re: How many of yall have gotten mad/sad over being excluded from a wedding party

I absolutely hate being in weddings

My anxiety gets the best of me. I turn bright red, start sweating, and twitching. I look like an idiot standing up there

I think a lot of people are missing the point. The costs and obligations that come along with it are irrelevant here. It's only natural to feel a little snubbed when someone you're really close to leaves you out.

But like I said in my previous post, it depends on the circumstances. If my really good friend puts his brothers in the party over me, I get it. But if a guy I've been best friends with my whole life puts some D-bag coworker he's known for 3 months as his best man and completely leaves me out, then yeah I'm a little offended. (And yes I know I basically just described the plot of Bridesmaids)

nothing worse than a wedding. i consider it a favor if you do not invite me to your wedding. No wasted money on presents, no putting on work clothes on the weekend.

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How many of yall have gotten mad/sad over being excluded from a wedding party

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I got pissed when my only sister got married a few years ago and I wasn't asked to be a groomsman. She asked me to be an usher instead and I took that as a slap in the face. We've always been close so it sort of hurt. I didn't want to stand in the back of church while the rest of my family was seated together with front row seats. I politely told her that if I wasn't a groomsman that I would rather not be an usher and sit with the rest of the family. She flew off the handle at me for insisting this so I swallowed my pride and stood in the back of church the entire ceremony as she wished.

I don't want a wedding party at all when my time comes.

I never got upset about it. There's so much BS involved in planning a wedding, so I never took it personally. I seriously doubt there's ever been a guy who announced to the bride-to-be, these are the five guys who'll be standing in our wedding, who are you picking for your five bridesmaids? It works the other way around, and the bride (or her mother, in some cases) can reject your picks. Don't ever tell a woman, "That bitch isn't standing in our wedding." Unless, of course, you don't actually want to get married.

I've been in more wedding parties than I can accurately remember, but it's over 15 and probably closer to 20.

One story:
When my younger brother got married, I was asked to be an usher, because there were only going to be four or five groomsmen. I completely did not give a frick, but my older brother might have taken offense, so he got the last spot. Additionally, both of my sisters were to be bridesmaids. My parents and grandmother were going nuts! "You're his BROTHER! You should be on the ALTER!" I assured them that I didn't care, wasn't offended, and there were no hard feelings. I honestly understood their predicament and figured I didn't need to add to the stress. I was fine with their decision.
Come game day, the groomsman "who had to be included" showed up at 10:28 for a 10:30 wedding...

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Come game day, the groomsman "who had to be included" showed up at 10:28 for a 10:30 wedding...

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How pissed was the bride?

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Did the groom have a sister that was a bridesmaid?

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No

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That's kind of a tough situation because it doesn't feel fair to make the groom use up one of his spots for someone he might barely know

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I knew him well. I actually new him years before he knew her


Oh well. I learned then to not sweat the petty shite