re: Is having kids worth it?

Having kids is the greatest miracle I've ever experienced in my lifetime. I cannot describe it. But yes it was worth it. Abundantly.

Absolutely

Yes. My children have help me be more caring and humble.

Even though expensive, kids will bring you the greatest joy you've ever experienced in life.

Once you go through it, everything else in life seems meaningless.

You do you but get a dog first, if you can keep it alive a few years, then start thinking on kids. But they are a blessing.

This is a broad brush and I'm not trying to be rude.

But if you're married and of the appropriate age, and you don't want kids or are uncertain about it, then I would start by taking an inward look at what you value, your priorities, etc.

I think there are some people who just aren't meant to have kids, and it's not a fault of their own. I think there are some that can't, and it's tragic. I think there are many who for whatever reason have been "corrupted" by our culture into wanting things of fleeting, meaningless value over children. All of us, to some lesser extent, are chasing such things.

If it's one of the first two - so be it, I'm not demeaning everyone who just isn't wired toward it and certainly not those who cannot. But I think in a society that is already quite vapid, we're about to experience a tidal wave of meaninglessness and hopelessness in coming decades from choices being made now.

This is such a difficult question to get good opinions on. Obviously everyone who has kids is going to say yes

It really comes down to if you're ready to be an adult and stop being childish.

My wife's sister is 37 and likes to go out drinking on the weekends and go on trips so we have to watch her dog. She is really enjoying herself but when shes older and there is nobody there for her she will probably have regrets of being childless and single.

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I think there are many who for whatever reason have been "corrupted" by our culture into wanting things of fleeting, meaningless value over children.

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The Earth is pretty big and most people see very little of it in their lifetime. God blessed humanity with a beautiful planet with diverse landscapes and cultures that can never be fully explored by any one person. If you choose to raise a family you have to put that exploration off for a long time and you confine yourself to a very small portion of the world so that you can take care of your kids and raise them in a stable environment.

Is it vapid, fleeting, or meaningless to want to see more of that? I don't think so, and it's the primary reason that I don't have kids to date. Maybe I'll change my mind idk

And the idea that you'll be old with no one to take care of you is quite selfish

Being a parent will never be logical to your brain when weighing it against costs/responsibilities/etc.

I had to be dragged into parenthood by my spouse, because I overanalyze everything.

Is having kids worth it? It's the only thing on this planet worth it. The love you will have for your kids, and the love you will receive from your kids is incomparable to anything else in the world.