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How Do You Feel About Nursing Homes?
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:25 pm
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:25 pm
When it comes to placing loved ones in nursing homes, how do you personally feel about it? I feel like it should be a last resort if you cannot take care of a disabled/elderly loved one.
Personally, I remember as a kid, I would visit my Granny who was in a nursing home. She had suffered a massive stroke that had left her paralyzed and confined to a wheelchair. My Mom was unable to take care of her at our home because of her needs and I understood that.
However, there were other people at the nursing home that seemed like normally functioning older people that had just been sent there by family either unwilling or unable to have them live with them. Some were depressed because barely anyone ever came to visit them.
Do you draw a big difference between assisted living and nursing homes? What circumstances do you feel would compel you to place a loved one there?
Personally, I remember as a kid, I would visit my Granny who was in a nursing home. She had suffered a massive stroke that had left her paralyzed and confined to a wheelchair. My Mom was unable to take care of her at our home because of her needs and I understood that.
However, there were other people at the nursing home that seemed like normally functioning older people that had just been sent there by family either unwilling or unable to have them live with them. Some were depressed because barely anyone ever came to visit them.
Do you draw a big difference between assisted living and nursing homes? What circumstances do you feel would compel you to place a loved one there?
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Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:28 pm to SaintlyTiger88
I will cut my throat before my parents ever step foot in a nursing home.
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:28 pm to SaintlyTiger88
They are unfortunately a necessary evil
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:30 pm to SaintlyTiger88
My parents took care of me and my siblings when we needed it, so we'd take care of them if they needed it. I'd rather pay for a live in assistant if it was needed than send them away.
This post was edited on 4/17/21 at 3:32 pm
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:30 pm to OchoDedos
That's easy to say, but if one becomes handicapped and the other can't take care of them or passes away, the options are limited. Are you ready to retrofit your home and take care of your parent?
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:32 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Having worked in the senior living space I will tell you there are major differences between nursing homes and assisted livings. Main difference is assisted livings are more “resort” style and are truly apartments with care to help compliment their lifestyle while nursing homes are typically skilled/ 24 hour nursing needs: rehab oriented and obviously the places that tend to smell more like urine.
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:33 pm to Bunk Moreland
The cost of a 24 aide is seriously expensive. Unless you want to be a 24 hour caretaker, it’s the only option on some cases
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:33 pm to SaintlyTiger88
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Do you draw a big difference between assisted living and nursing homes?
There is a wide range between what is referred to as nursing homes and assisted living facilities. Some of these places are very nice and offer a lot.
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:34 pm to Bunk Moreland
You have a good point Bunk. I believe 100% my Granny would have stayed with us had she not suffered her stroke. I think most of us would rather our loved ones stay with us in our home, but I know certain situations arise where that can be very challenging.
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:35 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Its all situational. If I'm the loved one that is 100% dependent on others and does not remember any relative or friend and cannot communicate, I would rather be in a nursing home and have regular visits. If I can care for myself as far as cleaning myself and feeding myself, I would rather live close as possible to relatives. Its the in between that's heartbreaking, I would always err on the side of keeping them close, and not in nursing homes.
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:36 pm to SaintlyTiger88
My mom has been in a rehab facility for the past month rehabbing a broken leg. She's 76 and has fallen twice in 2 years (breaking a leg each time). She has a lady that stays with her Monday-Friday, but even that won't be enough unfortunately. My situation makes it nearly impossible for me to care for her, so we're going to have a tough decision to make if the falls keep occurring.
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:37 pm to SaintlyTiger88
And yes, there is a big difference between assisted living and nursing homes. My mom lived in assisted living and was happy as a lark. But, she had 2 sisters in law and 1 brother in law in the same facility.
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:38 pm to OchoDedos
I had to put my mom in one She had a stroke was paralyzed on one side and suffered from severe dementia. Medicare doesn’t pay for aides at your home full time. She was in a couple months before the pandemic, we had all sorts of problems. So I paid to put a camera in because this nursing home doesn’t let you use their WiFi I had problems with aides, nurses and directors. My mom passed away two months ago and I’ll forever live with this grief. I did manage to get two aides fired , a nurse and got the director to resign after reporting them to the state board... it’s all a money grab , they are making millions and actually are protected for the most part from being sued. This country needs to invest and have a complete overall of the nursing homes. I sat outside my mom’s window every day after work
This post was edited on 4/17/21 at 3:40 pm
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:38 pm to SaintlyTiger88
I know all of the downsides of nursing homes. But I’ll offer a different perspective - I’ve seen plenty of family members cause more harm to their loved one by trying to take care of them at home. I’ve seen several people admitted to nursing homes who had HUGE bed sores and wounds caused by sitting or laying in the same position for too long. Also patients with horribly contracted legs. Sons and daughters don’t want to put mom/dad in the nursing home, so they hire “sitters” who don’t do more than sit with the patient. In nursing homes, patients should be changed regularly and bed bound patients are typically on a “turning schedule” to avoid skin breakdown.
Of course, I’ve seen the awful side of nursing homes. The home is only as good as the administration. With a shitty admin team, lazy CNAs will run the show and the quality of care will be horrible. Personally, I’d avoid it at all costs for my parents. But some people don’t have the money for sitters and can’t physically care for someone without causing more harm
Of course, I’ve seen the awful side of nursing homes. The home is only as good as the administration. With a shitty admin team, lazy CNAs will run the show and the quality of care will be horrible. Personally, I’d avoid it at all costs for my parents. But some people don’t have the money for sitters and can’t physically care for someone without causing more harm
This post was edited on 4/17/21 at 3:46 pm
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:38 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Nursing homes are foul places that suck the life right out of you. I never hope to have too see any family members in one ever again
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:40 pm to Jackie Chan
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rather pay for a live in assistant if it was needed than send them away.
That’s always preferable but for some it’s just not feasible
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:44 pm to SaintlyTiger88
Personally, I do not think they are the right fit for everyone.
I can understand if people cannot provide the medical care needed for their loved one, or if someone doesn’t have any family - but I think the home my great uncle was in did him wrong, and then my grandmother was supposed to come home bc she was doing better and then all of a sudden she died.
My mother lives with us. It’s a pain sometimes but I couldn’t put her anywhere.
I can understand if people cannot provide the medical care needed for their loved one, or if someone doesn’t have any family - but I think the home my great uncle was in did him wrong, and then my grandmother was supposed to come home bc she was doing better and then all of a sudden she died.
My mother lives with us. It’s a pain sometimes but I couldn’t put her anywhere.
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:47 pm to SaintlyTiger88
I care a lot.
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:53 pm to Triple Bogey
I work at one. There are great ones and terrible one, the kind that give them all a bad name. Fortunately I work at one of the best ones in the area
There are many people that use it as a dump for their parents and never come back again. But sometimes the elderly need someone with them and if all the kids have to work, there’s no other choice. Or just lifting and caring may be too much. If you get to that point, DO YOUR RESEARCH. There are great ones and suck ones. But even a great one can get a bad employee every now and then.
I too would do everything to avoid placing my parents in one. But may not have a choice.
There are many people that use it as a dump for their parents and never come back again. But sometimes the elderly need someone with them and if all the kids have to work, there’s no other choice. Or just lifting and caring may be too much. If you get to that point, DO YOUR RESEARCH. There are great ones and suck ones. But even a great one can get a bad employee every now and then.
I too would do everything to avoid placing my parents in one. But may not have a choice.
Posted on 4/17/21 at 3:54 pm to SaintlyTiger88
The “care” given at many nursing homes is criminal.
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