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re: Dinner Host Asking for Money when you are Leaving
Posted on 12/9/20 at 8:44 pm to Skippy1013
Posted on 12/9/20 at 8:44 pm to Skippy1013
Having to never go to your brother in laws house again for only $30 sounds like a great deal to me
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Posted on 12/9/20 at 8:58 pm to Skippy1013
Tell him to pound sand he invited you, you were a guest. You don’t tell guest to pay after and not ahead of it like “ hey we will host thanksgiving for everyone I would ask just chip in 20-30 bucks and we will take care of everything.” What a trashy arse frick
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:00 pm to Skippy1013
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go to brother in law and sister in laws house,
WTF, are your brother and sister in an open marriage where their spouses, your in-laws, live together?
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:02 pm to Skippy1013
I’d have asked him in front of the whole family how much it cost, paid it and called him a cheap arse in front of the whole family. People like that should be embarrassed.
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:11 pm to Skippy1013
This should have been handled better than what you experienced.
I know very well of a situation where a family (and extended family) loves to get together during the holidays and it is about the only time they all get together. The one family member with a place big enough to host the party (25-30 people) has hosted if for years. About 10 years ago they rightfully decided to stop feeding everybody out of their pocket and started asking people to bring things. Most everybody cooperated but one particular sister in law never brought any thing. This past year the host told the lady "I know you must be busy because you never have time to bring anything to the family get together. I will be glad to help you out and do the shopping and the preparation if you can send over $50." The SIL never paid and still showed up---the crazy thing it is only her and her husband. No kids to chase. You would think they could make time to fix something to bring.
The host told me next year he is going to forget to ask them to come.
I know very well of a situation where a family (and extended family) loves to get together during the holidays and it is about the only time they all get together. The one family member with a place big enough to host the party (25-30 people) has hosted if for years. About 10 years ago they rightfully decided to stop feeding everybody out of their pocket and started asking people to bring things. Most everybody cooperated but one particular sister in law never brought any thing. This past year the host told the lady "I know you must be busy because you never have time to bring anything to the family get together. I will be glad to help you out and do the shopping and the preparation if you can send over $50." The SIL never paid and still showed up---the crazy thing it is only her and her husband. No kids to chase. You would think they could make time to fix something to bring.
The host told me next year he is going to forget to ask them to come.
This post was edited on 12/9/20 at 9:12 pm
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:13 pm to Hogwarts
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f he was the one who provided everything, it’s tacky but understandable
Not of it wasn’t discussed beforehand
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:16 pm to bird35
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maybe a 200 dinner hurts them
As someone said earlier, don’t host a party you can’t afford
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:30 pm to Skippy1013
Well..cough, cough...........but I've been meaning to tell yall but I charge $10 to everyone who reads my posts. Please send via Mr Chicken. Please also pay me back pay for any others you may have read.
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:30 pm to Skippy1013
We split cost for 23 of us with the host family, but we know about it up front. Hitting you up as you’re leaving is a dik move.
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:35 pm to Skippy1013
I would ask for an itemized list of his expenses and then make him show me how he came up with me eating $30 worth of food.
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:41 pm to Skippy1013
Expectations are a tricky thing. If you're talking about a Thanksgiving meal he was probably out of line. Maybe he's employed, but the food bill was bigger than he estimated, and he was worried about Christmass gifts. Some full-time jobs barely cover living expenses, but if that's the case he was in no position to be inviting anyone over. It's hard to justify it in any scenario, really.
If this is analogy for Coach O's staff this season, I'm not sure if the $30 represents the buyout or some secret promise to get a new DC. The lack of cupcakes made this seem far worse than 2008, but it really has not been. Now COVID sucks and that made a big difference with the schedule, but that ain't Coach O's fault, and I don't think that's part of your analogy even if that is the case.
If this is analogy for Coach O's staff this season, I'm not sure if the $30 represents the buyout or some secret promise to get a new DC. The lack of cupcakes made this seem far worse than 2008, but it really has not been. Now COVID sucks and that made a big difference with the schedule, but that ain't Coach O's fault, and I don't think that's part of your analogy even if that is the case.
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:43 pm to MONROE
I would be doing very well if I charged $30/couple for every event I hosted. My friends and families all know if you are invited you ask if you could bring anything.
And if they say no per etiquette you bring a gift that is NOT expected to be part of that event. It is for the host to keep so as to not derail any theme they may have or inconvenience them. Sometimes they may choose to serve a bottle of wine or dessert you brought but you should never mention or expect it to be served. (My family is fancy af look it up
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And if they say no per etiquette you bring a gift that is NOT expected to be part of that event. It is for the host to keep so as to not derail any theme they may have or inconvenience them. Sometimes they may choose to serve a bottle of wine or dessert you brought but you should never mention or expect it to be served. (My family is fancy af look it up
)This post was edited on 12/9/20 at 9:47 pm
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:45 pm to Skippy1013
If I went to a relative's house and they provided every meal and course of the day, I'd probably offer to help before they asked.
I've never been to a family gathering like that where people didn't bring their own contribution to the meal, though.
I've never been to a family gathering like that where people didn't bring their own contribution to the meal, though.
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:46 pm to Skippy1013
Who the hell has $30 cash on them? Why not 20 or if he really wanted to be a dickbag, 40.
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:50 pm to WigSplitta22
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You invite people over then you foot the bill
We have some neighbors who have kids that play with ours. We host parties a shitload and we throw out huge spreads, and I’ve never asked anyone for a penny.
When this nutsack, who is a lawyer with a wife that is in a high powered healthcare job, hosts neighbors, he puts out trash food and asks people to kick in but I tell him I’d rather bring my own food.
To boot, there is never enough food. They’ll order $5 pizzas from some dump like Pizza Hut for a dozen adults and get enough for eight. They’ll ration a salad kit instead of mixing the entire thing at once so none is wasted. Pathetic social awareness.
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:52 pm to Skippy1013
It's tacky and shows an extreme lack of class.
Posted on 12/9/20 at 9:59 pm to Skippy1013
It's pure trashy move but where we are as a society. So many people want the credit for being benevolent while doing it on other people's dime. If you don't have the money to host Thanksgiving then don't host it. Next time offer to bring the pies and make a couple of nice pies, then before you leave give him a bill for $50 for the pies.
And of course never go back to any of their parties or events.
And of course never go back to any of their parties or events.
Posted on 12/9/20 at 10:03 pm to drdoct
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Next time offer to bring the pies and make a couple of nice pies, then before you leave give him a bill for $50 for the pies.
This move would be just as trashy.
I love reading threads like this.
Posted on 12/9/20 at 10:06 pm to Skippy1013
I’ll take “things that didn’t happen for $30 Alex”
Posted on 12/9/20 at 10:08 pm to Skippy1013
This is like someone offering to buy you a shot at a bar and you oblige, and then they ask you to put for the shot after the fact...
My 2 cents is that the host wouldnt be as much in the wrong if they asked beforehand TECHNICALLY. It’s stupid to ask after the fact... A simple, “if you guy wouldnt mind throwing in $30 for this to be awesome, it would be great; however, if that isnt possible, we understand.”
Id rather be asked beforehand and wouldnt mind personally. Dont ask on the way out...
My 2 cents is that the host wouldnt be as much in the wrong if they asked beforehand TECHNICALLY. It’s stupid to ask after the fact... A simple, “if you guy wouldnt mind throwing in $30 for this to be awesome, it would be great; however, if that isnt possible, we understand.”
Id rather be asked beforehand and wouldnt mind personally. Dont ask on the way out...
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