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re: Is this normal in a relationship?
Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:48 am to lsuguy13
Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:48 am to lsuguy13
Make. It. Work. Like kingbob said, do whatever it takes. Do chores, take her out, show you're a loving father and would make a great husband.
I may be in the minority, but I'm of the opinion that marriage isn't about your happiness. It's about your kids. You do whatever it takes to give them a stable home.
I may be in the minority, but I'm of the opinion that marriage isn't about your happiness. It's about your kids. You do whatever it takes to give them a stable home.
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Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:48 am to lsuguy13
She’s probably miserable and county because the father of her daughter and the person she’s still with is not her husband.
She’s probably downright pissed about it, I don’t blame her.
She’s probably downright pissed about it, I don’t blame her.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:49 am to lsuguy13
She may want you to act like an adult. Sorry you view that as bringing you down
Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:49 am to TigerFanInSouthland
Troof. I also think postpartum depression is a possibility.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:49 am to Cosmo
[img]the LP [/img] gfy ... You're probably right but gfy 
Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:52 am to lsuguy13
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I’d say about 40 percent of the time I really don’t like her.
Stay with your side piece 40% of the time
Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:52 am to weadjust
Fact
Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:54 am to lsuguy13
After the kids come and the sex gets old you have to learn to like each other or not.
I think it's normal
I think it's normal
Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:55 am to SabiDojo
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Make. It. Work. Like kingbob said, do whatever it takes. Do chores, take her out, show you're a loving father and would make a great husband.
I may be in the minority, but I'm of the opinion that marriage isn't about your happiness. It's about your kids. You do whatever it takes to give them a stable home.
Worth a shot
I mean, people get into funks. They grow apart, but it doesn't mean they've fundamentally changed (necessarily).
If she's not sleeping with other dudes, you haven't figured out she's just simply a bad person (sounds like probably not if she's a good mom), then to me, it seems like it is worth seeing what you can do to reconcile.
I'm of the opinion that a lot of serious relationships are salvageable. It's one thing when you're stupid and you marry/have a kid with someone you don't know very well, and it turns out you hate the person. Or when they do things that can't be fixed (cheat, etc.). But if she's the same girl and resentment has built up or the magic is gone, that shite isn't beyond repair.
FWIW it's not always worth saving a relationship, but when you have a kid, I'd think it would be. Do you tell her this stuff? As in, "You're a great mom, I think I'm a good dad, I want to be a better _____ (husband is what you're looking for you fricking bum)." I'm guessing no, so it's no surprise there is some resentment there.
I don't know how they do shite in Laffy, but I suspect going through every day explaining how you're an unmarried mom but you're still in a relationship with the dad gets pretty old.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:58 am to Pettifogger
Well said, as usual.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 9:58 am to supatigah
Yeah I just feel like we are chasing our tail. She wants me to do more around the house, I want her to talk to me and not yell and go crazy. (There are a few other things that are in the reg arguments as well)And my head is saying to me (which I don’t say out loud) I work and pay for pretty much everything, I feel like she should do most of the house hold stuff, but maybe that’s just old school thinking. She makes a little extra money cleaning houses on the weekends that my family hooked her up with. You are right about it being more than we expected, but I just feel like she’s got it good. She doesn’t really have to work, not pay any bills, I started my own company out here and take care of her, brand new house, I don’t know. I’d think she be kind of grateful but those times of gratitude are few and far between.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 10:00 am to lsuguy13
Dude, just do some chores. It's not that big of a deal. Whatever makes her hate you less. That's what being a good husband is all about.
Just do whatever it takes to make her hate you less.
Just do whatever it takes to make her hate you less.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 10:00 am to lsuguy13
OP how old are y’all
Posted on 2/4/18 at 10:01 am to lsuguy13
Will read again
Posted on 2/4/18 at 10:02 am to Pettifogger
I don’t think either of us are “changed” as you said. She just has some deep seaded resentments towards me, that I feel for the most part are unwarranted. But those are her feelings and I acknowledge them.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 10:03 am to DavidTheGnome
I’m 27. She’s 29.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 10:04 am to SabiDojo
I wish it were as simple as that, it’s like no matter what I do I lose. She’ll find something to yell and fight with me about. It’s like she’s only comfortable fighting or some shite.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 10:05 am to lsuguy13
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I work and pay for pretty much everything, I feel like she should do most of the house hold stuff,
Yea that’s not really how any of this works anymore.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 10:05 am to Mo Jeaux
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Having a child out of wedlock is trashy.
AND the road to poverty for women and children.
Period.
Posted on 2/4/18 at 10:06 am to lsuguy13
Well, just try. If it doesn't work, try harder.
Just telling you, custody wars are a bitch. And chances are they only get worse as the child gets older.
Just telling you, custody wars are a bitch. And chances are they only get worse as the child gets older.
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