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Reaction to cancer news
Posted on 6/2/18 at 9:53 pm
Posted on 6/2/18 at 9:53 pm
My wife was diagnosed with cancer about a year ago. She’s doing much better but not out of the woods.
It’s interesting that every time I tell someone or they ask about her they inevitably come right back with their own cancer story about a friend, relative etc that was diagnosed and died shortly there after. I’m not sure what their motive is but not exactly what I would want to hear. Anyone else experience this? Really strange dynamic.
It’s interesting that every time I tell someone or they ask about her they inevitably come right back with their own cancer story about a friend, relative etc that was diagnosed and died shortly there after. I’m not sure what their motive is but not exactly what I would want to hear. Anyone else experience this? Really strange dynamic.
Posted on 6/2/18 at 9:54 pm to foj1981
Misery loves it's company.
People are more apt to spread misery to make themselves feel better.
People are more apt to spread misery to make themselves feel better.
Posted on 6/2/18 at 9:55 pm to foj1981
People just trying to relate, I don’t think any malice is meant by it.
Posted on 6/2/18 at 9:57 pm to DavidTheGnome
I’m certain their not trying to be insensitive. Just curious where that comes from
Posted on 6/2/18 at 9:57 pm to foj1981
Same thing happened to my friend who has cancer.
Jk, I think people just want to relate and it's their way of trying to empathize with your situation.
Jk, I think people just want to relate and it's their way of trying to empathize with your situation.
Posted on 6/2/18 at 9:59 pm to foj1981
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I’m not sure what their motive is but not exactly what I would want to hear.
It's natural for people to want to relate to a situation. If it's not what you want to hear, maybe you shouldn't tell them about your wife. It may not be exactly what they want to hear either.
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:00 pm to foj1981
I was diagnosed with cancer once. Starting this shitty thread could’ve been me
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:03 pm to foj1981
Probably because they don't know what else to say and are trying to relate.
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:04 pm to GRTiger
I’ve been very careful not to volunteer info unless asked. Even then I’m very vague
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:07 pm to foj1981
Being vague and short may be the issue. The less you say, the more they may be compelled to fill in something generic about cancer.
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:11 pm to foj1981
Ive got CLL and just don't talk about it IRL. People are just uncomfortable with the issue
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:14 pm to foj1981
It seems like we have been treating cancer in the same way for decades. Where are the advancements?
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:15 pm to foj1981
It’s really a tough thing to respond to - trust me
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:21 pm to foj1981
I thought I had dick cancer but it was just the herp
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:21 pm to foj1981
Yep. All the time. And it is my own cancer that often elicits that response. I think people just awkwardly want to relate, without thinking of all the implications.
Sorry about your wife. I'll give you a better story. This time last year I was waiting on my last treatment for stage iv cancer. I'm cancer free and training for a marathon.
Sorry about your wife. I'll give you a better story. This time last year I was waiting on my last treatment for stage iv cancer. I'm cancer free and training for a marathon.
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:30 pm to McLemore
Awesome news! Good for you.
That is a great story
That is a great story
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:43 pm to foj1981
I've had it twice & both times felt that the people being told the news took it harder than I ever did, I really didn't experience anyone going straight for the horror stories, but I remained pretty upbeat about it. People just don't know what to say sometimes. Having gone through it, I now tell people that are diagnosed that I'll be praying for them. I also tell them the truth-that there were many blessings while I was treating & I met some incredible people. My rad onco is one of my favorite people on the planet & it's unlikely that I would've met him otherwise.
Posted on 6/2/18 at 10:58 pm to Tiger in the Sticks
I've been diagnosed with cancer now. Almost every I see now has to tell me about some ailment they have like it's a competition
Posted on 6/2/18 at 11:01 pm to foj1981
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It’s interesting that every time I tell someone or they ask about her they inevitably come right back with their own cancer story about a friend, relative etc that was diagnosed and died shortly there after. I’m not sure what their motive is but not exactly what I would want to hear. Anyone else experience this? Really strange dynamic.
Not about cancer specifically, but I've noticed that people are generally terrible listeners and are usually just thinking about what they are going to say next. Because of that, I try to ask questions and then listen to the answer.
Posted on 6/2/18 at 11:05 pm to nevilletiger79
Its not competition.
It's saying, yes, we both have a hard row to hoe.
I was told today that a neighbor has als/gehrig.
There's a party on our street.
I didn't go.
No one wants to hear Gotoma's observation about how it all ends in a twinkling of an eye.
It's saying, yes, we both have a hard row to hoe.
I was told today that a neighbor has als/gehrig.
There's a party on our street.
I didn't go.
No one wants to hear Gotoma's observation about how it all ends in a twinkling of an eye.
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