re: Fleshlight vs vibrators/dildos?

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More people need to realize that "marriage isn't for you" and if they did, chances are our divorce rate in this country would decrease.

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Nah. most people need to realize that all of this stuff needs to be discussed, in depth with your SO before you make a vow to love them forever. too many people are too caught up in the happy to stop and consider where the other stands WHEN hard times come. no one wants to consider where the other persons threshold for checking out is, but if its not the same as yours then its never going to work long term.

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all without having ever slept with more than 3 people in her life or shes a whore.

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Men love whores......they get to sleep with them. It is women judging women on their sexual adventures that give it a bad persona in society.

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They love to sleep with them, but they’re not going to accept them as relationship/marriage potential and you know it.

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because they will be judged by acquaintances wife's.

so it goes back to how women judging women is the problem. The age old saying that women get all dressed up, not for men, but to be judged by other women.

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I mean, what's the difference in that and jerkin it? Surely he's not outlawed from a participating in a little "me-time", right?

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I think most men are quite intimidated by the dildo and vibrator. And I think they have a very logical reason to be intimidated by them as well.

Think about it, the SO has a device that never comes so it can go as long as they want it to, is always hard, probably bigger than what you’re packing (if it’s a dildo) and they can manipulate it to do exactly what they want. Without any of the potential drawbacks of having sex with a man. And it’s right there anytime they feel so inclined to use it.

They’re intimidated because they could see that as them being replaced in that incredibly (possibly most) important aspect of the relationship. Which I’m sure that does happen to couples, and probably more frequently than most would admit.

Whereas women aren’t intimidated by a man jerking it because that will never replace the real thing in our mind; unless you have an addiction to porn/masturbation. In which case, you should really consider seeking help with that because that is a relationship killer if you don’t.

This is why it’s absolutely crucial to communicate about this kind of thing with your partner. Personally, my SO and I haven’t had a real long conversation about this kind of thing. But, through lots of practice we have figured out what the other likes/doesn’t like. And all it took was early on I could kind of tell I wasn’t doing it right so I told her “look, I love you, and I enjoy having sex with you more than anything in the world, but I want you to show me what you want me to do. I’m a great learner but I need to learn by example.”

Now idk what she’s doing when I’m away, but I can definitely tell you that she is more fulfilled now than she was a couple months into our relationship.

Why’d you keep your thoughts to yourself?

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Seriously, it is the scene starting about 25 minutes into it. It is the second segment on the DVD.

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Subtle brag you made it 25 minutes in to DVD.

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then i bet you arnet having sex with enough women. Because there are women out there that very rarely come to climax and it isnt the fault of the man.

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I mean... I feel like 11 for the year is a good number. frick I was married for five of those months.

Idk what a fleshlight is

I don’t

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God I hope you’re kidding because I don’t know if I could take that and feel really awful for you.

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you dont know willcover very well.