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re: Divorce Prep
Posted on 9/11/25 at 1:24 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
Posted on 9/11/25 at 1:24 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
Gather witnesses and evidence. File first.
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Posted on 9/11/25 at 1:27 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
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What's a good plan of action or any prep I can take?
Divorce prep pretty much the same as colonoscopy prep. Prepare thy anus for being “cleaned out”.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 1:30 pm to W2NOMO
What advantage do you gain by doing this?
Posted on 9/11/25 at 1:31 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
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What advantage do you gain by doing this?
Puts you in more of a drivers seat position and less reactive to her lawyers. And she may have a different narrative that she might go with.
This post was edited on 9/11/25 at 1:32 pm
Posted on 9/11/25 at 1:35 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
Get on the offense. A man's instincts are to play nice in these situations. Women don't think like that.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 1:42 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
recognizing it makes it real, but also starts the healing. First find an attorney, not for C/S, but at least the custody part. Document the time together with the kids i/e had them on Saturday Sept 13th went to the zoo. Once the attorney is paid for, get a financial advisor and have them sign an NDA, provided by the attorney. now don't make a move without consulting with either or both. Usually they will advise that trivial expenditures are of no threat and at your discretion, but replacing tires etc, can cause an impact. My divorce was easy, we had agreed to certain things that my attorney made iron clad.it was against his wishes, but understood. Unfortunately Guys have to fight upward to get 50/50 custody. Attacking character does more harm than good, instead establish patterns and history to show that you are active in your kids life.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 1:46 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
Probably the only real advantage I can think of filing first is that will be the date timestamp in the courts. You can use that date for splitting assets and such. If you file today that is the date income, equity, ect go on file as.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 1:54 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
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My wife is there for them during the day.
Is she "there for them" or just physically present? I thought mine was taking care of them, but she just slept on the couch and let the kids run wild.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 2:14 pm to profdillweed
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Watch credit card purchases.
It's still community debt until the judge signs the divorce papers, which, since he has young kids in Louisiana will take 365 days
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Get all balances recorded. Make sure 401ks etc monitored.
Still, community property
Those are both community property, but if OP can show a pattern of her squireling away cash and running up debt out of the ordinary and for personal use; would that be beneficial when dividing up the assets?
Posted on 9/11/25 at 2:34 pm to profdillweed
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Set her up for an alcohol related arrest
Thats cold blooded
Some women can be very cold hearted.
What would happen if he got her family to show up when she was shitfaced, and they staged an intervention about her drinking? She'd probably just get mad, but if she went through with the divorce without entering rehab...
(not an attorney, just wondering)
This post was edited on 9/11/25 at 2:35 pm
Posted on 9/11/25 at 2:49 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
my advice it to file...get that on the record. my experiences with "trying to work it out" only makes more debt community. If you file, everything from that point forward is on you and her, separately.
Good luck. It sucks and will suck for a while. Once your new normal sets in, you can sleep well knowing you're not living with and alcoholic crazy bitch. Then find a girlfriend(s)
Good luck. It sucks and will suck for a while. Once your new normal sets in, you can sleep well knowing you're not living with and alcoholic crazy bitch. Then find a girlfriend(s)
Posted on 9/11/25 at 2:58 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
Get a pocket recorder. Louisiana is a one party State. Record all conversations including telephone. Your Iphone won’t voice record and telephone at the same time. Put phone on speaker.
Recorder
Recorder
Posted on 9/11/25 at 3:03 pm to Weekend Warrior79
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It's still community debt until the judge signs the divorce papers
Incorrect. Community property regime is terminated retroactively to the date of the filing of the petition.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 3:07 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
I saw somewhere you said you don’t think she is cheating because “she really let herself go”. That’s not a problem for women, somewhere there are 10 guys who would smash it no matter her looks. Women don’t usually leave without someone else lined up.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 3:12 pm to LemmyLives
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can tell you're probably inflating her drinking (5 White Claws in 60 minutes?)
Here's a pic from the other night, had to edit it to remove some visible info. It's from a video of me going through the trash.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 3:13 pm to Cage Fighter Trainee
quote:get a shovel and dig a hole in the back yard
Divorce Prep
Posted on 9/11/25 at 3:15 pm to Weekend Warrior79
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It's still community debt until the judge signs the divorce papers, which, since he has young kids in Louisiana will take 365 days
This is not true. Community property ends the day the separation begins. If community property was still shared until the divorce is final, what would be stopping one party from running up massive debt "together"? Or from just stealing all cash and assets for themselves?
For example: The amount I had to pay my ex wife from my 401k was half of everything accrued from the day of the marriage through the day of the separation. It was NOT the day the divorce was filed, much less the day it was finalized.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 3:23 pm to blueboxer1119
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I’d personally start moving money. Take out shitloads of cash and just tell her you lost it in a casino.
Good Idea on paper but dont kid yourself…. The wife will always get compensated… the judge will see to that. I know.
Also I’m sorry that happened to you.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 3:24 pm to Dicky
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his is not true. Community property ends the day the separation begins. If community property was still shared until the divorce is final, what would be stopping one party from running up massive debt "together"? Or from just stealing all cash and assets for themselves?
For example: The amount I had to pay my ex wife from my 401k was half of everything accrued from the day of the marriage through the day of the separation. It was NOT the day the divorce was filed, much less the day it was finalized.
Depends on what you determine as community property.....the house and the mortgage is still owned by both parties until the house sells and then both parties spilt the profit equally as well as both parties are still responsible for paying the mortgage.....the separation and payback comes after the divorce is final
The parties can agree or disagree on who gets the house and what expenses are paid by who....thats on a case to case basis,
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