazy when they get to college.

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No one out after Midnight except drug dealers ,hookers and kids getting in trouble

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My dad said No one except for drunks and cops in the 70's. He was right.

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Tell him to wear a rubber or his life will be over before it begins.

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That’s not entirely accurate. Now, does it make it harder, absolutely but life isn’t “over”