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re: Kids during grad school

Posted on 2/6/23 at 4:40 pm to
Posted by CunningLinguist
Dallas, TX
Member since Mar 2006
18769 posts
Posted on 2/6/23 at 4:40 pm to
I could not even process having kids during grad school. I had a girlfriend I barely saw between school and being a TA to get paid.

I dumped the gf almost immediately after getting my master’s fwiw.
Posted by HotTakes
Member since Sep 2021
1498 posts
Posted on 2/6/23 at 4:54 pm to
Living with a stranger at that point
Posted by Epic Cajun
Lafayette, LA
Member since Feb 2013
32445 posts
Posted on 2/6/23 at 4:58 pm to
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Any of you baws had kids while in grad school/residency/etc? How hard was that work school life balance? Worth it? Any advice?

It didn't make sense for us, so we held off. Ending up having our first when I was 33 and my wife was 30, she's still young but we don't regret a thing.

I don't understand how some people go through grad school while having kids. We wanted to take a path with zero student loans, which would've probably been impossible if we started having kids while still in school.

I know several people who had kids while in residency and it has seemed to be fine, I just don't get it
Posted by Breauxsif
Member since May 2012
22290 posts
Posted on 2/6/23 at 5:00 pm to
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Oof, I'm facing my MBA in the face next year in my mid 30s and the realization is hitting me hard.

If you can do it online it works well with kids and working full time. If you’re wanting to move into the Product side or Program Management in your sector, it can open up many doors as a checkbox. If your company will pay for it, even better.
Posted by RandySavage
Member since May 2012
30840 posts
Posted on 2/6/23 at 5:01 pm to
I started my Ed.D when my kids were 3 months old, 5, and 7. Fortunately I could write a lot of my papers at work so it wasn't too bad. Getting the dissertation approved was rough at the end but well worth it in the long run.
Posted by akimoto
Thibodaux
Member since Jun 2010
581 posts
Posted on 2/6/23 at 11:31 pm to
It’s definitely doable as many people on this board have done it and people all over the world do it. The key is having a partner willing to make the same sacrifices to take care of the children. I started grad school with a new born and a two year old. We both worked full time while I was in school. She took care of the kids while I took care of my school. I found time to do school work after they went to bed and on my days off since I worked shift work.

I couldn’t have done it without her support and the grand parents. Now she’s back in school and I have to return the favor. ???????
Posted by JudgeHolden
Gila River
Member since Jan 2008
18566 posts
Posted on 2/6/23 at 11:40 pm to
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I dumped the gf almost immediately after getting my master’s fwiw.


I don’t know the story and don’t want to presume.

But the way you said this doesn’t make you look good.
Posted by YatInTheHat
Member since Apr 2017
866 posts
Posted on 2/7/23 at 12:21 am to
I'm halfway through my grad school program, I'm 54. Doing this program to position my career into an easier end of career place and it gives me something to do like teaching in my field during retirement. I probably can't or don't want to fully retire, so this works.

My kids are all over 15, but I still drive the youngest around and it disrupts my schedule.

I freelance so I scaled back my work, its nice to not have full-time work breathing down my neck but I have way less income than last year. Fortunately my spouse agreed to carry us through this period, I also have money saved.

My week is barely manageable as planned, but I can do it. One X-factor pops up and I feel fricked, this happens about 1x a month but hey its just how life works. This month, there's some shite every week. It's never easy.

I'm just hanging on, moving forward and taking it one week at a time.
I hate writing research essays.
This post was edited on 2/7/23 at 12:23 am
Posted by ReadyPlayer1
Clown World
Member since Oct 2020
1062 posts
Posted on 2/7/23 at 12:44 am to
Kinda depends on how they end up being also. Have a 2 1/2 and 9 month old. They won't sleep till like 10pm and they are up at 7 most mornings. They are high energy and a lot of work but we love it. Have friends with baby's and theirs would be sleeping at 730-800 and sleep for 12 hours. They definitely had it alot easier.
Posted by JudgeHolden
Gila River
Member since Jan 2008
18566 posts
Posted on 2/7/23 at 1:09 am to
quote:

career place and it gives me something to do like teaching in my field during retirement. I probably can't or don't want to fully retire, so this works.


I’m thinking about grad school for a similar reason. That said, I don’t really need the degree to do what I want to do. I do want the knowledge base, though. Or maybe I just want to see if I’ve still got it in me.
Posted by Dalosaqy
I can't quite re
Member since Dec 2007
12304 posts
Posted on 2/7/23 at 2:30 am to
Doable.
Posted by Solo Cam
Member since Sep 2015
32632 posts
Posted on 2/7/23 at 5:03 am to
We had our first kid during my wife's residency. It was tough on her and at times it felt like I was a single parent but we waited and were ready so it wasn't a burden. But had to reset priorities. A lot less fishing and drinking with the boys but it wasn't a problem. That little girl had me wrapped around her finger the moment she was born.
Posted by WylieTiger
Member since Nov 2006
12944 posts
Posted on 2/7/23 at 6:40 am to
I completed an online MBA at LSU Shreveport a few years ago. Wife works full time and we have two kids.

I studied at night and weekends, and worked 40 to 50 hours per week. I maxed out and got it done in 11 months. Started on Labor Day and finished at the end of June the following year.

It was grueling. I could have gone the 24 month route but decided 11 months of shite is better than 24.

Be patient and dedicated. I was in my late 30s.

Honestly I waited too long to do it but that degree has opened many doors for my career. Just get it done if you can. Also, shop around. The cost can vary wildly. I paid around 15k total.
This post was edited on 2/7/23 at 6:42 am
Posted by DiamondDog
Louisiana
Member since Nov 2019
10564 posts
Posted on 2/7/23 at 6:46 am to
LOL absolutely not. My wife and I finished our Masters before having kids. I'd have lost my mind.

I am going get my MBA once the kids are over 5 years old. Too much crap going on with them until then.
Posted by Sus-Scrofa
Member since Feb 2013
8146 posts
Posted on 2/7/23 at 6:48 am to
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plus usually better living conditions, more spending money, etc.



Wait wait wait, is this true? I did grad school wrong then.
Posted by RoscoeSanCarlos
Member since Oct 2017
1329 posts
Posted on 2/7/23 at 6:59 am to
I had a full-time job, wife, and 2 kids when I started grad school. I’m sure it was really difficult at the time. Looking back I don’t recall anything specific. My wife was a saint and very supportive. Glad I did it and would say it’s always a worth the investment.
Posted by LSU-MNCBABY
Knightsgate
Member since Jan 2004
24353 posts
Posted on 2/7/23 at 7:08 am to
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Oof, I'm facing my MBA in the face next year in my mid 30s and the realization is hitting me hard.


If you’re doing it at lsu it’s an absolute joke, I had 2 kids under 5 while doing mine. Aside from the bullshite group work it’s all very easy.

You don’t learn anything, pay your money and they credential you.

Eta: I did the professional one I think, the one that is at night. The weekend one sounded like way to much time sitting up there. Have heard the online one is even more of a joke.
This post was edited on 2/7/23 at 7:10 am
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