re: Drinking because you are bored

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I've been basically a 5th a day for 2 years.

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I give people a lot of leeway before starting to call them a certain name. This amount of alcohol is quite an accomplishment. I hope your marriage and rehab are successful.

PsychTiger, volunteering can be very beneficial for ones time.

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I have gotten into this bad habit lately. Normally I would have a few on the weekends watching football or cooking. Had a great set up at my house with patio tv etc. Wife had a brain event in 2019. Long story short. She went into a home last March. I moved to Nashville with my kids. She passed 2 months ago. I am in a 1 bedroom apartment here which I actually like. I retired before I moved. I am bored out of my mind. My kids here work and my time with my grandkids here is limited because of their schedule which I respect. I drink heavily now(3 days a week) since my wife passed. There is only so much binge watching of shoes I can do. frick!!

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Condolences for your loss. Hang in there pal.

I found that during covid that going outside into the woods and water with my camera really helped me with boredom and the urge to drink or do other bad things when there wasn't much going on. Taking photos of wildlife, plants, etc, closely observing all of the intricacies of nature-its a great way to be present and appreciative of the the natural world all around us. It will give you something to do that doesn't involve drinking, its highly enjoyable, and it gives you a peace of mind.


Lucky for you, Nashville is a great place to do this. When I lived there, Radnor Lake was my go to. A beautiful place with plenty of trails, and some of the best wildlife viewing of any place I've been, especially being within the limits of a big city. Its like a Disney movie out there. Deer, turkey, snakes, various water-wading birds, song birds, eagles, hawks, owls, etc.

Shelby Bottoms is also a great place for this.

Man, I miss those two places so much.

You should give it shot.

Yeah man, I feel you.

Me and my fiancè moved to MN last year. Moved from a nice house in Covington where I lived in my backyard and patio area.

Now we live in an apt in a place where we have no friends and family and I'm bored out of my mind. I have to fight from popping a beer open regularly because I know I'm just doing it out of boredom.

Although we have a son on the way in Dec, so can't wait for that.

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You’re in Nashville. There is so much there or within reasonable drive you can do! Start bird watching. Go hiking. Get outdoors!

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Go to a Preds game on a cheap weeknight

For the post on how old I am, I will be 62 in January. I was the caregiver for my wife for 5 years prior to her passing. I have worked 1, and sometimes 2 jobs since I was 14. Once I got diagnosed, I retired. That last thing I plan on doing with limited time left is work a job. I have hit a few local bars here in the late afternoon, but I get bored pretty quick doing that

It sounds like you’re grieving, which normal and perfectly fine. You need to find something to do besides drinking. Nashville is a big city. Lots to do in the city and in other places in Tennessee. Get outside and do something. Don’t dwell in the dark on your own.

I’m sorry about your wife. That’s a tough thing to go through.

trust me, this leads down a bad path.

find something to occupy your time. any hobbies youve ever really wanted to explore....just do it.

I don't have kids, but my sister has told my Dad that if he ever shows up drunk in front of her 3 kids (all babies) that he wouldn't be allowed to see them again. But your drunk may be different than my Dad's drunk. He doesn't drink nearly at all daily, but about once every 4 or so months, my Dad's drunk is buying a Fifth of Fireball or Vodka and a few Lime-a-rita's and getting extremely angry drunk in a maniac way always yelling "You're not grateful. You always give me shite." Same stuff, and not possible to hold a conversation with. Gotten to the point I don't engage, I just ignore it and go somewhere else.

So that may be a reason to stop.