re: How did Alimony actually become a thing ?

I work with a lot of dudes who insist their wives stay at home and then bitch about her not bringing in any money. A lot of them are cheating as well.

Here’s hoping I’ll never have to be dependent on a man.

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I don't think I've ever heard of 50 years of alimony. Have you?

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First, it was mainly meant for the 40s and 50s little housewife situations where women couldn’t really work.

Having said that, I remember reading about a case, maybe 25 or 30 years ago. I believe it was a Louisiana case. Some guy had married some woman when they were both in their 20s. They had gotten a divorce in their early 30s. She had married two deadbeats over the next 20 or so years. By the time she was in her 50s, she had been divorced three times but was unable to get any alimony from either one of her two deadbeat husbands. She was pretty much destitute. Her first husband had done well (financially) in life. So, she sued her first husband (who hadn’t seen her in over 20 years) for alimony.

He thought it was a joke. But it wasn’t a joke. In the end, the judge actually ordered him to pay her alimony. The reasoning was that it was better to make him pay for her alimony rather than putting her on the public dole. I’m sure he appealed, but I have no idea what happened in the case at the end.

When I read it, I was shocked. And it didn’t happen like back in the 50s or 60s or even 70s. This was like the late 90s. But that’s how women were looked at up until the 2000s.

Then they’ll bitch about child support but refuse to actually do any raising of the kids. And they’ll shove the parenting on the cheating partner and always have to have a gf so they don’t have to be a father.



Idiots

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next 50 years

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wtf!!??? When I got divorced the X got spousal support for a year and then she was required to find employment because I was the only income. Screw getting licked into that shite.

One of the best ever exchanges caught on television....

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Had a coworker lamenting to me about how he got fricked over. Then proceeded to tell me that he openly admitted in court to infidelity when the judge gave him multiple chances because there was no evidence. Represented himself.

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Often when talking about finances and people are sort of prodding for advice I usually lead off with don’t get divorced.

I never have, but I’ve seen multiple people who lost equity and savings from the proceedings. Having to sell property prematurely, liquidating stocks, and having to split retirement savings are all huge financial setbacks.

Alimony can be indefinite.


But if you were married for less than 10 years you are probably only paying half the length of your marriage.


Family court is also biased toward women. And we changed abuse to not just mean physical abuse. It allows women to just make shite up now.

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have a friend, divorced, makes about $150k, his ex makes about $250k, joint custody,50/50 time with the kids, he pays her $2k/mo. child support

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That doesn’t sound legit. I know of at least two cases where the mom pays the dad child support in a 50/50 split because the mom makes more money.

Ok but you can be married for 24 hours, spouse dies, and by law you get 30%