re: Do you allow your kids to have screens in their rooms?

No he’s not lying to you. Boys seem a little less social than girls so the boys are a couple years behind. But parents will be all proud saying my 13-year-old doesn’t have an iPhone, but spends six hours a day till 2 AM playing call of duty online with his friends. It’s some strange anomaly that parents will let kids have iPads, but not iPhones, I guess it comes down to money, and a monthly charge.

Yeah?

Well I bury my kids up to their neck and then sprinkle bird feed on their head and see if they can last through the night.

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You are so broken as a parent.

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It really is enlightening to discover the mindset of these people. A 6 year old having to regulate themselves off a screen at 8:45pm when they feel tired and that person thinks that's healthy parenting.

Some saying 15 year old girls are going to get exposed to the world anyway, so might as well give them unfettered access to gore, pornography, bullying, scams, and sexual harassment. Not to mention the envy, social comparisons, and misrepresentations of what people really are that dominates the internet and social media.

Or the idea that not allowing kids to doom scroll on apps designed to steal your attention span and overwhelm your dopamine system means you're leading them to be as "boring as cardboard."

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screens in their rooms

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If the screen is in the room and not on the window, then the kid is likely
sneaking out of the window

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We have one entertainment screen in our house, and that’s the living room TV. Bah, humbug.

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Bah, humbug is right.

75” in living room. 65” in garage, primary and sunroom. 55” in daughter’s bedroom. 42” in office. Trying to score a 115” for sunroom. Actually have another 55” in a box for my daughter when she moves out.

Read the coddling of the American mind and the anxious generation by Jonathon Haidt.

These screens are wreaking havoc on our kids and are damaging their brains long term. Such a big problem.

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SNES used to force kids to be in the same room to play together.

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I had a PlayStation, a PlayStation 2, and an Xbox 360 in my room through my childhood and melted nerds on call of duty and halo. I also played football, baseball, tennis, basketball, rode bikes in the neighborhood, etc, etc.

It’s 2025, your kid is eventually going to have a phone and be online. Completely denying him of that at 13 is going to make him a total weirdo amongst his peers in short order and give him no context of how to use these devises responsibly when he’s old enough to make his own decisions.

Are a ton of kids addicted to screens and is that a bad thing? Of course. But it’s the responsibility of parents to teach kids how to use those things, not totally deny them of what will eventually be inevitable in their daily life soon enough.

Not all but many of the trends in modern parenting are honestly hilarious. People seem to try way too hard and do way too much thinking it’s helping development.

How bout just focus on teaching your children manners and how to be good people? Harping on very early bed times, screen time and gluten free meals are such a ridiculous waste of time. Let your kids be kids man.

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Read the coddling of the American mind and the anxious generation by Jonathon Haidt. These screens are wreaking havoc on our kids and are damaging their brains long term. Such a big problem.

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Love his stuff. He’s actually the person who made me start to think about the opportunity cost of using smart phones. I think he calls them experience blockers, and he’s right. I used to just think if I could moderate the content on the devices, then that was good enough. But it’s not good enough because those devices and apps are designed to be so addictive that the kids will just sit there and use them at the expense of going out and exploring the real world. Kids develop fewer and fewer real world skills, which obviously makes them anxious.