re: Is marriage worth it?

Old single dudes are just as crazy as old single woman.

You don’t want to wind up that way.

“A man without a family can be a very bad thing.”

I'm getting married in two months and I'm excited to move on to the next stage. We are both CPAs, will have all our financials screen shotted day before, and we are both signing a prenup as her family has a non-profit trust and my family has some other items (it's mostly for the non-profit). We have been living together in a shared purchased house for two years, so in our mind this is just the legal check the box, we love each other and both agree the court house wedding is basically the first mile of a marathon.

I'm not sucking up either, she's awesome. She will see my posts every now and then and bust out laughing. Marriage really is worth it when you marry your best friend. Hilariously enough, I'm the closest thing to a feminist in our house, and she's as based as I am. She asked me if we should get a truck gun the other day, I almost shed a tear.

there's really no logical benefit to getting married for a man these days. Although there may be business and tax benefits. Maybe for the baby boomer generation and back there was benefits from a societal or moral standpoint. These days relationships can be pretty decent until you commit to a marriage and then things usually start going south hence most marriages now end in divorce. My grandparents generation who'd be 100 y/o if they were here that was unheard of.

Yes I would. Marriage is an outdated survival tactic that is no longer useful. Microwave oven rendered it obsolete.

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Would you cancel the engagement before the marriage if you could go back?

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Nope. 24 years as of yesterday. I was 20, she was 19…probably a nutty thing to say, but if I had to change something I might have shortened the engagement (it was 10 months).

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Is marriage worth it?

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I’ve come to realize that the way one chooses to evaluate this question is actually the answer.

If you say/think things like “ROI”, “protect my assets”, “what does he/she bring to the”table”, etc…then no. It’s not worth it to you. It will never be worth it to you, so save yourself and someone else some heartache and misery and never get married.

If you want to build a life together with someone else, be completely unified and believe your marriage is bigger than the two of you combined, it is 100% worth it.

Would not cancel it for one second. I think a lot of people spend their dating life never getting past the flatter stage of someone liking them to think long term. I'm not sure I did, but I lucked out. Finding someone who you think adds value to your life is hard to do without investing years with that person. Marriage isn't always fun and easy, but if you marry the right person and have the right mentality with it, it's 100% worth it more often than it isn't. It isn't a business transaction as much as a lot of guys make it out to be. And if that's you're view of marriage, then it won't be worth it to you.

Let me know when you hit 10 years.

Are kids worth it?
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What a dumb thread.

Is marriage worth it?

It depends.

Marriage to the right person makes your life so much better and gives you some meaning beyond yourself.

Marriage to the wrong person makes life difficult and steals every bit of joy.

If she is the right person grab on and don’t let go.

What problem does marriage solve?