re: My toddler wakes up in the night (2nd updated OP)

yeah our daughter started sleeping 8-10 hours at 2.5 months and our pede told us that as long as she is steadily growing to let her sleep

Never wake a sleeping baby to feed them.

That's parenting 101

They will let you know when they are hungry.

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Really?! (legit asking)

eta: even at like 4 weeks old?

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Really. The ability to sleep through the night without feeding is (generally) a body weigh issue. If the kid has enough fat on the body, and will tolerate sleeping through the night, let them sleep. They have enough fat stores for it to be safe.
Mine was preemie, and very skinny. We woke her arse up to eat until 3/4 months old when she chubbed up a bit.

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Mine was preemie, and very skinny.

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Mine were preemies. That may be why the pediatrician said to make sure to get 8 feedings a day minimum.

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night terrors

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I am very worried about this. I had trouble with night terrors growing up. At times of extreme stress, I'll still have some episodes. My wife says I fly out of bed like a man on fire searching the house looking to kill an intruder. She knows it's a night terror/sleep walking bc I don't grab the gun. I guess in my dreams I fight with bare hands, lol.

Not sure if it's been suggested, but I'll tell you what's worked for the hardest of my 6 kids.
we have a rocker in the bedroom that we use to rock them to sleep as babies. when as they get older, we basically ween them off of us putting them to bed. for example, I have a two year old who gives my wife trouble going to sleep and staying asleep. we started by putting him in bed and I would sit in the chair for shorter and shorter periods of time until he was able to just be tucked in and go straight to sleep. As long as he's being ""reasonable"" I won't make him cry it out, but if he's just crying and won't stop and won't take any consolation, he cries it out.
works for us.

No feeding or anything in that time. Straight sleeping.

Don't put her in your bed. EVER! You have to teach your children not to be reliant on you to meet their emotional needs. Who cares if they're scared or in pain or upset.

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Mine are 3 and 6 and at least one wakes me up more nights than not so don't expect it to end anytime soon

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Yea, I haven't had a full nights sleep in 5 years. If for some reason the stars align and they don't wake up I'll still wake up and wonder wtf and go check on them.


To the OP- thing about toddlers is all previous bets are off. They could have been the most perfect angel baby, turn 14 months and bam! massive douche bag mode. They change moods often, they change sleep patterns super often, and you're just along for the ride.