re: Need a little encouragement. I have a difficult young son.

Yes, let me put in writing on the internet in explicit detail how I've attempted to discipline my son via beatings to gain approval from fellow dumbasses.

Some of you folks are morons.

To the others, thanks for the help.

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Everyone is an expert on child raising

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Especially other people's kids.

Just my observation, people make it far more complicated than it is. Don't negotiate with your kids. They're terrorists. Don't negotiate with terrorists. You're the boss. They don't get to have an opinion.

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DiamondDog

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Little bit of advice to you and everyone else here.

If something really matters to you in life, NEVER share it here.

This seems like common sense, but we have way too many oversharers.

How’s his language? Fully developed, where it should be?

I'm genuinely curious. Mine are young and as I said, have been easy. Probably will help OP out as well.

For yall that have raised those demon kids,

1) daycare or stay at home mom?
2) did you ever try going outside and just running it off?

Just curious. When Mines having a bad day, an evening of baseball/football/bikes/tag/etc seems to help massively.

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But let me tell you, when you’re faced with a little kid that will cry and scream and take multiple spankings in a row…all for refusing to do something stupid like take his bath….and then after forcing them to do it will take another spanking for continuing to cry and scream because they have to go to bed…and then cry and scream themselves hoarse before passing out…multiple nights a week you’re not dealing with a kid trying to be the “alpha”.

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I'm curious what the OT answer is to something like this. If they refuse to take a bath, then you spank them. Then they still don't take a bath, and take all their clothes off and lay on the floor screaming...? What do you do now? Beat the frick out of him until he's in the tub?

I didn’t necessarily mean spankings. I’m talking about things like when the kid pitches a fit in the store because they want a toy, so the parents buy them one to shut them up. I only spanked each of my kids a few times, and it was just a quick swat and “No!” for doing something dangerous.

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I could swing him around and beat his butt, that has nothing to do with it. It's not modifying his behavior. His mother can't control him, which means it becomes a major problem. Beating the child into submission isn't the objective.

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Sounds like you are the problem

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I fully believe more kids should be whipped

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I know it worked on me. Every time we went in the store my mom used to say "you better not ask me to buy you anything. If you do, you will be sorry". I did one time and she slapped the shite out of me in public. Never did it again.

My mom did the discipline unless it was extreme then she said the thing you didn't want to hear "I am telling your daddy". I saw my brother.. When he was like 15-16 years old (he is 10 years older than me) catch the belt for some silly shite he did at school.

By no means am I an expert, but it seems like parents have more of a friendship with their kids. I don't know if that's good or not, but I grew up in a house that had rules. You broke those rules you paid for it in some way. My mom was cold blooded. She had 0 sympathy. There were times when I would get punished and be sent to my room and that was worse than getting slapped.

Kids are like terrorist, you can't negotiate with them because once they find that weak spot that's it.

The fixating. That’s what made me think possible autism or something.

OP, I hope you can get a good referral to a child psychologist or psychiatrist. Sorry you are going through this. Hopefully it’s just a stage.