re: Married OTers, if could go back to single, look for wife again. What would you value most?

- Don't lie to me

- Don't cheat on me

- Don't frick up our money

- Be a fun and available sex partner

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Four words. Find your best friend. Anything less than that & 2, 3, 4+ decades becomes an awfully long time. Find the right one and it's gone in the blink of an eye.

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Man, this is so true. Married 24 years and I honestly can’t believe it, feels like we just got married. Life sucks if you work all day then dread coming home, I know many in marriages like this.

It certainly would not be wild sex and an abundance of blow jobs....cause the ring on her finger will stanch the flow of both considerably.....


I would look for the same thing I looked for in my first and thus far (38 years) only wife....a woman who I can tolerate who is able to tolerate me, one who's company I enjoy beyond the physical act of sex and who felt the same way about me, one who is driven to be successful, is caring, is nurturing, has a good sense of humor and a sense of adventure. I hit the lottery when I met my wife....as far as I know we have never had an issue that lead either one of us to consider ending our marriage....both of us have no doubt contemplating ending the others life at times but not our marriage. We have issues like any couple, most of the people who know us say this is our secret to success...we never let anything slide, we "discuss" it very vocally until we reach a consensus or exhaust ourselves trying to.

Looks are important....that is just a simple fact of life. Looks are directly tied to physical attraction and that is the basis of any marriage....if there ain't no sexual chemistry it ain't going to make it. Looks also fade over time. Character and personality are far more important...if a person is apt to lie and cheat at 21 they are probably going to be prone to doing so at 60....its a flaw. On the other hand if they are prone to being caring, nurturing, honest and enjoy life at 21 they will probably do so until they die. Looks fade and change....character tends to remain similar over time....

Well, I think the immortal Jimmy Wilson said it best:

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If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall
As soon as he married her and then she starts
To do the things that will break his heart

But if you make an ugly woman your wife
A-you'll be happy for the rest of your life
An ug-a-ly woman cooks meals on time
And she'll always give you peace of mind

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

Don't let your friends say you have no taste
Go ahead and marry anyway
Though her face is ugly, her eyes don't match
Take it from me, she's a better catch

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

Say man!
Hey baby!
I saw your wife the other day!
Yeah?
Yeah, an' she's ugly!
Yeah, she's ugly, but she sure can cook, baby!
Yeah, alright!

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

That, and still loves to...

Oh, and doesn't go spend all that money on things you don't both agree on.

And isn't too far off your political beliefs and at least stays quiet when they don't align.

And tries to stay in shape (like you should too).

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A red flag would be the desire for some absurdly expensive wedding.

Expensive is okay, just not stupidly over the top.

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On our second date I asked my future wife what she wanted for dinner....her response was "I have some Arby's coupons......" . I knew right then I had stumbled into something special. When we were ordering and she asked "can I get fries?" I fell head over heels in love!!!!

Keep in mind that a couple of weeks prior to this I asked another girl what she wanted for dinner, on our second date as well, and she said "Red Lobster". I had a brand spanking new credit card in my wallet with a $1000 limit and an erection....Red Lobster it was. When we ordered she ordered lobster. Red flashing warning signal but that credit card and that erection had my judgement clouded. When the waiter brought her the lobster I knew immediately she had never seen one before and was more or less convinced that the waiter had found that roach behind the dumpster and was playing a trick on her. He recognized this also and asked if she needed assistance getting into the thing. She timidly answered yes....and took one bite, did not care for it, and acted as if it was not fresh nor cooked correctly instead of admitting she had always wanted to eat the most expensive thing on the menu. MY judgement was already clearing up as my erection had already returned to normal but when we left and she said "Oh, there's a Steak and Shake....lets get a milkshake" all thoughts of romance flew out the window of my truck and all I could think about was tossing a shake down that bitches throat and getting her back to her mama and daddy ASAP....

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Love of blowjobs.

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Good luck with that. They all love to suck a cock when they ain't got a second ring on their finger....the first, the engagement ring, will serve to up the quantity of blow jobs, leading one to think further application of rings to that finger will result in a corresponding increase in oral sex received. At that point most men are planning on buying a ring every 24 months or so in order to increase the blow jobs. That is the main reason most of us are stunned when we apply that second ring, stand back with a knowing expectation of what is to ensue, only to find that the woman who blew us at least once a weekend for 3-5 years now only does it on our birthday LOL....if then. I am certain that some mens experience will differ but most married men will claim this is true and it is no doubt true to some extent....married men get laid WAY more than single men....but we do not get as many blowjobs...or most of us don't

I would probably just look for a surrogate so I could have kids and be done with the search.

What kind of mother would she be?

There is no more critical question imo.

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Peace

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