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re: Hitting up women via social media DM
Posted on 2/7/19 at 1:07 am to Saint Alfonzo
Posted on 2/7/19 at 1:07 am to Saint Alfonzo
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The whole hook-up culture associated with Tinder, Instagram, etc. seems devoid of actual human connections. Add instant gratification expectations and the stunted emotional development that comes with social media, then stir in some metoo stuff and you have a dating minefield.
Not only that but women value themselves WAY too highly due to every slapdick stroking their egos. It’s negatively affecting the development of other desirable traits.
This post was edited on 2/7/19 at 1:10 am
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Posted on 2/7/19 at 1:07 am to fr33manator
Just spitballing here but a little over weight, weird goatee, kind of poor looking, and that was in the cropped out profile pic that’s at least 3 years old.
I’m looking at mine for reference
I’m looking at mine for reference
Posted on 2/7/19 at 1:11 am to Erebus
Well duh. But that’s in real life too. An average guy has to bring more intangibles to the table to attract a higher value woman.
Be funny, wealthy, powerful. Command people.
It’s just exacerbated with the tinder culture
Be funny, wealthy, powerful. Command people.
It’s just exacerbated with the tinder culture
Posted on 2/7/19 at 1:13 am to fr33manator
Dammit so I probably shouldn’t even bother with Tinder then
Posted on 2/7/19 at 1:15 am to stelly1025
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I know a guy who does the 20 in 1 method
The shotgun approach works. Social media and dating sites just make it that much easier to cast a wide net. I used to have whole conversation templates ready to cut and paste. Carefully crafted little word bombs designed to elicit specific emotions and reactions.
I’d ad lib a lot too but after you figure out what works it’s a lot easier than typing it out each time.
Posted on 2/7/19 at 1:19 am to Erebus
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Dammit so I probably shouldn’t even bother with Tinder then
Sure you should. It’s practice. The more you put yourself out there, learn how to carry on an interesting conversation that draws a woman in, the better.
It might not always pan out but you are developing skills. Most importantly learning how to deal with rejection graciously. You have to absolutely not care and not let them have power over you.
And these skills will translate into real life when you meet women irl. You’ll be able to not come off as creepy or fake and be able to have a genuine interaction.
Posted on 2/7/19 at 1:31 am to fr33manator
Damn fr33 you’re like a life coach. Me and and all the OT that fit this description (at least 50%) appreciate you
Posted on 2/7/19 at 1:39 am to fr33manator
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Not only that but women value themselves WAY too highly due to every slapdick stroking their egos. It’s negatively affecting the development of other desirable traits.
I can see this going the other way also. Girls don't value themselves because of easy access to the attention-seekers. Show a little self-respect and the dude swipes right to the next available tramp.
Posted on 2/7/19 at 1:48 am to Erebus
Man, i’ll Be 33 soon, and i’ve Seen and experienced way too much shite in my life so far, and at the same time nowhere near enough.
If I had known what I know now when I was young and fit...you have no clue how much tail I missed out on because I was either oblivious or too damn scared to risk failure.
It took being completely destroyed and rebuilding myself, took rejection and reflection to learn what I know, which ain’t much.
What I do know is this. Nothing sends women running more than the stink of desperation. What draws them in is not caring whether they want you or not. Be wherever you are because you want to be there, and cultivate a personality that draws people to your energy.
If you are a person that people want to be around, then women will find themselves pulled in that same draw.
If I had known what I know now when I was young and fit...you have no clue how much tail I missed out on because I was either oblivious or too damn scared to risk failure.
It took being completely destroyed and rebuilding myself, took rejection and reflection to learn what I know, which ain’t much.
What I do know is this. Nothing sends women running more than the stink of desperation. What draws them in is not caring whether they want you or not. Be wherever you are because you want to be there, and cultivate a personality that draws people to your energy.
If you are a person that people want to be around, then women will find themselves pulled in that same draw.
