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re: My fiancee cheated on me.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:48 am to jchamil
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:48 am to jchamil
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who is pregnant with someone else's kid? I'm not sure I could perform in that scenario
that is the ultimate best sex ever brah. sadly, their relationship was based on the initial sex being so great and just like that after birth, it was gone like the wind.
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Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:49 am to SirWinston
Why would he have get a lawyer to correct the BC before kicking the cheating whore out? If she contests him getting his name removed from the BC, he can prove via DNA test that the kid isn't his and since they weren't married he should be off the hook with the DNA test.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:49 am to Tiger Prawn
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Then get a lawyer to get your name off the birth certificate of a toddler that you're not the biological father of so you don't spend the next 16-17 years of your life dealing having to continue to deal with this lying, cheating bitch on custody disputes and financially supporting her and the kid that isn't yours.
Harsh truths.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:49 am to Chad504boy
Yup....
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:49 am to Maximus
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Just tell us about him chadboi
nah, was saying, go read all the info he gave us on this subject matter and that's all the info we have from him.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:50 am to SirWinston
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They're not his kids
STFU until you can get the facts straight and can follow along, you fricking moron.
The son is HIS by a prior relationship and the daughter is not biologically his but he had been there since prenatal.
frick, you're an idiot.
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 9:57 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:51 am to LCA131
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This post was edited on 2/16/25 at 1:17 pm
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:51 am to jchamil
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how in the world do you bang a girl who is pregnant with someone else's kid?
You put your thing in her thing and go up and down a lot without having to worry about a condom since she is already pregnant.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:51 am to SirWinston
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Except it's really not
Of course it is. It's rough because he legit loves this little girl who he has no claim to. I cannot imagine the emotional torture that would go through someone in this situation.
It's easy for us to sit as outsiders and tell him to just up and leave, and disappear from this little girl's life for good. It's in no way easy for him.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:55 am to LSUZombie
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Of course it is. It's rough because he legit loves this little girl who he has no claim to. I cannot imagine the emotional torture that would go through someone in this situation.
Yeah this girl IS his daughter by adoption. Anyone who thinks its just easy to up and walk away from a child that you have helped raise since child birth doesnt have kids or is just a heartless bastard.
Life isnt always black and white. Life is messy. This is just one of the many examples.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:55 am to LCA131
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Three son is HIS by a prior relationship and the daughter is not biologically his but he had been there since prenatal.
That's a lot of piss poor condom use to keep track of
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:57 am to GEAUXmedic
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And I told her I forgave her, but I'm not sure why. Part of me just wanted her to feel better. Why do I still love her and care about her? Why am I the one who is left here alone?
Your relationship is akin to someone dying and like with any death it can go one of two ways: unexpectedly, which is more dramatically painful; or a long, slow lingering death where when the end finally comes you welcome it. You're going through the former and because it wasn't something you were prepared for you're having to face all those emotions of pain and hurt at once while still harboring those feelings of love and caring.
Basically, it's sensory overload.
Sadly, there's no easy way to deal with it and everyone deals with things like this differently (mine has always been to just shut myself off from the world and wallow deeply in my pain and self-pity until I get so tired of it that I start rejecting it). You have to find what works for you, just be careful not to be so self-destructive that you do something you regret.
The best advice I can give is to delete all her contact information as soon as possible then take a vacation far away from the area you two live. The time and space will help give you better perspective.
I hate that you're having to go through this, but eventually it will get better. You managed to live a life before her, you'll eventually be able to live one after her as well.
***EDIT***
shite, didn't realize kids were involved. That makes things much more difficult.
No idea on the ages of the kids but you each need to sit down with your own biological kids and explain that sometimes things don't work out between people.
Man... prayers sent. :(
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 10:02 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 9:58 am to LCA131
when you go off, you go off.Posted on 11/17/17 at 10:02 am to Bard
Yeah he needs to shut her out completely. If he does decide to keep his daughter in his life which is the more complicated route then he needs to make this situation about her. Not their relationship. Their relationship is over except for being potential co-parents. Refocus to how this is going to work between yall and yalls daughter if you choose to stay in her life.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 10:02 am to Blob Fish
Blob, that was a typo re. the "three"... should have been 'the'. Sorry.
A couple of missing pieces of info...
- what caused the failure of his first marriage? Important because it could inform his feelings about THIS situ.
- he can test his feelings now by imagining his fiancee came to him with a positive pregnancy test....His? The other guy? Rinse, repeat?
A couple of missing pieces of info...
- what caused the failure of his first marriage? Important because it could inform his feelings about THIS situ.
- he can test his feelings now by imagining his fiancee came to him with a positive pregnancy test....His? The other guy? Rinse, repeat?
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 10:05 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 10:05 am to GEAUXmedic
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I think it's stupid to post personal shite on here... But I honestly have no one else to talk to. She admitted tonight there's someone else. Every time she said she was going to her "friends" house while I'm home with our daughter, she was with him.
How can someone tear apart a family? How selfish do you have to be to do that? To lie about it... To say you want to be a family and just cheat. How can someone do this? I'll never understand the level of selfishness... And I told her I forgave her, but I'm not sure why. Part of me just wanted her to feel better. Why do I still love her and care about her? Why am I the one who is left here alone?
In what world is this fair? I know life isn't fair... But how can a person be so cruel? This isn't just about me, it's about our daughter too... Our family... I'll never get it.
sorry to hear about this.
i just keep seeing that video posted yesterday where the guy & girl swapped phones..and he found out she was flirting with like 30 other dudes. felt bad for the dude. he tried to laugh it off but you could tell he was pissed. she seemed like 'so fricking what' about the whole deal.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 10:05 am to tke857
I have not read the entire thread, but didn't I read where the child is not his. He started dating her when she was prego. He needs to gather his belonging and move on down the road, his girlfriend is a ho.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 10:08 am to cajunangelle
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when you go off, you go off.
Well shite, if these chuckle- heads would take the time to read the OP's handful of posts instead of trying to get in some quick zinger full of misinformation they wouldn't look as stupid as the OP's fiancee looks whorish... and incredibly selfish... and manipulative...
Posted on 11/17/17 at 10:09 am to TSLG
Not trying to be a dick, but how often did she say she’s going to see her “friend”?
She has a kid at home and a job, how the f would she have time to do that without questioning her? That would be fishy AF
She has a kid at home and a job, how the f would she have time to do that without questioning her? That would be fishy AF
Posted on 11/17/17 at 10:09 am to SirWinston
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I don't get it. The daughter isn't his. It's not his. He needs to harden his heart.
He loves her like a daughter. You don't need the biological connection to feel this way. He has raised and taken care of hèr since birth. I can understand why he wants to remain in the little girl's life.
The problem is how to accomplish that without getting screwed over more by the mother. He's under no legal obligation to pay child support, but I'm certain she would use the child as a way of coaxing money from him.
What a shitty deal, much of it self inflicted. Walking away is probably the way to go but sounds like the OP doesn't want that.
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