re: Single women love complaining about life on Facebook

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Reminds me of this funny "It's not about the nail" video clip

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yeah the whole "you always try to fix things when all i need you to do is listen" is basically a marketing point women have been told that has allowed them to create a cycle of attention and relief from complaining. in addition to the regular dopamine-addiction cycle, complaining rewires your brain for negativity

i made a thread on here a while back about this specific point. there is this mythology that if you try to solve a problem (typically that a woman is complaining about), you're "not listening" or not "empathizing" with her. the theory goes that you're dismissing her worries by not listening. this is an absolute lie, because in problem solving establishing a problem is the literal first step. this means you listen, understand, and empathize (which is why you want to help)

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Reminds me of this funny "It's not about the nail" video clip

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That hits the nail on the head.

The nature of men is to fix things. We identify a problem, and our instinct to figure it out and solve it. Logically and rationally.

Women, for some bizarre reason, don’t seem to want us to fix the problem. I mean, they really do, but they don’t want us to in the way we know how. They want us to feel the problem. To talk about it. To do a million other things rather than just straightforward fix the issue at hand.

It’s maddening

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have never heard of a "dog lady")

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Knew one that was bat shite crazy and gay.

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Women, for some bizarre reason, don’t seem to want us to fix the problem

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this is one thing that i legitimately cannot understand. like i posted above this entire mythology has developed that fixing the problem means you're not understanding the problem, and it's as absurd as those words sound

i understand that women vent by communication, but there has to be a healthier way to achieve that than bitching, and i have to imagine the reason why there is so much stress (requiring expression for venting) isn't even what they're bitching about.

if it's just about communication, why can't the stress be relieved by talking about a solution instead of the problem? why do we have to go over the same, simple issue in 100 ways as if we have the IQ of a piece of glassware

I have deleted all friends off of my account. Pretty much cause I’m tired of looking at what you cooked, or your kids travel ball team or subtle brags about what you have.

My Facebook consist of fishing reports from two inshore fishing blogs

when i see a post from a woman that says, "A real man would...", i stop reading. its generally a method of manipulation through shaming.

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Single women love complaining about life on Facebook by BurningHeart

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Natures way of thinning out the herd of potentials.

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The nature of men is to fix things. We identify a problem, and our instinct to figure it out and solve it. Logically and rationally.

Women, for some bizarre reason, don’t seem to want us to fix the problem. I mean, they really do, but they don’t want us to in the way we know how. They want us to feel the problem. To talk about it. To do a million other things rather than just straightforward fix the issue at hand.

It’s maddening

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Preach Brother fr33manator