re: Stay at home dads

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Like, if your wife makes 175 k and you make 150k.

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Sounds like you're OT poor.

Certainly it's OK. I am not interested in judging other people because of lifestyle choices, as long as they aren't harming anyone else or breaking laws. BUT, I would not really feel like a man if I did this. Not for me.

My personal goal at this point is retirement. Wife and I do better than most and we could easily live on one of our salaries but I really want to retire early and live it up in retirement so being a jobless parent wouldn't be appealing to me given my goal. If your suggesting to give up a job for a reason of you don't want to work or other selfish reasons, you're basically telling your future self that retirement isn't important to you or you're telling your wife that it's entirely her responsibility to get herself there.

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You would have to be a complete tard in today’s economy to give up 150k

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People often place too much importance on accumulating excess money, but spending time with your children, especially while they’re young, is priceless in my opinion.

My wife is at ~160k and just received notice her promotion will go through. Not sure where where she’ll end up compensation wise but I keep telling her I’m going to be a stay at home dad

I think I could do it but got would be hard to live off one salary. I still make more than her

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Is it okay for a man to allow his wife to support him?

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-Privateer 2007

Why do you care what anyone here thinks? This place is mostly children. If you really want a honest answer, ask someone that cares about you.

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she started a side business , and it shot off like a rocket.

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OnlyFans ?

Im a full time stay at home dad. Gave up $100k+ job at the time.

It has taken a lot of adjustment on both our parts. I certainly went through an identity crisis of sorts at the beginning, and we have both struggled at times with the non-traditional rolls we have to fill. But at the end of the day we made the decision that works best for our family.

She struggles with not being able to be as involved in their day to day like a traditional mom, and i struggle with not "providing" for my family in the traditional sense. But we have both worked on that because it made little sense to pay a nanny to watch our boys when we could afford not to.

If I am being completely honest, staying at home is 10x more stressful than my job was but also much more rewarding. I love the time I am blessed to spend with our boys.

My wife has recently left my salary in the dust, but very well earned on her part.

She makes as much now by herself, as we both did combined 10 years ago. We could easily live off her salary alone, however we do not want to work forever. The ability to invest a salary every year for the next 5-10 years, far out weighs being a stay at home dad. Retiring in our 50s, hell yeah!!!

Know a guy who’s wife is a doctor and he is a stay at home dad. I find it very weird to be around him/talk to him. There is just something about it…like not being the provider (male thing to do) for the family.

He is a good guy but it is just weird. And that is the example his two sons will have.