Posted on 2/7/19 at 4:39 am to Tester1216
She was friends with a friends GF. The gf made a comment to me about her friend seeing a pic of me and saying I was cute. I figured eff it why not
Posted on 2/7/19 at 7:28 am to fr33manator
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Not only that but women value themselves WAY too highly due to every slapdick stroking their egos. It’s negatively affecting the development of other desirable traits.
^^ This
Desperate baws need to put down the shotgun and learn to hunt with a rifle
Posted on 2/7/19 at 7:45 am to Tester1216
All the time back at LSU when facebook was just getting started. Not so much now.
Posted on 2/7/19 at 8:53 am to Tester1216
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I only speak to 2 people outside of TD, both female but I see your point.
Posted on 2/7/19 at 9:32 am to RogerTheShrubber
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Back in the old IM days of Yahoo and AOL
AOL was so much fun back in the day.
Posted on 2/7/19 at 9:56 am to Tester1216
No. It's one of the cringiest things I can think of. Almost as bad as the guys who like and comment on a girls Facebook post where she's obviously looking for attention
This post was edited on 2/7/19 at 9:56 am
Posted on 2/7/19 at 9:57 am to Lester Earl
Sorry to break to you Les but that is in fact true.
Posted on 2/7/19 at 9:59 am to Henry Jones Jr
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Almost as bad as the guys who like and comment on a girls Facebook post where she's obviously looking for attention
So sorta like this?
In all seriousness this does creep me out. I’m older and just glad I’m not in the dating/looking for a SO part of my life again.
This post was edited on 2/7/19 at 10:05 am
Posted on 2/7/19 at 10:46 am to Lester Earl
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I only NOW speak to 2 people outside of TD, both female but I see your point.
This might be more accurate.
Posted on 2/7/19 at 11:13 am to Tester1216
True story.
Several years ago I met an NFL cheerleader at an outdoor concert who was actually on a first date with another guy at the time. We had one mutual friend in common who casually introduced us. I was loaded up on liquid courage, and she seemed to be (to drunk Norb) somewhat interested in me.
So, I took my shot. I figured what the hell? When am I going to get the chance to date an NFL cheerleader ever again?
Still buzzing after the concert at like 11PM on a Sunday, I sent her a decently witty Facebook DM asking for her digits. I woke up on Monday and spent the entire day at work agonizing about how stupid I was for doing that. I felt truly embarrassed.
BUT she actually responded at the end of the day (really made me sweat it out). And she gave me her digits and agreed to go on a date.
We went out for very short while. She broke my heart in two and has since married a rich older man.
But damn it was a fun short ride while it lasted.
Shoot your shot, gentlmen. Just remember that there is a fine line between witty and creepy.
Sorry. No pics. But why would I lie about it? She really hurt me in the end. 
Several years ago I met an NFL cheerleader at an outdoor concert who was actually on a first date with another guy at the time. We had one mutual friend in common who casually introduced us. I was loaded up on liquid courage, and she seemed to be (to drunk Norb) somewhat interested in me.
So, I took my shot. I figured what the hell? When am I going to get the chance to date an NFL cheerleader ever again?
Still buzzing after the concert at like 11PM on a Sunday, I sent her a decently witty Facebook DM asking for her digits. I woke up on Monday and spent the entire day at work agonizing about how stupid I was for doing that. I felt truly embarrassed.
BUT she actually responded at the end of the day (really made me sweat it out). And she gave me her digits and agreed to go on a date.
We went out for very short while. She broke my heart in two and has since married a rich older man.
But damn it was a fun short ride while it lasted.
Shoot your shot, gentlmen. Just remember that there is a fine line between witty and creepy.
Sorry. No pics. But why would I lie about it? She really hurt me in the end.
Posted on 2/7/19 at 11:42 am to Tester1216
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I’m older and just glad I’m not in the dating/looking for a SO part of my life again.
:kige:
I know I may be from the moon anymore but what / how do you date on Instagram or Tinder? Also, if WWF is a new hookup for the unhappy don't SO's figure it out after time?
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