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re: It’s time that we had a discussion about modern American weddings
Posted on 6/4/25 at 12:59 pm to Jimbeaux
Posted on 6/4/25 at 12:59 pm to Jimbeaux
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Why are non-religious people bothering to get married, and what is the meaning of the wedding ceremony?
Why are religious people bothering to make it legal?
Non-religious couples are making a legal commitment to one another. I'm not quite sure what your hang up is about a wedding being non-religious. It is like you think couples are incapable of committing to one another with vows they believe in and uphold without the framework of religion.
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Posted on 6/4/25 at 1:09 pm to slidingstop
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EVERYTHING changes after the wedding.
I was married before. I'm living with my gf now. I'm avoiding marriage as long as I can. I don't need to get married again.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 1:51 pm to saintsfan1977
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They absolutely should. How the frick you know if you'll make it if you don't test the water
My two cents, it doesn’t work as well that way.
Everyone who cohabitates with someone will have problems, including married folks. When you aren’t married, it makes it too easy to quit and move out instead of working through these issues. It’s hard to pretend like you’re married when you have nothing binding you.
I read an article (I can link if you want) stating that 34% of couples who live together before at least being engaged divorced in comparison with 23% who waited. When dealing with an estimated 122 million married Americans, that’s a big difference.
While the divorce rate is very high, it still motivates people to try and work their way through problems more than if not married due to the financial and emotional impact of divorce.
This post was edited on 6/4/25 at 1:54 pm
Posted on 6/4/25 at 2:24 pm to Jimbeaux
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What’s the purpose of weddings in the minds of young non-religious, non-traditional couples these days?
The last 10 non-church weddings that I have been to were so devoid of meaning and seriousness that I wondered what the hell they were spending all that money for. They seemed to be grasping weakly for meaning and purpose but it was all a big joke.
The majority of the “presiders” (wedding officials) were just a close friend (best man) or a parent, and they stood up there with no prepared words other than the “I do’s”. They quickly turned into a toast/roast of the couple, and usually juat the groom (can’t make fun of the woman, only the man).
Some would oddly rope in some church symbolism, like a reading from the Bible, or saying the Our Father, even though both of the couple were avowed atheists/agnostics.
In all cases, the couple had been living together for years and many had children already. Some owned a house together. Many of the cohabitating marital couples were gay, but in “open relationships”.
Can some of you guys who are in this demographic give me some insight into what’s going on? Is this just a random reason to throw yourselves a big party and a big vacation?
Even the vows are watered down. Gone is any mention of “for better or for worse”, or “til death do you part”. It’s tacitly understood that the vows are actually, “until you decide to divorce”.
You've failed to understand that none of this......none of it......is about you.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 2:39 pm to Jimbeaux
No thanks
Posted on 6/4/25 at 2:47 pm to Jimbeaux
quote:"Many" of the "last 10 non-church weddings" you attended were gay, open relationships? So you've been to 5+ gay swinger weddings? This is total bullshite.
The last 10 non-church weddings that I have been to...Many of the cohabitating marital couples were gay, but in “open relationships”.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 2:49 pm to Mingo Was His NameO
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You go to trashy wedding, which means you surround yourself with trashy people.
None of the weddings I go to are like this
This seems to be how arrogant pricks claim to be better than other people.
Is that what you’re going for? Couldn’t pass up an opportunity to claim to be classier than OP?
Tell us about your childhood. Why do you think other people looked down on you? And why do think this coping strategy makes things better?
Posted on 6/4/25 at 2:50 pm to Jimbeaux
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Why are non-religious people bothering to get married, and what is the meaning of the wedding ceremony?
Me and my wife had a non religious wedding ceremony.
We bothered because we wanted a family, and every indicator proves that kids have better outcomes when raised in a traditional household. If we didn't want kids, we probably would have not been married.
As for the meaning of the ceremony, it was just a celebration with friends and family. It wasn't a huge ordeal.
Hope that helps.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 3:49 pm to Salmon
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Me and my wife had a non religious wedding ceremony. We bothered because we wanted a family, and every indicator proves that kids have better outcomes when raised in a traditional household. If we didn't want kids, we probably would have not been married. As for the meaning of the ceremony, it was just a celebration with friends and family. It wasn't a huge ordeal. Hope that helps.
Yes it does. Thank you for sharing!
I would be interested to know some specifics of the wedding ceremony, but this thread was not well received, and so I won’t agitate the wolves.
