re: Do you keep the ashes of your loved ones in the house, or do you spread them somewhere?

MIL is on a closet shelf, next to a dog's ashes... Not kidding.

My dad was cremated. We each kept a small portion of his ashes. The majority we scattered at Castor Creek up in N La. It was his request.

my sister had my parents for a couple of years now my brother has them...have no idea what he's going to do with them!

My stepson passed away in 2008. He was cremated & the majority of his ashes are at our house. My wife insists that she will be buried with his ashes but I talked her into spreading them in a few places.

In 2014 my wife & I brought a small bag of his ashes to Miami Florida. We spread them in Biscayne Bay while we were attending Ultra Music Festival. In 2015 we went back & spread another small bag in the Atlantic Ocean on South Beach. In 2016 we went to Las Vegas & put him in the fountain @ the Bellagio. This year I went to California to visit a friend who lives in the emerald triangle. He took me up a mountain to a creek that was probably the most beautiful thing I had ever seen. I left a small piece of him there too.

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My dad wants to be put into shotgun shells and shot off at the duck lease

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My barber's dad died about this time last year. He was cremated and my barber used (or will use) some of the ashes when he makes up bullets for deer season. That way his dad can go hunting with him one more time.

My mother-in-law had my father-in-law's ashes at home for a while, but it got to be too much to see them all the time, so they are in an urn in a niche vault at a local cemetery. When MIL dies, we will put his urn in the casket with her and bury them together.

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Still not clear on what a cenotaph is

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Cenotaphs are memorial structures without a body interred within it.

Here’s a picture I took 12 months ago of Luyten’s perfect work in London, dedicated on 11 November 1920 by George V.



I stay in a nearby hotel to it and visit it early in the morning to have it to myself.

Very moving.

I have a small amount of ashes of one of my brothers in arms that sits on a table in front of his picture.

It is a hard thing.

Godspeed.