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Has anyone here dealt with the onset of mental illness with their spouse?
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:25 pm
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:25 pm
I’m not talking about the “all women are crazy” kind of crazy. I’m talking legitimate, diagnosable stuff. Were there signs you missed or was it later onset? Was it hereditary or brought on by anything? How did you handle it? Are you still together?
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Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:26 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
Bitches be cray cray
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:27 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
I realized after leaving my wife of 17 years she is not only a covert (vulnerable) narcissist but she also has Borderline Personality disorder.
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:28 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
Get your gal some help regardless of what people say on here. You wouldn't be asking this if she didn't need it 
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:28 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
quote:
I’m not talking about the “all women are crazy” kind of crazy. I’m talking legitimate, diagnosable stuff.
You think there’s a difference?
Your lack of details makes me wonder if you’re a woman. Anxiety? Schizophrenia? You’re way too vague and cryptic for real men to understand.
What are you talking about?
This post was edited on 1/3/24 at 1:30 pm
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:28 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
Not spouse but girlfriend. Honestly took a lot of therapy to deal with once I left her and cut all contact. Ruined dating for me for like 2 years. It's still hard for me to blame the illness and not the individual.
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:29 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
Prayers. That’s a tough draw.
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:31 pm to Willie Stroker
quote:
You think there’s a difference?
There is. Human beings all have a touch of sanity issues, but the mentally ill individuals that have problems regulating themselves are beyond what regular people can deal with. Normal women crazy is starting a fight just to start a fight. Crazy is sending pictures of self harm and blaming someone other than themselves while threatening to go farther.
This post was edited on 1/3/24 at 1:32 pm
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:33 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
quote:
I’m talking legitimate, diagnosable stuff.
Damn, sorry to hear.
Lucky so far for my part....
Good luck and COVER YOUR arse by documenting EVERYTHING.
Just because she shows signs of being crazy, it doesn't mean that she hasn't simply morphed into some sort of manipulative, bad human being.
I know that's not what you want to hear, but for your sake, you need to keep that thought in the back of your mind.
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:33 pm to Hussss
quote:
she also has Borderline Personality disorder.
was this diagnosed, or are you basing this on your own research? not calling you out, genuinely asking.
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:37 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
Yes. My ex is one of the worst sociopaths imaginable. She was very adept at hiding it early on. 10 years into the marriage, her alcohol and prescription drug abuse degraded her abilities to mask her true self. When she started to lose some of the attention she craved she started pulling crazy stunts like telling people she had cancer (she didn’t), faking choking on food and she poisoned two of our pets. Complete nut case who has only gotten worse since we divorced. I honestly feel lucky that I made it out of the marriage alive.
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:37 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
What kind of mental health issue are we talking about?
There’s a decent amount of disorders that have onset in 20s and 30s, so if you’ve been together since you were younger it’s entirely possible it didn’t emerge until later. For a fair amount of personality disorders, they aren’t typically diagnosed until adulthood as well just due to other potential things that can contribute to emotion dysregulation like hormones in puberty or environmental factors (parents with poor emotion regulation).
There’s a decent amount of disorders that have onset in 20s and 30s, so if you’ve been together since you were younger it’s entirely possible it didn’t emerge until later. For a fair amount of personality disorders, they aren’t typically diagnosed until adulthood as well just due to other potential things that can contribute to emotion dysregulation like hormones in puberty or environmental factors (parents with poor emotion regulation).
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:38 pm to redstick13
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she started pulling crazy stunts like telling people she had cancer (she didn’t), faking choking on food and she poisoned two of our pets. Complete nut case who has only gotten worse since we divorced. I honestly feel lucky that I made it out of the marriage alive.
Damn, man. Sorry to hear this.
This post was edited on 1/3/24 at 1:40 pm
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:39 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
What kind of mental illness are we talking about here? There's everything from depression to dementia to schizophrenia to addiction.
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:41 pm to Willie Stroker
I feel like posting on the OT is good for me, in that I get to interact with a very unintelligent and lower class segment of society. It makes me more rounded.
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:43 pm to redstick13
Damn, that’s terrible. Did y’all have any kids?
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:43 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
quote:
I feel like posting on the OT is good for me, in that I get to interact with a very unintelligent and lower class segment of society. It makes me more rounded.
shite ima be high cotton once I get this turnaround check
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:44 pm to Hussss
quote:
I realized after leaving my wife of 17 years she is not only a covert (vulnerable) narcissist but she also has Borderline Personality disorder.
Same here after a ten year marriage. Then I started seeing these different issues in many folk. I was already an introvert but eventually became more of a loner.
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:46 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
I'm the crazy one. It's in check 99% of the time.
My ex was a complete wacko.
Always was, always will be.
My ex was a complete wacko.
Always was, always will be.
Posted on 1/3/24 at 1:49 pm to Nelson Biederman IV
quote:Yes.
Has anyone here dealt with the onset of mental illness with their spouse?
quote:I missed signs, ignored maternal-side medical issues (Schizoaffective disorder) in both mom and grandma, and missed distant familial thyroid disorders. I was young and stupid and thought I just needed to get her away from her crazy mom.
Were there signs you missed or was it later onset?
quote:Obviously hereditary.
Was it hereditary
quote:I didn't get a chance to actually handle it. She went nuclear. Almost destroyed my life completely in one fell swoop. I supported her financially for a decade while we were separated. I had hoped something would magically click and she would be healthy again. Young and dumb.
How did you handle it?
quote:Nope.
Are you still together?
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