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re: Made mistake of offering wife a solution to a problem
Posted on 8/23/23 at 2:54 pm to Odysseus32
Posted on 8/23/23 at 2:54 pm to Odysseus32
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Imagine you were trying to solve a problem, and you were trying to do it in a way that was harmful, and it was harmful for a reason that everyone else knew, but you just happened to not know. Maybe you were trying to clean and you mixed two chemicals. You're trying to do one of the most basic household chores and she tells you not to mix two cleaners.
Might you feel embarassed? No? It doesn't matter because it isn't about how you might feel in that situation, it's about how she feels and it's your job to know your wife and her emotional needs.
You sound like a pleasure.
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Posted on 8/23/23 at 3:00 pm to Eighteen
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With females you need to quickly diagnose and categorize her rant/problems into two buckets
Sympathy or Solutions
the majority of the time, Sympathy/Support is the way to go. just nod and listen and say you understand/agree. Solutions come later (if ever)
This must be a universal thing with wives/girlfriends. I immediately want to offer solutions when all she wants me to do it listen. But it's so painful because I have a natural inclination to fix things.
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with my wife I can just ask, “do you want sympathy or solutions right now”
I'm going to use that going forward. Wish me luck.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 6:45 am to BugAC
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This post was edited on 3/14/24 at 9:56 am
Posted on 8/24/23 at 6:54 am to East Coast Band
Never respond to a wife complaining. Nod and smile only.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 7:04 am to threeputtforbogie
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“Do you want advice or do you want to vent?”
Can’t recommend this enough at the start of a conversation.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 7:07 am to East Coast Band
Posted on 8/24/23 at 7:27 am to Centinel
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“Do you want advice or do you want to vent?”
YOU'RE SUCH AN a-hole!
(this is the response you'll get)
"Vent, it is."
Posted on 8/24/23 at 5:31 pm to East Coast Band
Posted on 8/24/23 at 5:35 pm to fr33manator
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"I don't want you to fix it, I just need you to listen!"
Posted on 8/24/23 at 6:28 pm to East Coast Band
Before a woman can focus on solutions, they have to vent out their emotions. They want you to listen and react emotionally to validate their feelings so that they can be confident that they reacted appropriately. This is because men and women process emotions and compartmentalize experiences differently. It’s always a good idea in a relationship to communicate with your partner so that both of you are on the same page about when you need to vent vs when you need a solution. This will prevent future missteps.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 6:29 pm to East Coast Band
I hate all these threads that complain about wives, yall married these dumb bitches in the first place - so what do you expect?
Posted on 8/24/23 at 6:34 pm to GreenRockTiger
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I hate all these threads that complain about wives, yall married these dumb bitches in the first place - so what do you expect?
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GreenRockTiger
Posted on 8/24/23 at 6:34 pm to GreenRockTiger
I’ve read this whole thread yet I still get downvoted when I say women shouldn’t be allowed to vote.
It’s incredible that we leave the gate of the free world to a bunch of emotionally driven people who seem to think logical thinking is the devil’s work
It’s incredible that we leave the gate of the free world to a bunch of emotionally driven people who seem to think logical thinking is the devil’s work
Posted on 8/24/23 at 6:35 pm to GreenRockTiger
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I hate all these threads that complain about wives, yall married these dumb bitches in the first place - so what do you expect?
I assumed she would absorb the brilliance of Oldmanbeasley through sexual osmosis over time.
This post was edited on 8/24/23 at 6:35 pm
Posted on 8/24/23 at 7:20 pm to East Coast Band
“You’ve got a nail in your forehead.”
Posted on 8/24/23 at 7:52 pm to GeauxxxTigers23
quote:Not me, I’m totally with you on this.
I’ve read this whole thread yet I still get downvoted when I say women shouldn’t be allowed to vote.
Posted on 8/24/23 at 7:57 pm to fr33manator
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"I don't want you to fix it, I just need you to listen!"
Not how real men are wired but whatever
Posted on 8/25/23 at 12:34 am to East Coast Band
You made a bad choice in a spouse
Posted on 8/25/23 at 5:34 am to jmarto1
The BEST question to always have ready, “Honey, do you need an ear or an arm?”
Posted on 8/25/23 at 11:22 am to East Coast Band
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