re: Need Grandparent advice

I wished my parents were that involved with my kid. Unless you're a pushy or nebbish grandparent, I can't see why anyone would complain about having another child resource.

Just call and ask them if it's ok before stopping by. If it becomes a thing, I'm sure they'll convey it in some way.

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Who are the figs downvoting the OP

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Probably the lonely crazy cat lady??

My advice, given from a son’s perspective, is to give it time.

Before you know it, you could be begging for a day off. It really depends on how your son and his wife are. My wife (no pics) and I lean our parents seldomly, whereas her brother’s kids practically live with her parents. It really just depends.

With just one grandchild, spread between two pairs of grandparents and two parents- there’s just not enough to go around right now. And, unfortunately, being the father’s parents normally (all other things equal) puts you at the bottom of the list. I never understood that until I had a girl. It makes sense.

The best advice I can give you is to all go to church together. Regularly. Faithfully. Go out to eat after, as a family, or bring them back to your house and feed them. You don’t have to go all formal- just having everyone there is enough. The next thing you know, you’re sitting in your recliner with your grandson on your chest; digesting a meal and a message. Once a week.

I have been doing this with my wife and kids, and my mother (widow) for only the last 5-6 years, and I can confidently tell you that it is one of the best and most effective decisions I have ever made. It makes every Sunday truly refreshing.

We had to fly three hours to see our grandson for his birthday, I would love to have your problem. Good luck and enjoy every minute with your son and grandchildren.

Offer to babysit so they can have a night out or just a night off. Ask them to let you have a day with him occasionally.

I actually have the opposite problem. My daughter is the single mom of a 10 yr old. We love him to death but our daughter is asking us to let him spend the night two or three times a week. She needs "a break". We raised four, my parents raised five and we all spent every night at home with our parents.

I know some grandparents that have their grandkids all the time and I respect that. I guess we are influenced by how we were raised. I saw my grandparents half a dozen times a year. M parents watched our kids occasionally but we never dreamed of imposing on them excessively. So we are finding ourselves saying "No" at times or we would be raising him.