re: My fiancee cheated on me.

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The hard part is that he loves his non-biological daughter

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I've been through this with a fiancées kids. I realized staying in a bad relationship was probably more damaging to them than everyone moving on. It took some healing

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I think OP said in one of his posts that his name is on the birth certificate, so legally he is the father......although I can't imagine what OP was thinking when he allowed himself to be listed as the legal father to a child who was not biologically his and born to a woman he had only recently started dating for a few months at most.

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Yep. Come child support time the judge can give it to the OP straight in the a**. The judge won't care that he isn't the father. Combine what's best for the child, the OPs name on the birth certificate, and him living with/parenting the child for over a year equals a monthly check for the fiancee.

Not reading 27 pages so let me say this.

I'm sorry this happened. You will likely never get it and it's ok to forgive her.

If it was a one-time thing, ok. But this doesn't sound like a one-night stand. What you have is, for all intents, an affair.

Who owns the home? Start preparing yourself to move on.

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Once a cheater always a cheater. Get out before she fricks your mind up.

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There's a pretty big difference between a one time screw up and an affair. Sounds like she had an affair

You never get past an affair as a couple

He's fricked by the year thing. But good lawyers can always find ways.

He shouldn't continue with her and it's ok to wipe his hands of an apple that fell from that tree.

Agreed. I hope that the year passing isn't what led the fiancées admit her whoring around.

I'm not a lawyer but what I posted came straight from the mouth of a judge. He said it's not unusual in Bossier Parish for a few guys who aren't baby daddy to get hit with support rulings in a years time. Wellfare of the child takes precedence.

It's because instead of paying attention to her you were looking up weather info to post on TD.

Sorry to hear. Cut your losses. You will never be able to trust her again and that is the end of a relationship.

I'm still trying to wrap my head around the OP putting his name on the Birth Certificate after only meeting the chick while she was pregnant? How does knowing someone 8-10 months constitute enough of a relationship to warrant your name on the BC of another random guy's kid? For one, the girl clearly F's around with random dudes because she is pregnant with a dead beat's kid.

I mean, OP you are F'd man. You need separate from this chick asap. She is going to run you into the ground.

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I'm still trying to wrap my head around the OP putting his name on the Birth Certificate after only meeting the chick while she was pregnant? How does knowing someone 8-10 months constitute enough of a relationship to warrant your name on the BC of another random guy's kid? For one, the girl clearly F's around with random dudes because she is pregnant with a dead beat's kid.

I mean, OP you are F'd man. You need separate from this chick asap. She is going to run you into the ground.

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This is true.