re: Spinoff: Has anyone taken a "break" from a serious relationship...

Buddy, quit trying to fight the facts (based on your other thread).

Correct me if I am wrong with the following facts:

FACT - You guys have been engaged for a couple of months (ENGAGED, not dating).

FACT - She wants to advance her career (nothing wrong with that)

FACT - BUT she wants to advance it for 6 months in a middle eastern country.

FACT - She springs this crap on you out of left field.

FACT - She doesn't think it is a big deal.

In my opinion, the absolute worst thing you can do is try to talk her out of it because you will be screwed the rest of your life with all the "what if's" and "I should have....".

I feel bad for you dude (seriously) but let it go and move on. She may come back to you but don't lay around waiting for that.

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The wife and I did when we had been dating for about a year or 2.

When didn't call it a break, we broke up. Dated other folks, then ended up back together about 6 months or so later.

We hung out and hooked up the whole 6 months though. That was 6 or 7 years ago. Happily married for 3 years now.

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Ditto. Both were unhappy, dated other people for 8 months or so before gradually getting back together.

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If she goes over without you you know she is going to frick someone else

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What's with the OT and trust issues?

A relationship is always moving in one direction or another. Either forward or backward. A break is moving backward.

When my gf, now wife, had been living together for about six months, she started talking about getting her own place closer to campus.

My response: do so with the knowledge I'll have had three slutty exes in here by tomorrow.

She didn't move out, we've been together 6 or seven years since then.

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Thanks. You're right--not what I want to hear but helpful nonetheless.

I'm no spring chicken. In my mid (arguably late) 30s and have never felt for a woman what I do for her. She's so smart and just a genuinely interesting person to be around, something that I've never found in Baton Rouge. I've never met a girl that I'm actually proud to show off to my friends and colleagues.

My fear is that I move on, never find someone like her, and one day regret that I didn't do everything I could to make it work.

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You can't look at it that way. You have to ask yourself, "what do I deserve"?

What if you sit around waiting for her and miss out on an awesome girl that wants to be with you instead of hanging out with other people in Dubai.

Every one of us have been in a similar situation in our lives. Its her life so let her go live it. I obviously don't know her and she may be going there simply to advance her career but that is highly doubtful. Are any guys from work going with her or is there a guy that she already knows that will be there with her? If so I would guess that she probably wants to spend time with someone that she works with and possibly has more in common with due to the fact that they have similar work interests.

Im not saying she is a shitty person, its just life. All i'm saying to you is don't get put in the corner for anyone. Go life your life and if she somehow comes back into then that may be ok but don't live your life waiting for her to come back.

Cut it clean and let her go do her thing. I can promise you this. If she leaves to go there and you spend all of your time emailing and calling and wondering what she is doing you will not have a shot.

Tell her to have fun and stay in touch. Be sparse with the e-mails or responding too quick to her emails, texts or calls. Live your life like you could be with her or without her but don't wait for her or you will push her further away.

I wish the best for you.

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mooj

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Just break up.

There's no law saying you can't revisit it in 6 months and see where you both are at.

But break up. Move on and have fun. Date people. See what else is out there.

If she comes back and you both want to get back together, then give it a shot. No big deal and it might have been good for your relationship.

But do not go in with the expectation that you will get back together. Don't wait.

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Some of us live in reality. Let me guess, your little buttercup didn't rail multiple guys during your break

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I'm sure she did. I'm willing to bet she also wasn't a virgin the first time we had sex. Like I said, we split up and dated other people. If she were gagging on cock every weekend during that time, it was non of my goddamn business.

If my wife came to me tomorrow and said she ad the opportunity to further her career but it involved her moving to another country for 6 months, I would trust her. I wouldn't be thrilled about it, but I would trust her.

She's a human being dude, not a dick hungry savage. She's fully capable of going away for work without fricking every guy in sight.

I'm starting to think this place is chock a block full of a bunch of insecure little man children who aren't capable of a functional relationship with anything other than a need little girl with daddy issues.