re: People who choose to not have kids

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Or when you see parents that basically worship their children. They think they are being these amazing parents by putting their children first in every single faucet of their lives. Their kids rule them basically.
We all know people like this nowadays. Instead they are actually failing at parenting and raising children that won't know how to think for themselves or solve their own problems in life.

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So you personally know people like this? Are they your friends or family members?

Let me guess...you are saying people choose not to have kids for selfish reasons.


You could easily argue that people that choose to have kids sometimes do so for selfish reasons as well (men wanting to pass on their line, thinking it will make a marriage stronger, etc).

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You actually believing this is one mental defect.


We all have defects.

Some defects are caused by DNA. Some by our environment in which we were raised.

Your insecurity to even admit such a thing would be a defect.

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goddamn you're an imbecile.

actually, having intellect to make a decision based off all information OUTSIDE A BIOLOGICAL IMPERATIVE, is the height of mental acuity.

a truly cold, rational decision.

you have the defect, unable to make a decision based on logic.

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Real talk: I wouldn't mind having kids at some point but I also want my kids to grow up in a financially stable, two parent home.

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Again... This..

There are a lot of people who are so hung up on having kids, that they don't care what kind of situation they are bringing them up in. Many, if not most kids become a product of their environment. And their parents will only teach them what they know.

I remember in HS, there were smart kids who, after graduating, got married and had kids. They didn't go to college.. They live in the same conditions as they grew up in. It doesn't matter how good of grades they made, no matter what, they grew up a certain way and that's all they know. They don't improve their situation for their kids and it's an ongoing cycle.

It's a different world today and people should be a lot more responsible before having kids.

Shut the frick up, OP. I love kids. I'm the oldest of 9 kids. Just had my first 6 months ago and it's been the most incredible experience of my life.

That said, I COMPLETELY understand the reasoning of those who choose not to procreate. It's not for everybody. Would rather they not have kids at all than halfheartedly raise shitty ones.

GFY.

Considering how over populated the planet is or is certainly going to be, how could a person making a decision on that not make them a rational person?

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you are saying people choose not to have kids for selfish reasons.


You could easily argue that people that choose to have kids sometimes do so for selfish reasons as well

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We chose to only have 2 kids...for selfish reasons of course...but ended up with 4...now I'm stuck with 2 kids I really didnt want, for selfish reasons

Dude...I applaud any couple who are self aware enough to realize they shouldn’t have kids.

Not to mention the current population explosion...

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you have the defect, unable to make a decision based on logic.

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Yes. I have defects. I already admitted that. Not sure why people lose their minds about defects.

I would agree on the people who plan to never have kids. On the other hand sometimes life just works out to where you don't have kids and has nothing to do with a desire not to have any. It was just the way that persons life worked out.