re: Husband gets paternity test and discovers his daughter isn’t his

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Possibly because his daughter looks nothing like him.

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There is literally an evolutionary meme of babies looking like the father for this very reason

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There was a mixup with me when leaving the hospital. I forget if my parents took the wrong baby home or they had to get me from another house, but yeah...this does happen

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WTF...thread hijack, but who cares..tell us more! I'm fascinated to hear how it went down or was figured out

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Could you imagine one family being rich as hell and the other being dirt poor... and the kids found out they went to the wrong families... What kind of shite storm that would kick off...?

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Exactly. As a parent, I cannot imagine giving up a child I’d nurtured and loved whether she was biologically mine or not. However, I also would not be able to let go of the idea that I had a biological child out there somewhere. I’d be compelled to make sure the family raising her were good people. More than income level, I’d want to make sure that she had two loving parents in a functional household. What if parents find out their biological child is living in a rough home? Imagine a single mom with boyfriends cycling in and out. Imagine drugs or criminality in the family. I could envision a scenario in which the more functional family not only wants to keep the child they’ve been raising but might also try to gain custody of their biological daughter.

If both families don’t share similar values, it really could be an even bigger shitshow than it already is.

If not made up, what is rationale for initial “paternity test”. that is never justified.kid didn’t look like dad?
there is a known rate of non-paternity due to bone marrow transplants and need for testing but that is not a “paternity test”.

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If both families don’t share similar values, it really could be an even bigger shitshow than it already is.

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If this were true and by some chance the other family was a good, like-minded family, what's the best solution?

Honestly, probably moving close to one or the other and becoming extremely close friends such that you'd either permanently have the biological parents as a major factor in their life or transition at some point? Obviously that only works out well with two sets of wholesome individuals who value the kids above everything else.

I don’t believe any of this shite

This reads just like those fiction love stories that my mom and aunts repost on facebook

Thanks for the minute and a half of entertainment though

This is crazy.

This sounds like a tragic case of mistaken identity/baby swap at the hospital nursery. I can't imagine what the parents are going through right now.

Regardless, that hospital is gonna get the hell sued out of them. And rightly so.

ETA:I'm also an adoptive dad, and this scares the hell out of me.

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That's insane. I have a 5 year old daughter. I couldn't just swap her out with the right one. That's an impossible situation.

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Have a guy I went to school with who raised a kid and didn't find out he wasn't his until the kid was 5. Extremely tough situation for him and the kid.

But this is just a completely other level (if true). You're right.. even if you found the "right" one.. you've already raised yours, and someone else has presumably raised yours. Insane situation.