re: My daughter passed away...

Prayers sent to help you find peace and to help get you through this.

I’m so very sorry

So sorry to hear this. My heart breaks for you and your wife.

I don't talk about it much on here, but my wife and I lost twin boys in January of 2019. They were stillborn at 33 weeks. It was the most devastating thing to ever happen to us. There isn't a day goes by that we don't think about them and miss them.

There are groups and organizations that are specifically for parents who lose a child either before birth or in infancy, some are national, some are local. If you need help finding one, tell me where you are and I will see what I can find. The support they offer is amazing because they can connect you with other parents who have been where you are, and let you know that you aren't alone, and help support you in your grief.

The three most important things...
1) Do not try to hold the emotions in and try to be the strong one. Let it out; cry, scream, yell, throw and break things if you have to. You have to get the pain and sadness out.
2) Be there for your wife. She is going to take this differently than you will. She will blame herself thinking she did something wrong. She did not. You have to reinforce that.
3) Your little girl mattered. She may have only lived a short time, but she was your little girl and she mattered. Do not let anyone else tell you different. Be sure you have pictures of her. Be sure to keep some mementos for a memory box, even if you put it away somewhere and keep it locked away.

Sorry for your loss. Wishing you strength in this tough time.

Sorry to hear this today and saying a prayer for you in this time of pain and heartache.

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My daughter passed away...

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Cant even imagine, Im deeply sorry for your loss.

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My daughter passed away...
Thank you for your prayers and encouragement.

I'm without words right now...

It's just numbing...

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I dont see where the thread you started last night went but if you remember I had mentioned going through a similar experience with our daughter in the NICU. She also passed after her 8 month battle a couple years ago.

I am so sorry to hear that man. Prayers to you and your family. This is the most difficult thing you'll ever go through and my recommendation when you're ready is therapy. Its so hard to find people to relate to when you experience this kind of trauma that understand.

My wife did therapy and I honestly saw a true uplift in her spirits while she was going to her therapist about 4 months after our daughter passed. Not sure why exactly, probably because Im so introverted, but I never went myself and I find its tougher for me to recollect the trauma we went through than my wife. Even so, the trauma of the memories fade and for the first several months I was afraid it never would. Soon it is only the best memories of the time you spent with your daughter that remain. Hang in there.

Lean on family as well if either you or your spouse/SO are close with them. They want to be there for you. Friends do to but our of the same age we found were terrified to have us open up in front of them as I think it has a lot to do with them having children/planning to have children and are afraid of the thoughts and tended to avoid the subject of our daughter when its all we ever wanted to vent about.

Theres never a day that passes that we dont think of and remember our daughter fondly. Let me know if you'd like to reach out. My wife and I will be praying for your family and healing.

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My wife did therapy and I honestly saw a true uplift in her spirits while she was going to her therapist

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People do not realize how validating therapy can be. They don't try to fix you. They explain why your feelings are normal in the situation.

I am sorry incredibly sorry, def will keep you and your wife in my thoughts

I can't imagine what you're going through. Prayers sir.