re: Teen Rehab Centers

You have other children?

Better cull that son away from them especially since he doesn’t want to change. Military school or something far away till he reaches 18 and then you can’t control him anymore.

This is about as serious as you can get and especially younger ones do what the older ones do. We’re not talking smoking cigarettes here.

The fentanyl issue really makes it life or death. Wasn’t like that before it showed up. One could function somewhat until you hit rock bottom and wanted to stop. Now it will kill you before you even start to want help.

Look into an Ibogaine Clinic?

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Damn, man, I wouldn't be bringing my personal drama onto this message board. But you do you.

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stfu

This isn't what you want to hear, but he will only quit if he wants to. No matter how good his intentions are, like wanting to quit for you or for Mom or whatever reason, it isn't going to work unless he wants to quit for himself.

And what pills we taking about that he mainly uses, opiates, Adderall, etc?

I don’t have anything helpful to add other than to say I wish you and your son the best of luck and a good outcome to get the treatment he needs. I encourage you to find a good church, often the change occurs at rock bottom during a reconciling of one’s faith.

I’m not an anxious person but I have three very young children and the thought of them going down this path is the one thing that can send my head spiraling.

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I doubt the dealer was a 16 year old, which really scares me. But yeah, him getting his hands on bad stuff without realizing it is the most terrorizing part

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I had a very good friend who died because he bought a fentanyl-laced pill off the street.

That is very terrifying.

Try your hardest to get out in front of all of this now.

It becomes even harder with time.

Yeah, a 14 year old daughter. That’s another reason why this is so horrible

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xanax withdraws are absolute hell from the outside looking in.

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They are awful. OP, I went through this when I was a couple years older than your son. My parents took everything away from me and locked me at home for a couple months. I was basically in jail in my own home. Having no means of contact & no means of transportation along with solitude of having to think about how much I had hurt them and screwed over relationships with friends and others I cared about was the only thing that helped me. He will hate you and say all sorts of things he doesn’t truly mean. Try not to let it get to you and support him as much as you can WITHOUT giving in to demands for his phone or vehicle. Keep a hardline on these things. Take away any access to internet. No iPads, no PS5, Xbox, etc. Anything that connects to the internet can and will be used by him to source drugs.

I had friends that went to rehab and it can just be a revolving door and endless money pit if they don’t actually want help. Personally I don’t think an environment where drug heads get together and tell each other “war stories” is the greatest place to be for someone his age. I know the 12 step true believers will disagree. Plus, there’s always going to be people there that don’t wanna be there and they will find a way to get drugs and chances are your son may get caught up with them. The only thing that helped me was straight up solitude and working my issues out with myself and my own mind. Good luck. He’s still young enough to fix this and have a great life. Hopefully he just needs a couple months of sobriety to realize how stupid he’s being and how much he’s screwing his life up.

Thanks man, that’s some great advice and I appreciate you telling your story. That’s kind of what we’ve been doing, but we have admittedly allowed some things we shouldn’t have.