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re: Divorce Attorney Advice
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:01 pm to Beaued up
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:01 pm to Beaued up
Ex wife and I did everything out of court with no attorneys. We wanted it as easy as possible for the kids and we still get along well as friends and coparents. We just weren’t the best married couple. Basically paid the cost to file the paperwork and then split everything as equal as possible but neither of us were looking to screw the other over either.
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Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:12 pm to Riverside
I’m not in the loop, who is this lawyer? The woke TDS lawyer who files so many divorces in Louisiana? I’m curious.
This post was edited on 6/4/25 at 4:17 pm
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:16 pm to TheBoogeyman
From what I know, thats rare AF.
At least you know she's a good mom and you're a good dad.
At least you know she's a good mom and you're a good dad.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:21 pm to TheBoogeyman
quote:pretty much my experience. Wouldn’t go so far to say friends, but co parenting was easy.
Ex wife and I did everything out of court with no attorneys. We wanted it as easy as possible for the kids and we still get along well as friends and coparents. We just weren’t the best married couple. Basically paid the cost to file the paperwork and then split everything as equal as possible but neither of us were looking to screw the other over either.
Divorce doesn’t have to be petty and messy. But it will be penal and set you back
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:24 pm to N2cars
Definitely rare. She’s remarried and I get along with the new husband as well and we spend some holidays together so the kids don’t have to split time. If people don’t act like assholes and remember that the best thing is to cooperate for the benefit of the kids then it’s not hard to be civil and make it work. Yeah there’s somethings that I wish we did differently and I’m sure she feels the same but it’s all minor and much easier to not fight about those things.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:27 pm to Beaued up
You cant expect it to be easy. The minute you do, she has an attorney that will straight play dirty and blow your mind in depositions and if/when you gotta go to court. Of kids are involved, youll have to get you a good lawyer to keep it fair for everyone involved.
Just a little tip and because I was in your shoes years ago and also learned the hard way, do not trust a dam thing she says. Be prepared for her to come out with anything that has happened in the past because they WILL come out with it when you least expect it. I know it sucks to be where you are brother at this point. Just remember , in the future you will realize it was for the best and youll get back on the saddle again.
Here is my serious advice. Get you a "female attorney" who is a shark that doesn't take any shite. She will scare tf out of her and get her attorney to play fair. If you dont , trust me they will smell blood in the water and her attorney will convince her to go for blood. Just saying.
Do NOT share an attorney unless said attorney is your friend and she agrees. Good luck.
Just a little tip and because I was in your shoes years ago and also learned the hard way, do not trust a dam thing she says. Be prepared for her to come out with anything that has happened in the past because they WILL come out with it when you least expect it. I know it sucks to be where you are brother at this point. Just remember , in the future you will realize it was for the best and youll get back on the saddle again.
Here is my serious advice. Get you a "female attorney" who is a shark that doesn't take any shite. She will scare tf out of her and get her attorney to play fair. If you dont , trust me they will smell blood in the water and her attorney will convince her to go for blood. Just saying.
Do NOT share an attorney unless said attorney is your friend and she agrees. Good luck.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:37 pm to saintsfan1977
quote:...at her place of employment if she has a job.
Serve her the paperwork first
Posted on 6/4/25 at 4:42 pm to Beaued up
Get your own attorney. Teresa Hatfield is great. Good luck
Posted on 6/4/25 at 5:09 pm to Tiger Prawn
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OP said in another post that he found out she was having an affair and then after trying to work through it, she's blaming everything on him. If you're both using the same lawyer in a divorce / custody case, there needs to be a level of trust between all parties involved and there's no way OP should trust her right now. He needs his own lawyer to look out for his best interests.
mine was not so different. She never pulled an old switcheroo while when we signed the papers. We both agreed on the terms of custody and splitting of assets. Maybe i just "got lucky"?
Posted on 6/4/25 at 5:09 pm to Beaued up
Miranda Mumphery in Gonzales is pretty good. Give her a call
Posted on 6/4/25 at 5:22 pm to SneezyBeltranIsHere
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Get your own attorney. She will go back on everything she has agreed on up to now - bank on it. This will get ugly. Be ready for this.
Not all woman are complete bitches, FWIW.
To the OP, I would not use the same attorney. If you truly have an agreed upon schedule and think she will stick to it just let her file, pay the attorney fee and then you pay another attorney a few hundred bucks for a document review and yall never step foot in a court room and its smooth sailing. However both people have to hold up their end of the bargain to not be assholes. It can be done, my ex and I did it this way.
Keep in mind, if there is a chance things don't stay civil you'll want to file first so your attorney can pick the judge. Most lean heavily towards the mom, so want to stay away from those if you're wanting 50/50 and think she will back down on that.
This post was edited on 6/4/25 at 5:23 pm
Posted on 6/4/25 at 5:29 pm to Beaued up
Try to go the route of no attorneys if at all possible.
Family court is an endless grift.
Family court is an endless grift.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 5:52 pm to Soft_Parade
Can’t do this. I made her promise me she wouldn’t embarrass me with papers at my job. I can’t turn around and do the same.
One problem is there are a lot of assets. We each have a job and own businesses on the side.
One problem is there are a lot of assets. We each have a job and own businesses on the side.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 6:05 pm to Beaued up
quote:
I’ve tried everything to avoid it but it’s coming.
100% she's banging someone else. No woman doesn't give effort if no one else is in the picture.
Sorry, but realizing this now will help you make necessary moves. It's iver...don't go easy hoping
Posted on 6/4/25 at 6:19 pm to Beaued up
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Have two young kids involved but we have agreed on a custody schedule.
Do not believe this for one second. There's much more to custody.
Vacations, holidays, summer schedule, etc.
I've been down this road before, do not believe a single word she tells you because when she sits down with her lawyer, they will amp her up about all the things she's entitled to and then it's battle royale.
I'll send lawyer recs if needed from EBR and who to stay away from. Good lawyers are good in court and with the 4 EBR judges, you will need one.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 6:24 pm to Riverside
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Luckily we have Louisiana’s premier strip mall divorce attorney. While he’s not filing 103 divorces, he’s spewing leftist conspiracy theories and coping with severe TDS. He’s the one you want to hire.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 7:13 pm to Beaued up
Come out the gate offering way more than she deserves, but if she rejects the offer you are coming for way more than you deserve. You will save money by not dragging it out. My parents were milked for 18 months. Just when they were about to settle, the lawyer found out about another opportunity from a lawsuit that was settled in dad’s favor. It went on for another six months.
They both wound up much worse than if they settled in the beginning and gave more than they should have.
They both wound up much worse than if they settled in the beginning and gave more than they should have.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 7:13 pm to idlewatcher
I’m know a guy who was getting a divorce and not only was he paying for his own attorney, but he was paying for her separate attorney as well.
Go figure that one out.
Go figure that one out.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 8:07 pm to EZE Tiger Fan
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Correct, and chances are very good she has a friend that has been divorced helping her every step of the way....
Or her good friend whose shoulder she’s been crying on, telling her what a bastard you are, is a lawyer giving her advice on how to get ahead of the game.
Posted on 6/4/25 at 9:39 pm to boxcarbarney
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I worked with a guy who got divorced and they used the same attorney. Dude basically signed over all his worldly possessions including his dog. He now lives in a one bedroom apartment. We tried to talk him out of it and get his own attorney, but the divorce came out of nowhere and he was too distraught to really care.
I knew a couple in Baton Rouge and it went down exactly like this. I felt really bad for the dude because she broke him. Out of curiosity, was this in BR and was the wife an attorney?
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