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Kids being dragged down by their parents
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:42 pm
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:42 pm
It is so sad to see young people that are having their lives ruined by worthless parents.
I have a girl that works for me who is extremely smart and hard working. She just got into nursing school. All that is probably going to go down the drain because she has to take care of her parents (who are in their 50s) like they are babies. She also has to support other worthless family members.
Today, I just had another girl that works for me out in her notice that she has to quit to take of her father who has some health issues (he is also young and has a perfectly cable fiance).
It is not my place to tell them what to do, but it is so sad to see these young girls having opportunities slip away.
Anyone here deal with similar situations?
I have a girl that works for me who is extremely smart and hard working. She just got into nursing school. All that is probably going to go down the drain because she has to take care of her parents (who are in their 50s) like they are babies. She also has to support other worthless family members.
Today, I just had another girl that works for me out in her notice that she has to quit to take of her father who has some health issues (he is also young and has a perfectly cable fiance).
It is not my place to tell them what to do, but it is so sad to see these young girls having opportunities slip away.
Anyone here deal with similar situations?
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:44 pm to GEAUXT
Frick that.
My kids didn’t ask to be born. They are my responsibility and I brought them into this world to have a better life than I did.
My kids didn’t ask to be born. They are my responsibility and I brought them into this world to have a better life than I did.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:45 pm to GEAUXT
quote:No, she doesn’t. It’s her life. She can make her own decisions.
she has to take care of her parents (who are in their 50s) like they are babies. She also has to support other worthless family members
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:46 pm to GEAUXT
My father was a drunk Canadian midget who’s only hobby was getting hammered and then climbing trees to smoke darts
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:47 pm to GEAUXT
Observed lackluster Mom (full commitment to smart phone and nil commitment to her 3 kids), while one of young kids got tutored in reading. Tutored kid 7ish and clearly needed tutoring.
Prediction: this kid will be supporting lackluster Mom in future far more than lackluster Mom supported kid to this point in kid’s life.
Prediction: this kid will be supporting lackluster Mom in future far more than lackluster Mom supported kid to this point in kid’s life.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:48 pm to GEAUXT
Sometimes you need to set boundaries or cut ties, even if it is with your parents. Sucks, but you don't need someone dragging you down.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:48 pm to GEAUXT
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Anyone here deal with similar situations?
One of my dad's friends kept guiltiling me about moving away.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:49 pm to GEAUXT
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he also has to support other worthless family members
so its not just the parents who are the problem? interesting thread title considering your post.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:49 pm to GEAUXT
Parents probably living large, drowning in debt, and didn't put away for retirement.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:50 pm to GEAUXT
They need to talk to a counselor about learning to set healthy boundaries if they’re allowing anyone to run/control their adult lives.
Life is short and a gift. It’s great to love and offer some care to adult family members but not when it takes over your entire life. That’s not living.
Life is short and a gift. It’s great to love and offer some care to adult family members but not when it takes over your entire life. That’s not living.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:50 pm to GEAUXT
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Anyone here deal with similar situations?
My mom thinks it's her place to try and fix the lives of her shitty siblings and random cousins and the like. Her sister lives with her now. I remember when I was a kid that she would take in relatives and friends all the time to try and help them out. Most ended up staying for very extended amounts of time and nearly all ended up bad. Like one of her cousins stole something like $7k worth of jewelry from her. One friend ended up having to go through the legal eviction process because she just wouldn't leave or get a job.
It's sad. My brother and I have had numerous talks with her about it over the years. I really start to worry about it now with her getting up in age and her mental function has started to decline. But she won't hear any of it. She claims she likes to "help people".
Posted on 6/24/22 at 12:57 pm to GEAUXT
One of my sons best friends is in this situation. His idiot mother is a raging alcoholic that has burned every bridge at every turn. She is a selfish worthless frickin woman. He ended up having to move her in with him back in January and every time I see him he is defeated.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 1:01 pm to GEAUXT
My parents are too proud for that, but my bros and I have all financially ascended to the point where we could and would pay for their care and feeding if it came down to it.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 1:03 pm to OldmanBeasley
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My father was a drunk Canadian midget who’s only hobby was getting hammered and then climbing trees to smoke darts
Would have partied with.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 1:04 pm to GEAUXT
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It is not my place to tell them what to do, but it is so sad to see these young girls having opportunities slip away.
It is hard to watch this. It's even harder when you're in that position.
I had a lot of crazy ambitions as a child. My mother did her best, but she was single and burnt out and told me no. Many times, a no was warranted, but many more it might have been better to humor me. I think she was so used to being poor that it became part of her identity. The first time I flew in an airplane was long after I was an adult. When I told her what I wanted to do with my life I was often scoffed at.
I don't think it was a lack of her belief, I think she just thought certain things were out of reach for people of our status. Not extravagant things either, just basic things like a house with more than one bathroom, vacations, etc. It was how she was raised.
Consequently, I think children of people like that can also adopt it as normal. You have to shed a lot of yourself to realize both that your parents tried their best and loved you, but they also didn't know what the frick they were doing.
It's a sad thing to be a part of, and when I see it from the outside as well I can only watch. Either someone realizes they are being held back or they make every excuse in the book to keep being held back.
Edit - My mom let it slip last time we saw her that she only has about $100k socked away for retirement. She is close to retirement age. I worry about that often.
This post was edited on 6/24/22 at 1:06 pm
Posted on 6/24/22 at 1:17 pm to Odysseus32
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Many times, a no was warranted, but many more it might have been better to humor me. I think she was so used to being poor that it became part of her identity. The first time I flew in an airplane was long after I was an adult. When I told her what I wanted to do with my life I was often scoffed at.
My parents were kind of like that. They didn't expose me to anything. I was 30 before I really felt like I was actually living life. It took that long to really shake their influence off of me. I worked in a grocery store as a cashier in high school, and my dad thought I should stay there and "work my way up" instead of actually getting into the world and trying to make something of myself.
shite is traumatizing.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 1:23 pm to GEAUXT
I see the same thing. More in the African American (but also some in the anglo) community.
Bad spot to be in. My mom is 87, but only has SS and a small pension. She breaks even every month, but has 4 kids that are able to kick in here and there to help out (pay for yard mowing, etc.).
Bad spot to be in. My mom is 87, but only has SS and a small pension. She breaks even every month, but has 4 kids that are able to kick in here and there to help out (pay for yard mowing, etc.).
Posted on 6/24/22 at 1:27 pm to GetCocky11
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My parents were kind of like that. They didn't expose me to anything. I was 30 before I really felt like I was actually living life. It took that long to really shake their influence off of me. I worked in a grocery store as a cashier in high school, and my dad thought I should stay there and "work my way up" instead of actually getting into the world and trying to make something of myself.
shite is traumatizing.
Sounds very similar.
When my wife and I made the decision to move away the reaction from our parents were so different. Her dad said "Well, yall won't come back. It's beautiful up there. I can't wait to visit."
We told my mom about 4 days before we left and she said "You can't do that." in a huff. I just composed myself and said "that response is exactly why I didn't tell you earlier."
You almost have to go through a period of self loathing so you can objectively (or as close to objectively as possible) see your childhood for what it was.
Posted on 6/24/22 at 1:31 pm to Odysseus32
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Her dad said "Well, yall won't come back. It's beautiful up there. I can't wait to visit."
My dad was diagnosed with an illness 15 years ago that we knew was going to destroy his hearing. Instead of learning sign language in those 15 years, he decided to just pout and now is unable to communicate with anybody.
My parents, while they provided for me growing up, they are really disappointing people.
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