re: Growing trend of women divorcing middle-aged husbands

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It's not fair but this is what happens when men get too comfortable.

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Why do you always default to this? What if the guy doesn’t give a shite? What if he’s pretty much fed up or bored with his old lady (just like she claims to be with him)? What if after 20 or so years he’s said, “frick it, I’m done with em”.?

Your trolling schtick is so old and weak. At least try a different angle occasionally.

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What if the guy doesn’t give a shite? What if he’s pretty much fed up or bored with his old lady (just like she claims to be with him)? What if after 20 or so years he’s said, “frick it, I’m done with em”.?

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Those questions were answered in the article I quoted in the OP.

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And what of the men who are casualties of the rise in late-life divorces?

Some like Brian Goodwin, 63, from Bognor Regis, West Sussex, remain alone — reluctantly and unhappily cut adrift from their old lives. ‘The divorce has disrupted my life so much, we have had to sell the four-bedroom family home with its nice big garden and now I live in a one-bedroom flat.

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What hair he has left is turning grey; he regrets the ebbing away of his looks, the growth of his paunch and the awful upheaval, physical and financial, his divorce has involved. ‘It’s awful to contemplate spending your remaining years alone, and I’d love to turn the clock back, but now it’s too late. We’re divorced. I feel as if the rug has been pulled from under me.’

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I’ll be honest.....that would be fine with me The older I get the more I like being alone.

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be honest.....that would be fine with me The older I get the more I like being alone.

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Amen. Married 18 years. If it ended tomorrow, I’d be pissed about the financial upheaval but I’m fairly certain when all was said and done I’d be ok being alone and parting ways. No hard feelings. But the investment required daily isn’t really worth the return anymore. I’m not unsatisfied, I just don’t give a shite.

Women initiate 80% of divorces, period.

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Women initiate 80% of divorces, period.

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I recall 90% but I may be inaccurate.

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Pecker

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Got dumped on. Badly.

My parents have been married for 40 plus years and they learn new things all the time. My favorite is dad missing the birth of his granddaughter for hippie fest!

What prevented the old lady in the OP article from doing the things before the divorce that she wants to do now? I’m thinking she didn’t want any shite for spending frivolously with $ she didn’t earn. I hope she has some looks left until she can find another sugar daddy because that free $ ain’t going to last long.

Everytime these threads come up, I see postulate after half-baked postulate trying to explain modern relationship failures with general rules of thumb about women and their "nature."

The problem is not women, it is humans. People are stupid and do not know what will make them happy. For all young people out there evaluating potential lifetime mates, do yourselves a few favors:

1) Think, really think, about what kind of spouse you want and then court someone who already meets or exceeds your most important expectations. Being extremely attractive is not a well considered number one priority for a mate and yet people focus on this parameter more than anything else. Try to outsmart your stupid monkey brain for once. It's an investment and it's important. Your priorities may differ, but mine was character. I made sure she was the type of person who did not casually lie about things or use emotional manipulation or fail to keep her promises.

2) Now that you have found someone who meets or exceeds those crucial expectations, don't rush into marriage. There is no goddamn law that says you have to get married in your 20s or after 4 years together or because your friends did it. Spend 5, 6, 7, 9 years with this person and observe how they deal with life. After you have seen their worst qualities and weaknesses, ask yourself "Self, if he/she were to start acting at their worst, as I have previously observed it, on a frequent and regular basis, would I still choose to be with this person for life?" If the answer is no, don't risk it.

3) Don't even consider someone you are not great friends with. Do you genuinely enjoy the company? The humor? Or are you rather the one who bitches to your friends about the proverbial old ball and chain? I cringe when people badmouth their spouses. It's as if they do not realize that it reflects directly on them; they chose this. Pick someone you would want to hang out with all the time even if there was no sexual attraction.

Don't fall for all this bullshite about "all women are______" or hypergamy, etc. The responsibility for a lasting and fulfilling relationship lies with you. Don't marry someone you shouldn't just because it's normal and everyone else does it.