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re: Forgiving the person you hate the most
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:10 pm to toosleaux
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:10 pm to toosleaux
At one time I despised my wife’s ex - they way he manipulated his sons. But he’s grown up over the years and the boys have learned to accept him and I’ve learned to put the past behind us
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Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:18 pm to toosleaux
I tried, but he is an a-hole. I wouldn't piss up his arse if his guts were on fire at this point. He sucker punched a mutual friend's BIL at the friend's wedding. Someone called the police and they asked me if I knew him. I wasnt going to lie to the police to cover for him and someone told them I gave them his name (he ran after hitting him). He called me Judas to several mutual friends afterwards and refused to admit he was wrong. A lot more to the story. Frick him
This post was edited on 7/31/18 at 10:21 pm
Posted on 7/31/18 at 10:18 pm to toosleaux
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Supposedly the forgiveness is for me, not them.
100%
Let that shite go. Why punish yourself for what someone else did?
Posted on 7/31/18 at 11:16 pm to toosleaux
Yeah
Layers
Layers
Posted on 7/31/18 at 11:36 pm to toosleaux
Forgiveness does not mean absolution of guilt, nor does it necessarily have anything to do with the person you are forgiving.
I Forgave the person i hated after about 10 years after the incident. I have not seen or spoken to him since, nor do i intend to. I will not allow him the opportunity to harm me or mine, but i refuse to allow him or anyone else to ruin my peace of mind.
Grudges and hatred is for people stuck in the past. I have only begun to hit my stride and no longer have the time for that nonsense.
I Forgave the person i hated after about 10 years after the incident. I have not seen or spoken to him since, nor do i intend to. I will not allow him the opportunity to harm me or mine, but i refuse to allow him or anyone else to ruin my peace of mind.
Grudges and hatred is for people stuck in the past. I have only begun to hit my stride and no longer have the time for that nonsense.
Posted on 8/1/18 at 3:08 am to toosleaux
Yes it works.
Forgiveness doesn't mean you fricking hang out or do holidays together again. It means you forgive them and let it go.
No need to to get all chummy if you don't want. Forgiveness is not a doormat.
Kindness is not weakness
Forgiveness doesn't mean you fricking hang out or do holidays together again. It means you forgive them and let it go.
No need to to get all chummy if you don't want. Forgiveness is not a doormat.
Kindness is not weakness
Posted on 8/1/18 at 5:20 am to toosleaux
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Forgiving the person you hate the most
frick that bitch. I’ll never forgive her
Posted on 8/1/18 at 5:45 am to toosleaux
Interesting Question.
My answer is that I’ve moved on from them.
Maybe that’s a cop-out but I now truly don’t think of that person using emotional feelings (Like hate or anger), I just know them for the flawed individual that they are and don’t have any time for them or their negativity in my life.
I don’t consider them out to be the Anti-Christ personified, they’re just a bad person that I simply avoid. I think it was Dostoevsky who wrote something to the effect of “The worst of us aren’t totally evil and the best of us aren’t totally good.”
My answer is that I’ve moved on from them.
Maybe that’s a cop-out but I now truly don’t think of that person using emotional feelings (Like hate or anger), I just know them for the flawed individual that they are and don’t have any time for them or their negativity in my life.
I don’t consider them out to be the Anti-Christ personified, they’re just a bad person that I simply avoid. I think it was Dostoevsky who wrote something to the effect of “The worst of us aren’t totally evil and the best of us aren’t totally good.”
Posted on 8/1/18 at 6:11 am to toosleaux
I have and it has proven beneficial for me, can't speak for the other person. Forgiveness doesn't mean they become my best friend. It means I no longer carry my anger (which takes energy) and am likely a bit wiser.
Posted on 8/1/18 at 7:49 am to toosleaux
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Forgiving the person you hate the most
Feeling it and/or acting outwardly on it are different. I think feeling "hate" is perfectly normal.
Posted on 8/1/18 at 2:54 pm to samson73103
Mine stole money from me and looks to have used it to have a "full body lift". So I cant wait for the attorney to ask her where the money went and she stands up and shows her her body lol.... frick dat beeee-yotch!
Posted on 8/1/18 at 2:59 pm to toosleaux
you can't really control how other people act but you can control how you react to their actions. easier said than done. i'm not saying let them back in to your life but just let it go
Posted on 8/1/18 at 3:06 pm to toosleaux
Just so you know- the "hate everyone you meet" technique doesn't work well, either. 
Posted on 8/1/18 at 3:42 pm to DustyDinkleman
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I think the person I hate the most is dead.
Geez I hope I don’t ever make you mad...
Posted on 8/1/18 at 4:27 pm to toosleaux
forgiving is for you, not the person you forgive. It makes you a better and bigger person.
Forgiving does not mean forgetting it means forsaking the past and not allowing the past to control your future
Forgiving does not mean forgetting it means forsaking the past and not allowing the past to control your future
This post was edited on 8/1/18 at 4:28 pm
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