re: Single dad question

If the kids ever ask you anything about what mom said, just smile and say “well you know your mom” ...roll your eyes... “she’s probably right”. Smile and let it go. Smart kids will get that youre not going to say anything bad but understand you just did.

And kids don’t need or want quality time, they need quantity time.

Take u some good vacations. How old are the kids ?
The past two years I rented a car and hit the roads with my son. Cali. And Wyoming area. Saw a whioe lot.

Your kids need a dad who takes them fishing on a boat.


Buy a boat.

I will say that the wife has disregarded all the good shite i’ve been doing over the years. Call it selfish but it’s the shite that i imagine any marriage goes through. Just feel like it’s rolling downhill now and i can’t stop it. I just want the best life possible for the kids and a chance at modest happiness for myself.

Over the next few months i’ll have to find where all the single moms are so i can begin to enjoy that side of life again

Will be very weird going after other women when i’ll always have a special place for the woman who birthed my kids and showed me love for a long time

When a parent says they are. "single dad or mom" the implication is that they are raising a child alone. 90% of the time they are actually just divorced and splitting custody.

Usually it's women who do it on purpose to sound like a strong independent woman who don't need no man. Annoys me.

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I will say that the wife has disregarded all the good shite i’ve been doing over the years. Call it selfish but it’s the shite that i imagine any marriage goes through. Just feel like it’s rolling downhill now and i can’t stop it. I just want the best life possible for the kids and a chance at modest happiness for myself.

Over the next few months i’ll have to find where all the single moms are so i can begin to enjoy that side of life again

Will be very weird going after other women when i’ll always have a special place for the woman who birthed my kids and showed me love for a long time

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Are you sure this marriage is over?

You’ve said a few times that your kids have always been priority #1...where has your wife ranked during this time?

Is she filing or you? If her, is she willing to do counseling?

Pics of ex?

I don’t plan on filing but my gut tells me she is going to sooner rather than later. Apparently i’m a big enough a-hole that a couple counseling sessions didn’t move te needle for her and she’s fricking done.

In the moments i always considered my wife & kids on the same level as #1 but in retrospect i put the kids over her as far as my emotional connection and top concern. Guess if i had it over i would put more of a premium on her feelings and it sucks that she felt controlled/neglected, but son of a bitch i really don’t feel bad about loving my kids unconditinally and focusing too much on them

Keep ya head up man. Too many kids grow up without a good father figure, dont let them continue that trend. Make sure you show them what a good father is, thats all you can do.

Rent a boat