re: How much time is appropriate to wait to start dating again after a spouse dies?

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My Grandmother never dated anyone else after my Grandfather died in ‘97. And she says she doesn’t regret that but she also will be the first to tell you how lonely it is to be without someone for that long. My Mom passed 6 years ago and one of the things I told my Dad is if he wanted to see someone he’d have my blessing. He’s a grown arse man and cognizant enough to make that decision for himself.

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I know my friend's family pretty well, and a couple of them asked me if he was going to marry this old girlfriend, I told them no, they were just lonely and hurting and while they did care for each other, he would never marry again unless he found one just like the one he lost--and they only made one of her.

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“Whore” is just a word.

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Oh, but the meaning is so, so much deeper for you.

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I called her a whore. But she will never know that I called her a whore. So what’s the harm?

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Someone else has to help me out here, but isn't there a concept in Christianity about the Evil Eye concept which Jews have, warning about jealousy and envy? What, seriously, is your major malfunction. Be happy if she's happy.

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In the New Covenant, Jesus also references the concept of the evil eye in Matthew 6:22-23. He speaks about the eye being the lamp of the body and how if the eye is healthy, the whole body will be full of light. This biblical perspective on the evil eye emphasizes the importance of maintaining purity in one's intentions and thoughts.

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You’re taking this out of context.

Bluegrass Bell is clearly getting worked up over me calling a woman a whore that Bluegrass Bell doesn’t even know. I find this odd and interesting because I would not care at all if she called someone I don’t even know a whore. Hell, I wouldn’t even care if she called someone I know a whore. It’s just an opinion. My guess is that she is a feminist who feels that she has to stick up for all women everywhere, even though some of them might be whores.

It’s also funny to me that she thinks I am really mad when you can tell based on her comments to me that she is furious. But whatever.

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Bluegrass Bell is clearly getting worked up over me calling a woman a whore that Bluegrass Bell doesn’t even know. I find this odd and interesting because I would not care at all if she called someone I don’t even know a whore. Hell, I wouldn’t even care if she called someone I know a whore. It’s just an opinion. My guess is that she is a feminist who feels that she has to stick up for all women everywhere, even though some of them might be whores.

It’s also funny to me that she thinks I am really mad when you can tell based on her comments to me that she is furious. But whatever.

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You’re mad enough to make this whole word salad post about me.

You’ve also multiple times tried to call me a feminist as an insult while crying that I called you a name.

Some people can't tolerate being alone. There are many things to consider that the family wouldn't necessarily even know.

What if they were miserable together? Nobody knows the true state of the relationship or her mental state when not in a relationship.

Also depends on how long they were married and how old they were. Her friends might be pushing her to get back out there and she finally caved in.

6 months is probably short but I don't think it needs to be an arbitrary number just to please his family. It is her life. She gets to pick when to get back out there.

I will admit having said what I said. I would be a bit miffed if it was less than six months. Six months I might think wasn't proper time but I wouldn't be pissed about it.

Do you know what was going on in their marriage? Was there still a connection or were they just going through the motions and staying together for kids or convenience. Perhaps that would lead someone to seek companionship sooner than others. Really not for others to judge

So what?

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Do you know what was going on in their marriage?

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He’s purposefully avoiding any questions that probe further than what he has provided.

My guess is that he knows it’s going to make him look worse.

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It’s disrespectful to the deceased to immediately get back out there.

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No it isn’t.

Marriage vows literally say “till death do us part”

It’s your choice. There is no obligation to remain single

Everyone deals with it differently. Some don’t want to date/marry again due to their love and devotion. Some are used to not being alone and jump back out there because companionship keeps them from getting lonely and depressed