re: Retreating from the Real World into the Fantasy/Gaming Worlds

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Your life. Do what you want. But you should try getting some arse. It would do you good.

ETA: I play games from time to time. I can’t waste a whole day away like I used to.

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I wish I could. Honestly I wish I could. I'm not asking for some model, just once I would love a decently attractive woman in her 20s. She doesn't even have to like me, just a one night stand. Sex both excites me and scares the hell out of me being a virgin though. Never mind attracting a woman, I've never had the skills to do it and/or a wing man to help me.

You really need to get some self confidence. You really just have to keep trying until you succeed. Try socializing with people that have the same interests.

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miss out on the good

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The problem for young men is that the "good" seems to be shrinking rapidly. The things previous generations fought for and had to look forward to don't exist for us. Work hard for 40 years, save and invest, and maybe...just maybe you'll get to retire and enjoy life when you're too old and broken down to really do much.

I know a handful of people who are unemployed and live way better than I do - regular doctors visits, newer car, nice smartphone etc. A Native American acquaintance (unemployed, claims she has lupus and fybromyalgia) just stocked her house full of food because it was commodity day at her tribe's community center. What is commodity day, you might ask? They literally give every member of the tribe boxes and boxes of food: cheese, bread, milk, applesauce, canned vegetables. This woman's medicine closet looks like she robbed a fricking Walgreens, she has the absolute best drugs in her house and she didn't pay a cent for them. shite is beyond broken in this country.

Moderation is key with everything

Video games are fricking great for stress relief when you're in the medical/healthcare field as a student or professional. Especially if you aren't attached and with kids.

And honestly, who the frick cares what your stress relief strategies are as long as they aren't illegal or putting others at risk.

You need to find where whatever your counter would be in the opposite sex is.

I'm sure there are women who are into what you are into, you just need to figure out how to find them.

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The problem for young men is that the "good" seems to be shrinking rapidly. The things previous generations fought for and had to look forward to don't exist for us. Work hard for 40 years, save and invest, and maybe...just maybe you'll get to retire and enjoy life when you're too old and broken down to really do much.

I know a handful of people who are unemployed and live way better than I do - regular doctors visits, newer car, nice smartphone etc. A Native American acquaintance (unemployed, claims she has lupus and fybromyalgia) just stocked her house full of food because it was commodity day at her tribe's community center. What is commodity day, you might ask? They literally give every member of the tribe boxes and boxes of food: cheese, bread, milk, applesauce, canned vegetables. This woman's medicine closet looks like she robbed a fricking Walgreens, she has the absolute best drugs in her house and she didn't pay a cent for them. shite is beyond broken in this country.

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I couldn't have said it any better. The thing to me that's the biggest farce is retirement. With the cost of living and things like pensions before all but gone, the traditional idea of retirement is gone.

I'm seeing this with my parents. My dad just stays at home most of the day and drives my mom crazy either messing stuff up or just walking around looking for stuff to do. It's not the "travel to Europe, catch up with friends playing hobbies, backpack around the world" stuff that they proclaim it to be.

I've accepted that I'll never truly be able to retire. Like you said Boring by the time most of us young men can retire we'll be too broken down physically to do anything. I think that's the part of my personality that's changed the most these last few years. I've realized if I want to do things I've got to do it now. If I wait until retirement when my health is even worse all I'll have during retirement is regret.

Heck I just got put on Nucala for asthma. Between the $20 I have to pay for the medicine (and that's with the co-pay assistance card) and $40 for office visits that's going to be $60 each month for an injection. It's absolutely infuriates me that people like the Native Americans you mentioned probably get all this stuff for free.

So as a guy in his thirties who spent his 20's gaming, let me say.

Don't give up man. Don't go full incel or whatever they call it. There's nothing wrong with gaming, if you do other stuff. Sounds like you do.

Keep working out. Don't stay home every night, and let what may happen happen. Get on some dating apps and put yourself out there and don't worry about.

Get involved in a church and go for the single ladies there too.

But no, there's nothing wrong with gaming a few nights a week.

ETA: Gaming is a great hobby. But I wish I had put half my time into learning guitar.

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I've also come to accept the fact that the only action I'm ever going to get with ladies is probably with VR porn, lol. Or pretending to have sex with anime characters, lol.

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I did not even read the OP I guess. Is this a Boo alter?

frick, OP. Just hire a goddamn hooker already.