re: Teen who was relentlessly bullied kills herself in front of her family

I have 4 daughters. Aged 17,15,15, and 6.

I can't even tell you how bad girls that age are in piling on each other in social media. The worst are the ones whose stay at home soccer moms get embroiled in the feuds.

My daughter (15) and her boyfriend broke up and it was a shitstorm. My wife read and monitored her text every night. It was getting very ugly as his friends were bullying the hell out of her for several days in a row. She would ask them to please stop and show some maturity but they didn't . I knew most of these boys because I coached them in 8th grade football so I texted as myself and told them I was about ready to whip their arse and their dads arse if need be. The texts stopped after I got a few calls from some parents and read them some of the cruel garbage their kids had been saying.

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It looks like the bullies used the app to remain anonymous or untraceable.

fricking terrible. Depending on age of bullies, we need to start prosecuting and punishing these kids.

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If we can somehow find out who was behind it, and be sure we have the right people, their names, addresses, and phone numbers should be published. Their worthless parents too (and their parents' employers).

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An app can try to mask it, but that time stamp and the carrier are an easy trace.

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How would the girl get that kind of information? The police, sure, but what could she have done to address it?

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Everyone gets bullied. Raise your kid to shake that shite off

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It is almost comical how people think the shite they went through is anywhere near the stuff you see in some of these suicide cases. The idea that "everyone gets bullied" and should just shake it off is asinine when you've got a girl who had fake social media pages made with her image promoting her as a hooker and had to change her fricking phone number to avoid anonymous messages she was receiving.

If you think that is normal, everyday kind of stuff you're crazy.

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It is almost comical how people think the shite they went through is anywhere near the stuff you see in some of these suicide cases. The idea that "everyone gets bullied" and should just shake it off is asinine when you've got a girl who had fake social media pages made with her image promoting her as a hooker and had to change her fricking phone number to avoid anonymous messages she was receiving.

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yeah social media makes it impossible to escape and its easy to say close the laptop... even if you do the next day at school the kids will make sure you know what you said

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What drives people to be such assholes to others.

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Shitty homelife, intense self hatred, mental instability, extreme immaturity coupled with sociopathic narcissism.

Jesus. How awful.

I have an 18 yea old son and a 14 year old daughter.

Girls are a thousand times crueler than boys. I'm sure some of the insecurities I have today stem back from some mean comment another girl made about me in the 9th grade.

And to people saying "Just delete their SM accounts"? SM is not only a large part of teenagers social lives it's also a large part of everything they do. Teachers use Twitter, Facebook, Snapchat to communicate with students and even use them for assignments. All the teams and clubs use social media. My kids' principal uses Twitter to update students and parents on things happening at the school.

SM has it's faults but if you monitor what your kids are up to, it has lots of benefits too. I remember my parents dropping me off to meet up with friends and having to wander around a ball game or the mall looking for them. My kids and their friends just Snapchat or whatever and they are good.

I love that I can GPS my kids' phones and know where they are at all times.

I let my kids have SM but the rules are -

1 - I know their usernames and passwords. If I want to log in their accounts and read whatever I want, I do. If they change the password or get a secret account, they lose their accounts.

2 - I am one of their friends/followers/whatever and can see what they post. If they post something out of line, they lose their accounts.

3 - Don't post anything you wouldn't want your grandparents to read.

4 - Don't ever, ever, ever post our address or phone numbers online and don't give personal info to a stranger.

Being a teenager is dangerous. You don't take away the keys from your teenager because they might get in a wreck. You teach them how to be a safe driver and say a little prayer every time they pull away.

Being a teenager today is hard. I'm glad we didn't have all this shite when I was growing up.

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How would the girl get that kind of information? The police, sure, but what could she have done to address it?

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Find a judge with a daughter. There's your court order to pursue harassment charges to force the carrier to assist in discovery.

I have daughters, I'd have addressed directly with the parents also. If that didn't produce results I'd see if they could text with shattered hands. I figure I'd be out of jail by the time they were able to hold a cup unaided.

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how so? people on here are saying get off social media, delete all your accounts, change your number, etc. 

basically anything that would connect her to friends/family, she should get off of right? 

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We seemed to manage just fine without that shite as kids.

Kids still committed suicide before Facebook though.

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it would be hard for me to not go find the bullies and beat them to death

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Eh, kids are kids. They probably had no idea the impact their actions were having because, just like the girl who killed herself over some teasing, they ALSO lack perspective by virtue of being kids. They'll probably grow out of it and look back with regret at how far they took it.