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Question for the recovering TD boozers
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:38 pm
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:38 pm
First of all, let me tell you how much I envy you. I’ve been pretty hard drinking and hell raising since I was 18. Now I’m 40 with a wife and kids, and to say it’s gotten a little tougher is an understatement.
Without telling a life story, I pretty much hit rock bottom about 3 years ago. Since then, the longest stretch I made it was 53 days. After that wagon fall, I went another 2 or 3 times maybe a month or so. Ever since, I’ve been able to publicly maintain normalcy ... but in secrecy, I drink all the fricking time. It’s killing me and I know it.
What have you successful sober folk done to break this spell? Born and raised in South LA, I’ve not only been born into a steady drinking culture but married into one as well. How do I stop at this point when it’s just soooo easy to drink and forget all the bullshite until the next morning - when I wake up feeling like shite..
Things have to change for me. What have you all used to successfully achieve that mythical, non drinking status?
Without telling a life story, I pretty much hit rock bottom about 3 years ago. Since then, the longest stretch I made it was 53 days. After that wagon fall, I went another 2 or 3 times maybe a month or so. Ever since, I’ve been able to publicly maintain normalcy ... but in secrecy, I drink all the fricking time. It’s killing me and I know it.
What have you successful sober folk done to break this spell? Born and raised in South LA, I’ve not only been born into a steady drinking culture but married into one as well. How do I stop at this point when it’s just soooo easy to drink and forget all the bullshite until the next morning - when I wake up feeling like shite..
Things have to change for me. What have you all used to successfully achieve that mythical, non drinking status?
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Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:39 pm to Giantkiller
Go to AA
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:40 pm to Giantkiller
My wife and kid usually do it for me. I would like to continue to be in their lives.
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:41 pm to Giantkiller
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Without telling a life story
Tell us the fricking story!
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I drink all the fricking time
How much and how often?
And is your wife complaining about your drinking aka is this guilt more than health related?
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:42 pm to Giantkiller
You have to break the pattern of everything you do, but assuming you're consistently immersed in a drinking culture that might be difficult.
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:43 pm to Giantkiller
I’ve done it.
Walk into an AA meeting and share about what you’re going through. The people on here won’t be able to relate like you and I can.
If you want to talk about it we can arrange that too.
ETA: I haven’t drank since March 28, 2012 and my life has gotten astronomically better. I love life now!
Walk into an AA meeting and share about what you’re going through. The people on here won’t be able to relate like you and I can.
If you want to talk about it we can arrange that too.
ETA: I haven’t drank since March 28, 2012 and my life has gotten astronomically better. I love life now!
This post was edited on 12/14/18 at 10:46 pm
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:43 pm to Giantkiller
It doesn't help you that you have drinking all around you.
However, you can be the one to show others the light. I have no doubt that there are others in your immediate family that are screaming on the inside that they want to stop, too. But, they see you, and others, "having a good time" and say nothing.
Be the man, and lead the way. Can say it won't be easy.
However, you can be the one to show others the light. I have no doubt that there are others in your immediate family that are screaming on the inside that they want to stop, too. But, they see you, and others, "having a good time" and say nothing.
Be the man, and lead the way. Can say it won't be easy.
This post was edited on 12/14/18 at 10:45 pm
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:43 pm to Giantkiller
I couldn't help but notice how much you stressed the fact that those around you drink. Sounds to me like the only way for your to quit is to get away from all of that....
and yes, your wife and kids know you are still drinking...
and yes, your wife and kids know you are still drinking...
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:45 pm to Giantkiller
Gonna have to cut out everyone in your life that contributes to your drinking. Then find something that fills the hole drinking leaves. Working out, your kids' stuff, video games, whatever. Build stuff.
Sorry it's gotten to that point for you brother. But you can be strong enough to not need booze. Guarantee it.
Sorry it's gotten to that point for you brother. But you can be strong enough to not need booze. Guarantee it.
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:45 pm to Spankum
They are not the problem.
The problem is always internal. Not external.
The problem is always internal. Not external.
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:46 pm to pwejr88
quote:You'd be surprised. This place isn't the road to recovery by any means but a lot of posters have been/are there.
The people on here won’t be able to relate like you and I can.
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:46 pm to Spankum
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and yes, your wife and kids know you are still drinkin
They frick up everything. Leave the wife and one day your a-hole kids will realize their mom and themselves were the reason you drank
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:50 pm to Giantkiller
All you gotta do is just switch to root beer, baw.
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:51 pm to northshorebamaman
Good to know.
But living in sobriety and being sober are two very different things.
But living in sobriety and being sober are two very different things.
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:52 pm to Giantkiller
You just have to care for the things you have more than booze. There's no one cure that works with everyone.
The most important thing is to not pick up that next drink. Until you find a reason sobriety is better than drinking, that isn't going to happen.
Good luck.
The most important thing is to not pick up that next drink. Until you find a reason sobriety is better than drinking, that isn't going to happen.
Good luck.
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:53 pm to pwejr88
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They are not the problem.
The problem is always internal. Not external
This. But that external stuff isn’t helping the matter.
<—-Sobriety Date- June 18th, 2016.
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:53 pm to pwejr88
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But living in sobriety and being sober are two very different things.
Not getting into that argument on this guy's thread.
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:53 pm to pwejr88
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I haven’t drank since March 28, 2012 and my life has gotten astronomically better. I love life now!
See that’s the thing. When I break the pattern (and I’ve been able to do it a few times) life is so great. I sleep better, dream better, and wake up supercharged. But then, how can my wife have a glass 0f wine - and my brother and dad crush a handle of crown like it’s nothing on our family weekends...?
My mom has been cracking open a Miller Lite at 5 pm for literally as long as I can remember.
I don’t know. It’s all fricked up.
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:54 pm to pwejr88
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But living in sobriety and being sober are two very different things.
True. Sobriety is life changing. Being sober is just trying your best not to drink.
It's a helluva commitment and one of the more difficult things a man will ever do
Posted on 12/14/18 at 10:56 pm to Giantkiller
Everyone knows you are drinking so you aren’t fooling anyone and your liver will eventually fail. Drop to your knees and ask God for help then get to a meeting.
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