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re: Need advice about a situation with my gf
Posted on 7/31/20 at 8:38 pm to tigergirl10
Posted on 7/31/20 at 8:38 pm to tigergirl10
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It's rude and disrespectful to you that she’s even considering allowing this guy she slept with to stay at her house.
This right here. If she respected you at all she would have said no and you wouldn't be here asking. It's clear that they've been talking already - not like he just reaches out one day and she says...sure c'mon over.
3 months of dating isn't something to lose sleep over. Move on.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 8:38 pm to NolanCain
It's been 3 months and she doesn't see you as a long term partner.
It's disrespectful.
I've had females tell me they weren't interested when I had an actual friend I'd never done more than hug staying in my house for a few months while she transitioned out of the corps.
If she doesn't respect you after 3 months then she doesn't see you lasting 3 years
On the bright side at least she told you.
Maybe it's a test to see how you react.
You should never micro manage or completely control anyone, but you also don't want a woman that won't listen and judges you when you tell her you have a real issue with something.
Maybe you're just in her life to teach her this lesson that the shite's not okay and it will save her next relationship when she wises up.
Don't bitch out.
It's disrespectful.
I've had females tell me they weren't interested when I had an actual friend I'd never done more than hug staying in my house for a few months while she transitioned out of the corps.
If she doesn't respect you after 3 months then she doesn't see you lasting 3 years
On the bright side at least she told you.
Maybe it's a test to see how you react.
You should never micro manage or completely control anyone, but you also don't want a woman that won't listen and judges you when you tell her you have a real issue with something.
Maybe you're just in her life to teach her this lesson that the shite's not okay and it will save her next relationship when she wises up.
Don't bitch out.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 8:38 pm to NolanCain
A guy with 2 posts here asking for advice? I’ll pass
Posted on 7/31/20 at 8:39 pm to NolanCain
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This post was edited on 5/31/21 at 9:29 am
Posted on 7/31/20 at 8:42 pm to NolanCain
When you start paying her rent then you can tell her who she can have stay in her place.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 8:42 pm to NolanCain
I never got serious with a girl that would live with a former sex partner, so I have no advice, other than don’t date girls that would do something like that. Or do, but don’t get upset when she is who she is.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 8:42 pm to Pisco
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A guy with 2 posts here asking for advice? I’ll pass
Lurker lives matter.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 8:52 pm to NolanCain
Don’t worry about. It will be just fine. The worst thing that could happen is they could have another fling and then you won’t ever have to worry about dating a disrespectful whore.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 8:54 pm to NolanCain
Become scarce. If y’all normally contact each other in equal proportions, let her contact you 3/4 of the time. If she doesn’t, radio silence until she does. This is like pulling a shrimp away from a redfish - they usually snap at it. In short, make her insecure about your affections.
This post was edited on 7/31/20 at 8:55 pm
Posted on 7/31/20 at 8:57 pm to NolanCain
Threesome with her and her roommate. If she's not down, dump her arse.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 9:03 pm to GeauxElliott
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Then casually tell her the old girlfriend wants to move to the area and asked if she could stay with you while she looks for a job. Say that at first you thought it wouldn't be right, and you should say no... but since you trust each other, it shouldn't be a problem.
Her reaction will tell you what you need to do.
That either she’s a bit touched if she believes you or is too smart for your games?
Ultimately it’s a worry if she’s unphased or unaware of the effect this would have. Either way big red flags. Whether you are adult enough to step up and fill that deficit and work through it is up to your judgement. We don’t know you or her.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 9:06 pm to WinnPtiger
quote:You're a bigger man than me.
I told her it would be a dealbreaker. She fussed for an hour or so until she realized she could still get double teamed at their hotel, then got over it
we dated for about 10 months
Posted on 7/31/20 at 9:08 pm to NolanCain
Very similar thing happened to my now wife and I when we first started dating. I said absolutely not if you want to be my partner. She was accepting of my position and told the guy he couldn’t stay. Now that I know her better I would have told myself back then don’t worry about it. She’s a lot of things but unfaithful she is not.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 9:25 pm to Stud Bud
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Run fast. Run hard. Run deep. Run.
Yeah, this is the best advice. Even if she agreed to tell this guy to find another place to stay, the fact that she was going to allow it in the first place is a major red flag. Just be glad your finding this out about her boundaries after 3 months and not after 3 years.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 9:30 pm to NolanCain
That's an absolute no and she shouldn't even be putting you in this situation. This is a relationship ending type of thing in all honesty. She has fricked him. Which means she and he like each other, even if it "passed."
Be very Frank, that it isnt something you're at all comfortable with and dont really give her an option. If she gets mad..its most likely the case she was planning on fricking him anyways.
Be very Frank, that it isnt something you're at all comfortable with and dont really give her an option. If she gets mad..its most likely the case she was planning on fricking him anyways.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 9:43 pm to NolanCain
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My girlfriend (no pics) and I have been together for a few months and today she told me that an old friend from college is going to be staying with her and her roommate at their place for the next few months because he’s going to be in town for work. I was a little taken aback at first, but then when I asked her more about this guy, she tells me that they did hook up several years back in college, but it was only once. I feel very uncomfortable about the entire situation and I want to know what y’all think I should do or what would be the best way to handle this. I wish this was a troll
This is highly disrespectful. This relationship may be too far gone because she had to have done smaller disrespectful things to get to this point. Women that are heads over heels in love with you don't do this shite. You should feel uncomfortable.
If you feign that you're ok with this she'll see right through it. If you get angry about it then you're jealous and emotional, and she'll probably still let him stay there to get a rise out of you. Tough spot.
I would calmly disapprove, pull back on communication and begin examining your other options.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 9:50 pm to NolanCain
I've never been the jealous type. Jealousy doesn't look good on anyone. I can't say say what I would do in your situation, but looking like you don't give a shite has always worked for me in the past.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 10:12 pm to NolanCain
I haven’t read all the responses. Does he have a girlfriend? Not that it matters one way or another since he will still frick your gf, but just out of curiosity.
Posted on 7/31/20 at 10:16 pm to craigbiggio
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It’s already over. You think that guy couldn’t get a hotel or find a buddy to stay with? And she knows that and still wants him to stay.
This. This dude is banging OPs gf and maybe her roommate too. Dont even talk about it, just break up and break contact.
The fact that she doesnt even question this is enough to break it off alone.
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