re: Im 40 and losing interest in alot of things

Same here at 44. Used to love to swing dance and Texas two step but the urge is gone and I’m bored with it. I used to love to compete in powerlifting and did my first meet in 7 years over the weekend and was ready to leave after the first event, and I won 4 awards, but it’s like meh. Sports are becoming blah as well. I just need to find new hobbies and things that’ll keep my interest longer. I think I’ve run my course with my old hobbies.

Get your tes levels checked. Seriously.

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Im 40 and losing interest

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Get your T-levels checked. Mine are like 400 and going see a doc tomorrow to get back on meds. I’ve been here before and got as low as 200 and when the meds are right I feel amazing.
Being that you are 40, you might be candidate for TRT

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Kids/wife are still super important and taken care of.

Things that I lost interest in:
Sports (used to rule weekends with game on drink/cooking)
Cooking (see above)
Dancing/Going Out
Bought a bunch of gear to start fishing, never even went yet.
No motivation or get up and go.

Is this a normal thing? Everything just seems so routine now and just heading down a boring path.

I know 95% of Adulting is work, bills wash repeat, but starting to get old.

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I posted in the other thread about this. Outside of the wife/kids (I don't have either) thing all of this could have been written by me and I'm 41 myself so just a year older.

Like you fall weekends used to revolve around football and either going to games/tailgating or watching at home and maybe inviting some people over to drink (or go to their house). Mostly on Saturday but some for NFL on Sunday as well.

I've kind of been over college football for several years now, really almost since the pandemic. I still watch some NFL but with the Saints really being terrible this year it's made me far less interested in the NFL as well. This last Sunday I can truly say I didn't watch a minute of the Saints or of any football game. That would have never happened in the past.

Honestly I don't see myself watching any NFL now until the playoffs unless I get up enough to watch the Saints.

But it goes beyond football. Besides football I no longer watch the other sports I used to follow, which were MLB and Nascar. Given a lot of people are the same in no longer following those sports, but I still find it sad.

I used to play tennis regularly but I haven't played in a year and a half. I want to get back to playing tennis in 2025 but I also worry my body is going to scream when I do.

Never really was into the club scene even in my 20s but like you really don't even care that much about the bar scene anymore either. Used to enjoy occasionally going to a country bar that did line dancing (though I never really knew how to line dance, lol) but I've been to that bar once since the pandemic.

I also at one point in the past bought some fishing gear but never ended up going. Eventually I sold the gear. Part of me has thought about giving that a try again.

But I know how you feel. The loss of interest in sports, dancing, bars/clubs, doing new activities, just going out in general. And like you just not having the motivation. For every time I say "I'm going to go out tonight", 95% of the time I either just stay in or come home fairly quickly.

And sadly the only thing I have gotten into in recent years is going to strip clubs. I only live an hour from Tampa which has a lot of strip clubs. Cue the "lonely 41 year old man going to strip clubs" cliche. Even that though the last 2 times has felt empty and meaningless.

I wish I had answers for you man. I wish I had answers myself. I hate you are going through this but it's good to know I'm not the only man my age who is going through this. And hopefully my post lets you know you aren't the only one going through it either.

Low t
Depression
Exercise

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What did you do for a living? When did you retire?

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I was an attorney for an oil company and retired 22 years ago.

a lot to be thankful to God for. Put God first and you will be content. Now consider seeing a counselor and go get physically active.

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Sports (used to rule weekends with game on drink/cooking) Cooking (see above)

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I think this is normal. You get involved with kids and stuff and you realize how time consuming some of this is

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Cooking (see above)

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Man I love cooking. Blackstone completely changed my opinion on a lot of things. So much you can do with that.

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Dancing/Going Out

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This is something you should’ve lost interest in about 15 years ago. No grown arse adult with kids should be hitting the club every weekend.

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Bought a bunch of gear to start fishing, never even went yet.

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Fishing is cathartic to me. I’ve never had a bad day fishing and anytime I get out I absolutely enjoy every minute of it. Kayak fishing is a ton of fun too.

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No motivation or get up and go.

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I’m sure everyone deals with this. I do, and I work so much it’s tough knowing I’ll be doing this for at least 20 more years. And I don’t have time to do many of the things I enjoy. And that’s what bums me out the most.