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re: Harmless joke at Christmas party or distasteful?
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:29 am to Mo Jeaux
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:29 am to Mo Jeaux
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If it actually is your buddy, then fine, but in a professional environment, if you called someone that you didn't know that well this name, it's kind of stupid. You do you, however.
If you call someone buddy or sport who isn't your buddy, you're just being an a-hole
Of course, going to HR because you work with a prick who occasionally acts like an a-hole is pathetic
ETA: And that's different from some old dude calling a girl "young lady" - as he probably intends nothing but respect.
This post was edited on 12/5/18 at 9:31 am
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Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:31 am to upgrayedd
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I find it hilarious that the "understanding" street is always one way. He's supposed to understand where she's coming from, but she doesn't have to understand that he was just trying to be polite and that's how his generation was taught to do so. Yet another whiny arse kid who ran to the teacher rather than just address the situation themself.
100% this. I agree with Mingo in that being called young lady/man can feel a little demeaning if you are a professional, but at the same time act like a professional and put your big boy/girl pants on and talk to the person directly. Taking the pussy way out and tattling to HR is worse than confronting the person and tactfully asking them to no longer call you young lady/man
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:33 am to Packer
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I agree with Mingo in that being called young lady/man can feel a little demeaning if you are a professional,
oh brother
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:33 am to Pettifogger
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If you call someone buddy or sport who isn't your buddy, you're just being an a-hole
Well. frick me then
“What’s up bud?” “How’s it goin man?” “Everything good buddy?”
Never thought I’d be called an a-hole for saying those phrases to people I don’t know
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:35 am to beerJeep
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Never thought I’d be called an a-hole for saying those phrases to people I don’t know
better not try that shite with me, sport
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:35 am to Packer
She could've used that moment to gain some respect and equal footing in that guy's mind, but rather than assert herself and gain his respect, she basically forced that guy to do everything he can to avoid interacting with her in the future and completely lose any professional courtesy he might have extended her.
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:37 am to 777Tiger
I’m not your sport, buddeh!
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:37 am to upgrayedd
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I find it hilarious that the "understanding" street is always one way. He's supposed to understand where she's coming from, but she doesn't have to understand that he was just trying to be polite and that's how his generation was taught to do so. Yet another whiny arse kid who ran to the teacher rather than just address the situation themself.
Careful. You might be a rapist.
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:37 am to Packer
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put your big boy/girl pants
How dare you fat shame and assume gender....
Seriously, this will get you a warning from HR as will saying "Look here Missy..."
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:37 am to Chuker
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She apparently took offense to that. Was that joke inappropriate for a company party in the day we are in?
If he was smart he would play dumb and be like "what the frick are you even talking about? Nobody here is talking about roofies but you Brenda"
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:37 am to Packer
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being called young lady/man can feel a little demeaning if you are a professional, but at the same time act like a professional and put your big boy/girl pants on and talk to the person directly. Taking the pussy way out and tattling to HR is worse than confronting the person and tactfully asking them to no longer call you young lady/man
This is pretty much what I was trying to say. I'm sure he wasn't trying to malicious, but that doesn't change the reality of the situation. Going to HR is a bitch move though.
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:37 am to beerJeep
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I’m not your sport, buddeh!
Ok pal, I warned you!
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:39 am to 777Tiger
Just don’t turn the plane around. I wanna go to coloraydo
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:39 am to beerJeep
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Well. frick me then
“What’s up bud?” “How’s it goin man?” “Everything good buddy?”
Never thought I’d be called an a-hole for saying those phrases to people I don’t know
I'm guessing that if you're not trying to be an a-hole people can tell.
Someone being a douche with sport/chief/buddy are usually pretty obvious. And maybe a-hole is strong, but someone who is like "hey pettifogger, what's up buddy, listen..." is usually someone who is trying to fast talk you into something. It's not so much I think they're a jerk, but I probably do resent them for thinking that sticking the "buddy" in there is gonna help them get whatever they're angling for.
This post was edited on 12/5/18 at 9:40 am
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:40 am to Pettifogger
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It's not so much I think they're a jerk, but I probably do resent them think sticking the "buddy" in there is gonna help them get whatever they're angling for.
hey Pettifogger, got a minute Chief?
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:41 am to Chuker
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My cousin went to his company's christmas party last weekend and made a "joke" that got him scolded by HR.
The situation was he was at the drink table and his female coworker came up and asked him if the punch was spiked. He said, yes and that punch over there (pointing to different bowl) has alcohol in it.
If that is all he did I would be fired in a couple of weeks.
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:44 am to Pettifogger
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I'm guessing that if you're not trying to be an a-hole people can tell.
Well, that’s because context is everything. Walking on eggshells and being offended by words is no way to go through life.
You can sit here and belittle me and call me every name in the book and I won’t give a flying frick. I’ll just sit there and smile at you. Why get riled up and have my day ruined because someone called me “young man” or “buddy”? It’s asinine.
The only thing worse than people who get offended by stupid shite, is the people who are complicit and go along with the dog and pony show.
This post was edited on 12/5/18 at 9:46 am
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:45 am to beerJeep
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You can sit here and belittle me and call me every name in the book and I won’t give a flying frick
I don't believe you
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:46 am to beerJeep
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Just don’t turn the plane around. I wanna go to coloraydo
short a, hoss
Posted on 12/5/18 at 9:46 am to Fontainebleau Dr.
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But the woman set the joke up by asking if the punch was spiked.
Yeah- why does she get a free pass? She could have asked 'do you know if this punch has alcohol in it?' and there likely would've been no incident.
Maybe she was looking to get offended.
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