re: If married with children, how long were you married before first child was born?

6 months, 11 days.

Obviously wasn't wearing a rubber

5 years. As soon as we got married people kept asking us when were we having kids. We wanted to have some fun first. It got so annoying I started telling people we can't and they would get embarrassed.

I think it's incredibly intrusive for someone to ask a couple that question. You never know if they are trying but aren't capable.

2 and 4 years after marriage

Married Feb. 1974, first child Oct. 1977

4 years

together as a couple, 12 years. Married 5 before first baby. Got to travel, buy a house in a good school district, start careers.

For me as a mom, I got to see what climbing the corporate ladder, worrying about billable hours, being avail 24hrs for demanding bosses, and all the other stress that goes into a career is all about. Due to other circumstances, I had to continue this path thru the first two kids' births. But after the third, it made being a stay at home mom an easy decision for me. I'll never wonder "what could have been". Grateful that my husband finds fulfillment professionally, because I prefer being a daily participant in my children's lives and planning dinners. Winning.

We were married for 6 weeks when she got pregnant with #1. Had to get a sitter to go out for our first anniversary.