re: Holding young kids back a year/Repeating a grade.

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Take it up with the LSU system buts that’s their scale for that age. And children that fall behind at this school get brought into programs during normal class hours to help them in areas that they need work in, while the rest of the kids are outside playing or building blocks.

I’ll stay where I’m at, gl to you.

My dad was a college baseball coach and held me back in kindergarten. I have an April birthday so I was 19 when I graduated. He did it strictly for sports reasons and it worked. I played college baseball and probably wouldn’t have otherwise.

This. In Texas, tons of loser parents are holding the kids back so they are bigger and more developed for sports and can be one of the bigger kids in their grade. Asinine. They are not concerned about the kids academic performance like you are contemplating.

When we see those parents that did it for sports , We can’t help but roll our eyes. PS None of them made it anywhere of value in sports from what I’ve seen.

What is the reason for your reluctance?

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Holding a kid back in kindergarten or 1st grade has nothing to with sports. Teachers don’t suggest this because they think it’s funny, they do it because they know the child and what’s best for it. It’s hard to hear but if you trust the school, trust the teachers.

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In my experience, teachers are much quicker to recommend holding boys back than girls, specifically because they assume they all need more emotional maturity. I also noticed they make a blanket assumption for all boys, rather than a specific child.

My oldest has a May birthday and in Kindergarten now. Almost every one of his peers with a May or June birthday is in the grade below and he has kids a full year older than him in his class.
From a physical, social, and emotional standpoint, I’d love to hold him back where I think he would fit in better. However, he excels academically and there is no way I could justify him repeating kindergarten redo sight words when he’s been reading full books for over a year.
So basically, there’s no right or wrong answer, it’s totally dependent on the individual child.

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This. In Texas, tons of loser parents are holding the kids back so they are bigger and more developed for sports and can be one of the bigger kids in their grade. Asinine. They are not concerned about the kids academic performance like you are contemplating.

When we see those parents that did it for sports , We can’t help but roll our eyes. PS None of them made it anywhere if value in sports from what I’ve seen.

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this is such a bitch arse take from people who cant see the big picture

1) who cares if they play ball after high school, if you think that is what its about...dunno what to tell you

2) high school sports are a developmental tool all to themselves and can effect confindence and leadership for a lifteime amongst other things

in the grand scheme, holding a kid back, no matter the age and no matter the reasoning, is about giving the kid the best chance to succeed in whatever they choose to do post high school.

why is it a good thing

1) maturity- it is never a bad thing to have a more mature kid when they graduate high school and despite what you may think a 19 year old graduating hs is much much much better situated to take on the world than a 17 year old graduating. no matter if that is college or just the work force. being more mature than your peers sets you up for success no matter what age and situation.

2) guidance- if you are good parent and have a healthy relationship with the kid and in the home(especially if the nuclear family is still intact) you are getting one more year with the kid during crucial years to guide him down the right path. notice i didnt say control because if you are just controlling then you in for a world of hurt when they leave no matter what. but if you can guide them down the right path, another year of this guidance can pay huge dividends later in life

3) protection- just look at the current events at LSU....tell me you wouldnt want one more year to protect your kid by having them in your home.

4) academic and athletic success- giving the kid 1 more year to study for the act/sat and to allow them to be ready to take on dual enrollment or other college level courses is only going to set them up for success later. athletically giving them 1 more year to mature never ever ever hurts them. ever, no matter what. Perfect example, look at the kids coming out of Barbe Baseball. Glen always always suggest that kids be held back as much as possible in elementary school, always suggest atleast once no matter what age they started so long as they will still elgible. why is this? because in his expierence the older kids are more prepared physically and mentally and he has less trouble with them on and off the field. This past year, every senior except 1(he has 3.2)had a 3.5 or above and was going to graduate with some form of honors. every senior that actually played on the field, got a college scholarship & some form of academic scholarship(either topps or some other). the backup catcher got scholly to southern and the 1 kid who didnt play due to injury had a 4.2 and had highest topps award and is goign for engineering at a state school.

barbe isnt some special case, but they have developed a system that holds kids accountable and teaches them how to work hard on and off the field. they have developed a system that allows those most mature to flourish.

i bring up barbe because Glen is notorious for telling parents to hold kids back and guess what he is 10000% correct on this issue.

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This is rampade in sports.

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not like yall think. you can only do in elementary or you lose a year of elgibility. you also can not turn 19 before august 1st of your senior year.

No parents ever regret holding a child back whether its for maturity reasons or school struggles. The younger the better so its less of a big deal friend wise. If he's struggling now he'll constantly struggle until 3rd grade where he'll start feeling stupid. Once kids "accepts" that their not as smart as everyone else it becomes their personality.

Just hold him back. You'll be glad you did.