May God bless your marriage!
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:13 pm to Jimbeaux
You can ask.
It was a small ceremony. We had like 80 guests. Our friend officiated. The ceremony itself was like 15 minutes. It was outside in a field on my parents property. Super chill.
Honestly, the ceremony was mostly for our parents, as we would have likely just went to the courthouse and had a party if it was just for us. But the ceremony part was important to our Moms, mostly, and we didn’t have any against a ceremony. I’m glad we had a ceremony though. My wife was beautiful.
It was a small ceremony. We had like 80 guests. Our friend officiated. The ceremony itself was like 15 minutes. It was outside in a field on my parents property. Super chill.
Honestly, the ceremony was mostly for our parents, as we would have likely just went to the courthouse and had a party if it was just for us. But the ceremony part was important to our Moms, mostly, and we didn’t have any against a ceremony. I’m glad we had a ceremony though. My wife was beautiful.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:21 pm to UpToPar
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You've gone to multiple gay swinger weddings
Does the cake look like an upside down pineapple?
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:39 pm to Jimbeaux
Last 10 non-church weddings?
I’m glad I’m not popular like you. F that
I’m glad I’m not popular like you. F that
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:39 pm to Epic Cajun
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it was at the Ritz
Still trashy. Venue and the amount of money spent and/or last name doesn't matter. Trashy is as trashy does.
This post was edited on 6/4/25 at 4:41 pm
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:42 pm to Jimbeaux
IDGAF what people do, but I consider an invitation to a destination wedding to be a slap in the face. I am NOT spending thousands because you don’t want to foot the bill for a honeymoon AND a wedding. GFY
Posted on 6/4/25 at 5:42 pm to Gravitiger
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"Many" of the "last 10 non-church weddings" you attended were gay, open relationships? So you've been to 5+ gay swinger weddings? This is total bullshite.
Alright, you got me on that one. I’ve been to 3 gay weddings and 1 was open about the fact that they were open relationships. I don’t know the bedroom details of the other 2 gay couples.
I’ve got two more female gay weddings to attend at the end of this year!
Posted on 6/4/25 at 6:26 pm to GRTiger
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Is that based on the Jewish religion or is it secular in nature?
Term Jewish holds two separate contexts; one racial and one religious. One can be a Jew ethnically and not practice a belief in God.
Breaking glass is a cultural tradition.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 6:49 pm to Jimbeaux
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Catholic family
I see the problem now…
Posted on 6/4/25 at 7:02 pm to Vacherie Saint
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IDGAF what people do
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but I consider an invitation to a destination wedding to be a slap in the face.
Destination weddings are 10xs better than a regular wedding.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 7:08 pm to Jimbeaux
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What’s the purpose of weddings in the minds of young non-religious, non-traditional couples these days?
Spending money that could be used to pay down burdensome student debt, or as a down payment on unaffordable housing.
After all, she needs that $10,000 bridal gown.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 7:20 pm to Jimbeaux
As someone else said, what you’re talking about is just a financial agreement ceremony
Marriage is a holy sacrament. The entirety of the Bible can be summed up in the fact that Christ wants to marry his church on earth. It begins with the marriage of Adam and Eve in Genesis and ends with the marriage of Christ and the church in Revelation. The whole purpose of marriage is a glimpse of how heaven will be. Unfortunately it has stripped of its meaning and even more so recently. Jesus himself even said “Moses allowed divorce because of your hardness of hearts, but in the beginning it wasn’t so.” Because sin entered the world, we have seen the destruction of one of the most fundamental constructs of society. That’s my take on marriage. Of course it isn’t perfect because we live in an imperfect world. But it should be held up as a symbol for Christ and his love for the church (us).
Marriage is a holy sacrament. The entirety of the Bible can be summed up in the fact that Christ wants to marry his church on earth. It begins with the marriage of Adam and Eve in Genesis and ends with the marriage of Christ and the church in Revelation. The whole purpose of marriage is a glimpse of how heaven will be. Unfortunately it has stripped of its meaning and even more so recently. Jesus himself even said “Moses allowed divorce because of your hardness of hearts, but in the beginning it wasn’t so.” Because sin entered the world, we have seen the destruction of one of the most fundamental constructs of society. That’s my take on marriage. Of course it isn’t perfect because we live in an imperfect world. But it should be held up as a symbol for Christ and his love for the church (us).
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