re: Settle this marriage/ parenting dispute

Not even a question for me. I don't do shite.

Neither my ex wife nor my present gf of 10 years would've left shite on the floor. I wouldn't clean it. Leave it and tell her if she doesn't want the 1 year old playing in shite, she needs to get off her arse and do her duty!!

No but if did I would not do it. Makes me puke. So then I would have to clean shite and puke.

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You know you are right…. And you are. Now clean the shite and apologize like the rest of us

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This is the right answer.

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Stop being a dick and lend a hand. Shouldn't been thinking whose turn it is to do this or who should've done that. As someone who had many tough days alone with the kids, when the shite gets resolved, just need a break and you should be there to give that break

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frick this entitled attitude. Clean up after your kids if you're the one watching them instead of leaving a mess for someone else to clean. Don't be a shitbird.

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When is it her turn to work all day?

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This is such an ignorant statement. His wife most likely gave up her career to stay at home with the child which I’m sure she didn’t decide to do on her own.

I know a few stay at home moms of small children and it’s a fast track to depression. They have to deal with selfish, moody, completely dependent humans that will accidentally harm themselves the first chance they get and on top of that, they don’t get ANY adult interaction outside of their spouse on most days.

Sure going to work sucks but at least you get to have some water cooler talk about the big game or talk about how the country is fricked or whatever. And you also get to take a break every now and then to look at TD or Twitter. Stay at home moms get none of that.

I do agree that the kids shouldn’t be 100% on you when you get home but it definitely should be at least 50/50 and your wife should get 30 minutes to an hour to decompress, watch a shitty bravo show, and drink a glass of wine while you take the kids on shortly after you get home. Not saying it has to be the second you walk in but 15-20 minutes after you get changed or whatever, you should take over for a bit. Then y’all can do bath and bed together or split it up however you’d like.

My wife isn’t a stay at home mom but I think one of the main keys to making it work when the kids are that little is to have responsibilities set in stone. For example at my house, my wife bathes the kids and then I get them out and put pajamas on them. That’s how it goes every night so there is no arguments over who is doing what. My wife does laundry, and I fold it. My wife clean floors and I do dishes. There are no arguments because everyone knows what is expected of them.

if it was me, i'd negotiate into taking other chores (i.e. clean kitchen, give kids bath, make dinner, etc..) then having to clean up shite.

if it turns into an argument, say goodbye to your sex life w/ wifey.

you and your hands will have lots of time for self-reflection

bunch of betas in here. If her only job is to stay home with the 1 year old she can clean the 1 year olds shite. I'd let the dog clean it up before I cleaned it up after working all day.

If this happened and you were both home I get her point, but she literally left human shite on the floor to attempt to prove a point (that isn't even valid since you were at work). It sounds like you two need to sit down and have a rational, adult discussion about expectations. It sounds like she thinks she's getting the raw end of the deal, and that will bite you in the arse eventually.

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My wife isn’t a stay at home mom but I think one of the main keys to making it work when the kids are that little is to have responsibilities set in stone.

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what about things like being responsible for not leaving literal human shite on the floor out of spite? that seems like a pretty solid "set in stone" responsibility.