re: How should parents deal with a fat kid?

If he is a whopper and his siblings are naturally fit, I would start on the medical side. Yes, it likely isn't medical, but early diagnosis of any medical issue that could be contributing is not a bad thing. It would also help to draw the kid's own attention to the seriousness of the problem.

After that, and assuming no underlying medical issues, his parents need to get him involved in some form of sports. He needs to move. Laying around all day playing video games and shite posting on tiger....I mean watching tv will only exacerbate the problem. His siblings should help motivate him.

As far as the eating goes, he is 12. He ain't buying his own damn groceries. Cut the straps to the feed bag and break his plate.

Constant ridicule from his peers in middle school might do the trick. Sometimes that's all it takes to spur a behavior change or two.

boot camp

Honestly, sit him down and explain fit guys get more pussy

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No it isn't, it's a symptom of being week minded and lazy usually in kids.

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He’s 12 dude. All he knows is what tastes good and what his parents have let him get away with. He’s years away from being able to conceptualize what he is doing is bad for him.

To be “weak minded” he would have to understand the consequences of his habits & a 12yr old cannot do that.

I've dealt with this with a family member who lacked any competitive side so I couldn't get him to play sports. Since youre not the parent theres not much you can do. You don't want to punish him by taking away snacks because that creates a very bad reward/punishment relationship associated with food. The best way to start is to stop buying processed foods and have the parents start meal prepping in a healthy manner. Thatll curb his appetite and force him to eat better quality shite. I don't recommend football because if hes already fat they'll just put him on the o-line and encourage it. Get him into basketball if you can.

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He’s 12 dude. All he knows is what tastes good and what his parents have let him get away with. He’s years away from being able to conceptualize what he is doing is bad for him.

To be “weak minded” he would have to understand the consequences of his habits & a 12yr old cannot do that

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Oh no I absolutely agree 100%, that part of my response was more to the guy above me that was saying all of Beastie is response to depression.

Also agree 100% that he knows it tastes good it feels good etc That's why I said the first thing you do is not necessarily change the types of foods he's eating you restrict the times he can eat and the number of times he can eat and how he's eating them. Allow him to eat the foods he likes and as much as he would like just within those constraints. I wholeheartedly agree that if you start taking away the chili cheese fries and replace them with a baked chicken breast and some broccoli the kid is going to rebel and it's actually probably going to make things worse.

The simplest thing to do is get him out of the house in the morning and tell him you'll eat when you get back get him back to forget him doing something else something that's away from the screen and not thinking about food you keep him busy when he comes back you allow him to have lunch let him rest some, then you getting busy again. Later that afternoon you eat dinner as a family no distractions no TV no phones no nothing, you actually act like a family and talk.

What I have seen is many times restricting screen time and actually spending time as a family together and talking makes a big difference in all the small things. Restricting screen time does wonders for sleep hygiene and for getting enough sleep and in my opinion like asleep is the number one cause for many of the issues you see with children today. Now the lack of of sleep is kind of a byproduct of the constant over stimulation through constant screen time.

Fix those issues and usually the underlying issues that are causing things like obesity bad behavior bad grades etc go away including things like stopping sports that they used to love.

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SIL doesn’t do anything about it. Says that if they make a big deal he’ll develop a “complex

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The only way to make him change is to make him have a complex and then maybe he would see that he is a fatty and try to do something about it. As long as he thinks it’s okay to be a fatty nothing will change

Kid doesn’t buy groceries or cook dinner. Put better foods in the pantry and on the table. Don’t make a big ordeal about it, just do it.

Ahahaha holy shite I feel like I'm reading this about my brother-in-law. 12 years old, morbidly obese, and the biggest baby who gets coddled by his parents.

We were at a BBQ at my girl's grandparents a few months ago and this dude put down a full link of DD hot sausage, 2 fully dressed hamburgers, 2 hot dogs with chili and cheese, 3 scoops of macaroni and cheese, 3 Cokes, a Mountain Dew, a Powerade, a cupcake, and HALF of a monkey bread cake. HALF OF A CAKE. I couldn't stop myself from watching him go for seconds, thirds, and fourths.

It's sad.